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Dianna - posted on 08/26/2009

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All I can say is "YOU CAN DO IT!!!!" That's how I was and I did and I am so happy i did...I can tell you though, I wouldn't have been able to do it without hypnobirthing. I thought it sounded crazy when I first saw it. I pictured someone swinging a clock in front of my face, but it not like that at all...It's more of relaxation. It was the most empowering thing I have ever expirienced. I did hours of research b/c I thought it was ridiculous, but I couldn't find ONE bad thing about it. so I took the class and it filled me with confidence and priceless knowledge. I highly recomend going to one of the classes. I'm going to post my favorite hypnobirthing story, it's what made me go throught with the classes...good luck



"Ethan (as written by his mommy, Joy R.)



Heather and Jan,



I can't believe it has been seven months since Ethan's birth, and I am just now getting around to writing you guys! Words cannot express how grateful we are to you both! We miss seeing you! :)



We had an absolutely amazing birth experience, and we would like to share it with you. Although Ethan is our fourth son, his birth was unlike any other I have known. Before Ethan's birth, we had had three hospital deliveries, three inductions, artificial rupturing of the membranes, pitocin, epidurals, tearing, stiches, and "you name it!" Although I had never really considered any of our sons' births to be dissatisfying, after delivering Ethan, words cannot explain the joy of giving birth!



I had little idea of what to expect, being that I had never really gone into labor on my own. On December 8th, around 7:00 p.m., I told my sister that I was feeling a bit "crampy." Although she probably could have told me I was in the early stages of labor, I was absolutely not ready to admit that to anyone...not even my husband, Brad. I was sure that I would wake up the next morning just one more day pregnant! Around 9:00 p.m. that night, Brad and I were making nachos after getting the kiddos to bed. I casually mentioned that this "might" be "THE night." Brad's eyes popped like I was telling him for the first time that we were going to have another baby! :) Disbelief turned into, "Should I call my mom? What should we do?..." As we sat down to eat, the first clue that I might actually be beginning to believe that this "might" be the day was when I hesitated on eating all those jalapenos!



About 10:15 p.m., as we were watching the news, I secretly decided to time a couple of the "might be surges..." ten minutes apart, six minutes, seven minutes, twelve minutes, ten minutes. Hmmm. Maybe this was not "it" after all. Good thing I hadn't told anyone. About that time I talked to my sister again. I told her what was going on, and she urged me to call Laurie, our midwife. I really did not want to at that point, but she convinced me by telling me I should just let her know what was going on. I rang Laurie and woke her up. I felt terrible! I explained that this may or may not be "it," and I may wake up in the morning with no surges at all. She said she understood and to call her when the surges were stronger or closer together.



I then decided to practice my Rainbow Relaxation while Brad worked on his school work. About midnight, I asked Brad if maybe we should time a couple to get an idea of what was going on. My dear husband brings his laptop over and starts attempting to set up a spreadsheet to time the surges. I am totally confused because some of the surges are large enough to fill a hot air balloon while others are only small birthday party balloons! Should I count the birthday balloons or only the hot air balloons? Brad is still trying to figure out the spreadsheet. I decide to tell Brad to try and get some sleep. He is snoring in what seems like two seconds. I put Rainbow Relaxation on again. I never went to sleep but there was some time distortion.



The next thing I know it is 2:20 a.m. on December 9th. O.k., this is "IT!" I decide to walk around for a few and make "sure." I am really Ok. I am totally relaxed. When I start to feel a surge, I close my eyes, pick out the color of my balloon and start to inflate it until the surge starts to diminish. As I start to exhale, I imagine tying the balloon, popping the knot, and sending it off into the sky. I walk back into our room and decide it is time to wake Brad. He seems disoriented at first until I shout, "Brad! Wake up! Call Laurie!"



Brad rings Laurie. I know she is asking if I can talk to her. I am walking down the hallway thinking, "Well, of course I can talk to her, but I would rather keep walking. I think to myself, "If I can still talk to Laurie, I must have hours left to go!" Brad gets off the phone, and I suddenly want him to clean and fill the tub. "Please hurry!" It was just all of a sudden that I wanted in...now! He seems to be lightening fast. I walk into the bathroom, and, for the first time, I just stand there, not able to move. I don't know if I will be able to get into the tub. Then, I just seemed to will myself to climb in. Ahhh...the water was warm! The next thing I know, I started making a low moaning noise. I remember talking about this noise during one of our HypnoBirthing® classes, and I am, in my mind, totally laughing at myself! I cannot believe that I am making that noise! This is hillarious! When I stop, I realize that Brad has been scooping the warm water over my belly. That is great! I then ask him, "Is the camera charged?" I still don't believe that we are having a baby today. I start moaning again, and I start laughing to myself again, and Brad starts scooping again. After I am finished making noise, I feel the urgency to ask Brad, "How far is Laurie? Is the door unlocked?" (I still thought we had hours to go.) Brad goes to unlock the door, and I start groaning again. I cannot believe how goofy I sound; I cannot believe that I cannot prevent this noise. "BRAD! The baby is coming!!!!!!! Call Laurie!" I reach down, and, in my make believe world, I hope that I am feeling my bag of waters. Umm....no. That is the baby's head. I had scanned over the emergency birth article just that evening. It started to burn just a little; I blew. Ok. Fine. I placed my palm on the head and applied counter pressure. The head was out. I felt for a cord around the neck. I didn't feel anything and good thing because our baby was then out, floating in the water. I heard Brad say, "The baby is out!" Brad told me to pick him up. I held him close. I ran my finger down the outside of his nasal passages. He finally cried. Brad was still on the phone with Laurie. Luckily, the water was warm. We wrapped towels around Ethan and decided to wait for Laurie. It was a good ten minutes before Brad even suggested we should check and make sure he really was a "he." Laurie arrived soon thereafter. She took great care of us.



I cannot believe how easy, empowering, wonderful, and amazing Ethan's birth was! My only regret is that we did not have time to video tape our experience. I want to shout out from the rooftops what a great experience we had! Going from a totally medically induced and stressful birth to a relaxed, natural, and empowering birth is an experience I am so grateful to have been allowed to have. This is the way God meant for us to birth our children. Thank you, God! Thank you, Heather and Jan!



Love,



Joy and Brad R*****"

Molly - posted on 05/06/2009

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Quoting Carla:

I'm at 29 weeks with my first and am totally planning to go this route too. I figure - women have been doing it since the beginning of time - if they can handle it, I can too. It seems like a lot of the issue is a matter of mindset. My worry is just that my birthing classes won't equip me as well as I would like, and will cater more to the norm - those who plan to utilize pain coping methods. At this point I'm just trying to learn as much as I can so that I can be prepared. We'll see how it goes! :)


If you haven't already signed up for a birth class (or even if you have, you can always change your mind), look into Hypnobirthing classes. Thats what I used and its incredible. Or if you can't find classes, just buy a Hypnobirthing book. I used the Mongan Method. I took classes with my midwife and got the book, which comes with a CD which has some visualization exercises and soothing music. I had a homebirth, but it could be argued that Hypnobirthing is even more useful in a hospital setting, because theres more potential for stress in hospital.



Most conventional birth classes DO put an emphasis on pain management, as well as tell you all about everything that could go wrong. Hypnobirthing focuses much more on normal birth and trusting your body.

Molly - posted on 03/31/2009

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Karrie, I also wanted to say something about your other birth experiences... The pitocin actually makes contractions more painful, and many women who receive pitocin feel that they need pain drugs because its just unbearable. Pitocin also increases your risk of a c-section because, if the baby wasnt ready to be born just yet and labor didnt start "soon enough", you would be labelled "failure to progress" and be talked/coerced/scared into a c-section. Often women who have ruptured their membranes are talked into pitocin to speed everything up, and are frightened by the doctors into thinking that there is this artificial timeline that if the baby isnt born within 24 hours of rupture of membranes then they WILL get an infection, and everyone will get sick and die. This is not true of course, and at home and even with midwives in the hospital, they follow a different protocol for prolonged rupture of membranes which says that you watch for signs of infection, dont put anything in the vagina (even fingers to check progress), makes sure you and the baby are doing well, and some even pump you full of vitamin C to help fend off infection. But barring any obvious signs of infection, theres no need to induce labor.

Katrina - posted on 01/14/2009

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All 4 of my children were born naturally at home and it was an awesome experience!  Educating your self is the best thing you can do.  Read lots of natural birth stories and picture that being you.  Read books about natural birth and prepare your birth partner for it too. It is sooo worth it.  Doing it in a birth center is great too and they do have good tubs like some of the others were saying.  My BF just had her baby in a birht center and it was awesome.  Go to all your prenatals and be confident- God made you to have babies and your body knows what to do.  I am very interested in Natural birth and glad to see so many interested too!

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Amber - posted on 06/01/2011

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natural birthing is amazing and so wonderful. i have been a midwife for 2yrs and had my 2nd child at home.

Tanya - posted on 05/16/2011

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My first birth was a high-intervention induction that ended with an epidural after 47 hours and a vacuum-assisted delivery.

Fortunately, my second birth was MUCH different. I was augmented for a low BPP score, but I was already in early labour and my cervix had already made changes. I had AROM and some pitocin, but once I hit 5-6 cm, my body just took off and after an hour of very hard transition, I started pushing! I pushed all on my own, no "purple pushing" like the first time. At the very end, I had to actively push due to a very low heart rate, which resulted in a 2nd degree tear, but I didn't even feel it! It was an exhilarating experience and I would gladly do it over!

My recoveries could not have been more different. With my first, I didn't tear, but I could barely sit for 2 weeks. I was taking painkillers for at least the first week. With my second, I left the hospital after 10 hours (one of the perks of having midwives!) and took 1 Tylenol when I got home!

Chelsea - posted on 04/02/2011

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I am planning my second pain free but first intervention free birth im due at the end of may with my second little girl. My first labor was planned to happen at a hospital but as a natural birth but i ended up needing an induction because of low amniotic fluid levels. Because of the induction and the IV line and the Being placed on the table and told how to birth i dont consider it a natural birth, however i did do it without any pain management other then the bath tub and delivered after 18 hours.

This time we are doing things very differently and we are going to a free standing Birth Center were no pain management is even available just the support of 3 great midwives and my family. I will not be induced or given an Iv i can birth anywhere i feel i want at the moment my plan is a water birth. I believe that natural child birth is amazing, it is a right of passage that only other mothers who have done it get to experience, and im told that the empowerment from doing it your self will last your whole life and create a bond with your baby stronger then any other type of birth. I cant wait to feel all of that when i have my daughter in the way i want and not he way a doctor wants to tell me.

A great movie to watch is the Business of being born (net flix has it streaming online and if you don't have it you can do a free trial)

JC - posted on 07/11/2009

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I did it natural and i'm going to do it again. The only real advise i have is just breath, focus on your baby being born and push.

Elisi - posted on 05/10/2009

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I am a first time mom and my daughter just turned 4 months old today. I went into labor early on a Thursday morning and she was finally born Saturday morning. I intended to have a home birth using a midwife. After 48 hours at home in and out of the birthing tub. The baby was posterior and I had an anterior lip on my cervix that wouldn't go down, so as hard as I pushed her head wouldn't stay in the birth canal. At hour 48 my midwife said enough and it was time to go to the hospital, which was a little over a half an hour away. We all piled into my parent's van (thank god for all my helpers!) and off to the hospital we went. Upon my arrival, I was fully expecting to be told I would be getting a c-section, which I really didn't want. I was very fortunate to have my midwife there with me at the hospital as a support person. I told the OB that I wanted c-section to be the absolute last resort. She was very skeptical that we would be able to do it "my way", but I was persistent and other than a very low drip of pitocin to help get my contractions a little stronger I was able to deliver without any pain meds. I would have preferred to do it at home with no drugs at all, but I guess it wasn't in the cards for me.

I promise if I could go through all of that, you can do it too. I just knew from the very beginning, I was going to do it naturally without pain killers or epidural and I told myself that it wasn't an option. I knew that if there was a doubt in my mind, I might be tempted to do it, which I really didn't want. Whatever you decide just make sure that the people around you know and support your decisions ahead of time. I made sure that my husband (who admitted that he would have given in if I asked) and my mom ( who I knew would keep me strong) knew that even if I asked for it in the heat of the moment, I really didn't want drugs.

Sorry this was so long, but like I said, if I could do it after all I went through, you can do it too. And trust me, it is so worth it! Good luck!

Carla - posted on 05/05/2009

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I'm at 29 weeks with my first and am totally planning to go this route too. I figure - women have been doing it since the beginning of time - if they can handle it, I can too. It seems like a lot of the issue is a matter of mindset. My worry is just that my birthing classes won't equip me as well as I would like, and will cater more to the norm - those who plan to utilize pain coping methods. At this point I'm just trying to learn as much as I can so that I can be prepared. We'll see how it goes! :)

Karrie - posted on 04/01/2009

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Thank you Molly, I was part of an ICAN group before we moved so I knew about the link of pitocin-epidural-c-section. I count my lucky stars that I didn't even come close to needing a c-section, I was lucky the epidural actually speed up my dialation but that doesn't mean I don't regret the decision to go ahead with it but you did make me feel better about caving,



 I had also heard some about the rupture of the membranes and the lies the hospitals tell you although I didn't know the vitamin C part!! When I was a member of ICAN we watched the buisness of being born, I also recently found Ina May's guide To Childbirth at a thrift store for like 50 cents so I am excited to dive into that!!! 



I hate the way hospitlas treat you like it's not your body during delivery and after delivery like it's not your Baby ( I especially hate that part!)

Karrie - posted on 04/01/2009

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Thank you Molly, I was part of an ICAN group before we moved so I knew about the link of pitocin-epidural-c-section. I count my lucky stars that I didn't even come close to needing a c-section, I was lucky the epidural actually speed up my dialation but that doesn't mean I don't regret the decision to go ahead with it but you did make me feel better about caving,



 I had also heard some about the rupture of the membranes and the lies the hospitals tell you although I didn't know the vitamin C part!! When I was a member of ICAN we watched the buisness of being born, I also recently found Ina May's guide To Childbirth at a thrift store for like 50 cents so I am excited to dive into that!!! 



I hate the way hospitlas treat you like it's not your body during delivery and after delivery like it's not your Baby ( I especially hate that part!)

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2009

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You are most definately not alone! I'm having my first homebirth in late May/early June! My first birth was in a hospital and not the intervention-free birth I wanted. I have since learned to get what I wanted I have to stay away from the hospital!

Molly - posted on 03/31/2009

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Quoting Karrie:



I have had 2 children and would love a home birth. My water broke both times and both times after arriving at the hospital received Pitocin and eventually gave in to an epidural (for diffrent reasons both times) and while the labor and delivery part were frustrating it wasn't nearly as bad as dealing with the hospital after the birth. Any info I can gather on homebirths would be great!





There are many places to start when looking for info on homebirth. If you just want general information, just type in "homebirth" into google and you will get lots of information. I know specifically about a great website www.birthingnaturally.net. If you want to find a homebirth midwife in your area, you can contact the Midwives Alliance of North America (MANA, website is http://mana.org/index.html), and they can get you in touch with a homebirth midwife in your area. Its also good to go through MANA because you know the midwife you are going to find is experienced, professional and legitimate (not to imply there are many midwife scammers or anything, lol). As far as books about homebirth, Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin is a classic. The Birthing Naturally website also has a good list of homebirth books.



Homebirth is awesome, I hope you can have a homebirth with your next baby!

Karrie - posted on 03/31/2009

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I have had 2 children and would love a home birth. My water broke both times and both times after arriving at the hospital received Pitocin and eventually gave in to an epidural (for diffrent reasons both times) and while the labor and delivery part were frustrating it wasn't nearly as bad as dealing with the hospital after the birth. Any info I can gather on homebirths would be great!

Christina - posted on 03/25/2009

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Wow! you sound like me. I have had one child and didn't go natural. I didn't have an episiotemy however i am now 24 weeks pregnant and want to go natural and once again no slicing! I am going to use a dula this birth and am hopeful! However i feel i haven't educated myself enough yet so i can be successful. This week i am getting a dula and hope she will lay to rest some of my fears!

Molly - posted on 02/19/2009

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Natural birth all the way! My son was born at home, no drugs, no interventions, surrounded by 5 midwives (3 of them apprentices), my husband and my mum. Oh and 2 cats. We did Hypnobirthing, the Mongan Method, and it was incredible.



We are trying to get pregnant again now, and although we may be unable to do another homebirth because of financial considerations, we are commited to another natural, drug-free, doula-assisted vaginal birth, in a hospital. Ive even already been researching which hospitals in my area have the lowest rates of c-sections, interventions, that sorta thing. My doula was at my first birth, in her capacity of an apprentice homebirth midwife, so I know her and trust her, and I know she will advocate for me if the hospital "med"wives try to pull anything funny...

Brie - posted on 01/26/2009

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I know this post was started awhile back...but just wanted to say hi!



I had my first child naturally, med-free, in a birth center almost 6 months ago.



I would be more than happy to answer any questions, or just be here for support :)

Shayla - posted on 01/25/2009

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You are definitely not alone. I am a natural birth mama of 4. We had two birthing center births and two home births. I loved my births so much that I become a Bradley Method natural childbirth instructor and doula. Education is empowering to expecting families. Trust me, there are a lot natural mamas out here. Be sure to surround yourself with other like-minded people. ~ The BirthDiva, www.BirthDiva.com and www.blogtalkradio.com/The-BirthDiva

Sarah - posted on 01/24/2009

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Quoting Julianna:



I don't believe in any other way. I am training to become a midwife at the moment. My mother, Meg Studer, was a midwife and I've never known any other way. I think the biggest problem is that doctors do not inform women properly about the risks of hospital procedures so that they may make an educated decision on how to birth their children.





I so agree!! It is so so important to educate yourself!! I learned so so much on the internet, books and prenatal classes-- it felt more empowering with all of that knowledge, and I went into the experience of childbirth without being afraid-- I was determined to do it natural, and it felt great to do it that way, and I would do it again, if I have another!

Julianna - posted on 01/24/2009

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I don't believe in any other way. I am training to become a midwife at the moment. My mother, Meg Studer, was a midwife and I've never known any other way. I think the biggest problem is that doctors do not inform women properly about the risks of hospital procedures so that they may make an educated decision on how to birth their children.

Melanie - posted on 01/22/2009

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Also read Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth!   Very inspirational.  Watch the Business of Being Born and Pregnant in America. 



In order to birth nauturally you HAVE to be confident in your body.  Educating yourself as much as possible snd drowning out your fears are the only way to suceed.  You can;t just say "I'm going to try"  then you leave room to give in.  You have to be strong for you and your baby.

Debbie - posted on 01/22/2009

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nonono, you shouldn't! i ony have one baby, but i went all natural (and so did all of my friends, who were such a great support system since i was terrified). it is such a great feeling when the experience is over, i can't explain it, but i felt like i had accomplished a great feat and i felt such a sense of pride in being a woman like i have never felt before. you should check out the birth book by dr. sears. excellent reference. it can be bought on his website askdrseasrs.com hope this helps!

Mellissa - posted on 01/20/2009

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I am having my first baby and going for a natural birth. Honestly I feel like I would be cheating bye getting an epidural. I hope I can handle it?

Melanie - posted on 01/18/2009

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I am a homebirthing Momma with our 4th on the way!!  It is the best ever!  It just takes more education and confidence.

Natasha - posted on 01/17/2009

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i have 1 baby...born october 12th 2008...(typing 1 handed so if sloppy i apologise) total labor was 34 hours from first contraction to baby out....i think the biggest help was that i reserved myself to the fact that it would be the most painful thing i'd ever do and that it wouldnt go on forever...that and my wonderful husband and midwife....i am one of the lucky few thathas an out of hospital birth at a free standing birth center...my mother even delivered my son (iwth midwife supervision of course)...and to all those nay sayers i say "hah! i told you i could do it!". The main thing to remember for those of u that are planning for a natural birth, if you change you mind and have an epidural, you are NOT a failure! Aslong as you end up with a baby, it's a miracle...no matter what path u take to get there.

Deborah - posted on 01/16/2009

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I was not a natural birther thinker until after i actually gave birth. I did give birth without an epidural but had pitocin and found I needed demerol. My second birth I still needed pitocin augmentation but managed to do it med free.  Now I am a doula and I find that we are kind of alone. Not many of my friends understand what i do or why we would want to do anything with out drugs. You are not alone, but we are a small crowd.  

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2009

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I did have my delivery at the hospital though-- but they were great. The shower, and swaying and doing things I learned to do to manage pain in prenatal classes helped A LOT!! I just had to put myself in a different mind set-- almost like meditating. If you want to do it, then do it--- take prenatal, and -- if you put your mind to it, you can do it!!

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2009

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you are not alone!! I planned a natural birth and had one, and it was great-- went fast and no complications-- my daughter was my first-- no epid, no drugs and vaginal delivery. I totally recommend doing it if you can!!

Heather - posted on 01/12/2009

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So, I'm 16 weeks pregnant! I want to do it with out drugs! My husband wants me to have a hospital birth, which is fine with me but, is supporting my choice to go without an epidural!



I'm starting to have a lot of anxiety re: labor & delivery. 



I'm seeing a chiropractor for some hip issues and am hoping that adjustments and massage will aid in the delivery like I've read it could.  He is also very supportive of no epidural. He feels like it is not an exact science & that lots could go wrong. 



My other goal is not to have an episiotomy! My doc and I had that discussion at my very first visit! She supposedly done a handful in her years of practice and wouldn't do it just to speed things along! Anyone know anything about perineal massage/ stretching??

Kirsten - posted on 11/14/2008

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You are definitely not alone! I have felt that way so many times! People all through my pregnancy would tell me I was CRAZY for even thinking of trying to give birth without drugs. People would say "call me after you have delivered - I'll bet you get an epidural". I even had my OB tell me I would be getting an epidural! (I switched to a midwife soon after that appointment) I was so frustrated! I felt like no one believed I was strong enough to do it. Thankfully my husband was 100% behind me, telling me to ignore all the naysayers and coaching me all the way.

Mary - posted on 11/10/2008

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I've had 6 kids, 5 births, all of them natural and med free, except the first which my midwife and I ended up needing a little help with. (it still was med free, but baby's heartrate was almost stopping so they suctioned her out of there, FAST). The rest were all lovely. One in a birth center, one at home, and the rest in lovely little hospitals where they let me do what I wanted. :) Most of which entails spending hours and hours in a jaccuzi tub! I did always want a water birth, because I love it in there so much it just HAS to be soothing to actually deliver there. I even toyed with the idea of just staying in until I delivered and not telling anyone. lol. But I always got too curious and wanted to be checked for progress before I was near enough to actually deliver. just as well I'm sure, its much better when planned that way, with your midwife in attendance and making sure all is clean and well. Maybe someday! I'm not quite past my childbirth years yet, tho I have no actual intentions to have more...

Nichole - posted on 11/09/2008

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I'm so glad to see so many new faces on here! For awhile I was afraid no one else was interested! Please everyone feel free to open a thread and chat, even if it is a little off topic.

Barbara - posted on 11/06/2008

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I am! I am! You are not alone! I was hoping for a group like this. The ones I have found so far are a little off my base. I have only given birth once, but it was naturally and it was wonderful. And I'm training to be a doula right now, so I really am interested in natural birth!

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