Natural birth... Is it really that bad?

Hirono - posted on 01/07/2011 ( 51 moms have responded )

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I am pregnant and due on Feb 23rd. For my first pregnancy I was planning to do a natural birth, but things didn't turn out the way that I wanted to and I was talked into by the nurses to get the epidural. This time I am really wanting to do a natural birth, but I kinda want to know how it really is. Is it really that painful? And is the most painful part the pushing or the contractions? And what does it feel like?? Also was there anything that seem to help with the pain?

I really would like to know if you can. Everyone that I've asked just told me it hurts really bad and told me to just the the epidural.

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Most certainly NOT! It does hurt bad, I'm not going to lie, but it's SOOOOOOOOO exaggerated! It's not debilitating, it's not scream-worthy, and heck, you don't fall to the ground or lose the ability to stand (though you may pause while walking). I did it completely natural, so trust me when I tell you this.



The starting pain you don't even realize you're in labor - it's not like movies, it doesn't just hit you. You'll be doing things, and you'll feel a tiny cramp - kind of like that annoying feeling after a papsmear when they scraped your innerds. Then over the next few hours you'll notice it more, like really mild menstrual cramps. Then a few more hours, and it's moderate menstrual cramps, and it's harder to not actually notice them. A few more hours, and it's noticeable, and it may take your breath away for a moment, like when you have really bad gas. It gets worse from there, like a building pressure. It starts tiny - you can actually forget about it. By the end, if you're walking you need to pause. If you're talking, you'll stop until the pain passes. The worst pain is at the very end, when the actual pushing is taking place - and even then, there's no reason to scream - just moaning mostly. At this point, you're almost done. There are a lot of things to deal with the pain though, and by then, you're employing all of them!



*Breath in deeply through your nose, and as you exhale through your mouth hum deeply

*Move your leg to a beat, and keep the time to a song or pace: 1-pause-2-pause-3

*Walk around and go up and down stairs as much as you can before the hard labor hits, it makes the actual pushing easier, and it makes labor go faster

*Hot showers are fantastic when they hit your lower back or belly before your water breaks

*Changing positions often

*Using tennis balls on your back (another person needs to help)

*Sitting on the end of a big exercise ball

*Listen to music and focus on listening to each instrument

*Breath in a rhythm and keep track of it

*Do yoga while you're pregnant - it widens your hips and helps with labor - plus some of the positions are helpful in labor

*Do NOT watch any baby story or other horrible shows that show women screaming, they're doing it for the camera :/ I did not know that until after the baby came lol...

*Have someone talk to you or tell you funny stories to distract you during the contractions



And there are tons more things you can do. Don't panic, keep a cool head, and remember - a GORGEOUS baby is on the other end of it all, and going meds free is the best thing for you AND him/her :) Best of luck!

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2012

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I have 2 sons. With the first son (who is almost 6) I labored naturally and at the very end asked for an epidural. They didn't realize I was already 10 cm dilated. So I like to say I had a 99% natural birth with the first. I just had another son this past March and this time I went all natural. It is NOT THAT BAD. I really want to stress that for any moms-to-be who may read this. It does hurt, I won't lie, but it is very doable. You CAN do it!

The thing that helped me this time around was the Bradley Method of childbirth. It is NOT Lamaze. I really suggest reading up on it and trying the exercises that help get your body ready and also help you to visualize and relax through each contraction. The key is to not fight the contractions because tensing up makes them hurt more. If you relax and let your uterus do what it is trying to do it doesn't have to work as hard and thus it hurts less. It still hurts...but less.

I also stayed out of bed and on my feet and thus had a 4 hour labor this last time as opposed to the 12 hour labor I had the first time.

For me the contractions feel like a tightening of your whole abdomen and reminiscent of a bad stomach ache....like food poisoning. That sounds awful but really, we've all had bad stomach aches haven't we? Sitting on the toilet helped to relieve the pressure. Also being on all fours on the bed helped me also. I remember I started to feel intense pressure that wouldn't let up and began bearing down. I could not control it. The contractions are long and intense and come right on top of each other...coupled with an intense pressure internally and the only way I could find relief was to begin pushing with all my might.

By time I was on my back and the doctor was between my legs ready to catch my baby I no longer felt pain. It didn't hurt. I only felt pressure and the sweet relief of pushing. The ring of fire was more of an annoyance than an actual pain. I felt it, noted it and moved on. I did NOT feel like I was on fire down there.

The feeling of something big between your legs and then a warm, slick gush and your baby leaving your body...wow. It is something I will NEVER forget. And the best part was after I had nursed him and they cleaned him up I felt like dancing a jig. I was not numb, I had no trouble going to the bathroom and I literally felt like I could do cartwheels down the hall.

I am definitely doing natural childbirth again with my next child whenever he/she comes along. It was an awesome experience. I feel bad for moms who are too afraid to try it. I felt like a superwoman when I was done and even my doctor (who is also a mom) expressed her admiration for the Herculean effort I had just put forth.

Do NOT be afraid to try and go natural. Your body is designed to do this.

Ivy - posted on 01/07/2013

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YES, IT'S THAT BAD!!! It's so bad that I didn't want to have sex for fear of getting pregnant again.
An epidural is heaven in comparison.

Glenna - posted on 02/02/2013

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I had an epidural after induction at 40 weeks with my first born in 2004. I don't remember anything about the birthing experience beyond the fact that I couldn't even touch my baby for over three hours due to his suffering respiratory distress. I felt completely out of control =/
I took another 7 years to have another beautiful baby boy and this time I chose to go natural. It couldn't have gone better. It was worth the pain to be there both physically and mentally; in complete control of my experience. I didn't feel like an animal being poked and prodded, pushed around and told what to do. All this AND the healing process was a million times faster. I was up and walking my baby around within an hour as opposed to laying there like a zombie for the remainder of the day.
The best part of natural childbirth for me, though, was that I helped pull my baby out and held him close to me immediately after. There is no more empowering a feeling than natural childbirth. My self-confidence has never been this high and baby number two is 19 months already. I'm 38 weeks along with number three and plan to go natural this time as well =) Do your research and in the end you'll know what's best for you and your baby. Just remember that you are strong and your baby works with you to complete the birthing process; it's hard to work in unison if you're both under the influence of heavy anesthetics.

Sally - posted on 09/10/2012

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It's not too bad if you really do it naturally--NOT what a lot of hospitals like to call natural.

Yes, each and every contraction will hurt--quite a lot actually, but there are lots of non drug ways to get through the pain and if you don't get drugs, you get a small shot of endorphins at the end of each contraction and a huge shot of them when the baby falls out. All painkillers will take your endorphins away and that can make the contractions hurt worse if the nerve blocks don't work and can make it take longer to get up and moving after the birth and can make it harder to bond with your baby. The baby actually coming through hurts pretty impressively too, but positioning and moving around when and where YOU want to will help with that and again there are the beautiful endorphins. Those endorphins also help you forget how much it hurt so you're willing to do it again some day. :)

I've had the doctor run, intervention heavy, as long as the babies alive no one cares how badly damaged it and the mom are birth AND I've had the all on my own (except for about 10 minutes of physically fighting off an ignorant doctor because baby came too fast for midwife to get to hospital-thank God for good nurses to protect us). The first one hurt more even with the epidural and was scary and took longer for both mom and baby to recover from.

Every birth is different and you have to do what is right for you. DO NOT trust your doctor or hospital to help you with this. It is very unlikely that they have ever been taught how to let a mom labor without pestering or how to let a baby come out in the best way for it instead of the most convenient way for them.

Visit your local library and get every book you can on natural childbirth, read them, try the techniques in them, write down the ones you like (and a few you think might work even if you don't like them) because when labor starts you won't remember most of it. Get a support person who will put your needs ahead of the doctors wants and will defend you from the doctor if necessary; give the list of techniques to them because during the hard parts you may not be able to read or understand it on your own. If possible take a natural childbirth class instead of or in addition to the hospital class. Even better, try to find a birthing center or midwife who makes you fell comfortable and safe and can get you to the hospital quickly in the unlikely event that something goes wrong.

During labor, move around in ways that make you comfortable. Eat if you're hungry or drink if you're thirsty-it might come back, but that's better than trying to push out a baby with low blood sugar or when dehydrated and it'll help the baby keep up its strength too and having an IV makes it easier for doctors to add drugs you don't want. Choose positions that feel good to you and change them when you want to (I strongly recommend the shower-with my second it had all the painkilling power of an epidural while staying upright and in complete control of my body--some women prefer a jacuzzi or even just a warm soak and some don't want to get wet--try it and see what you like). Squatting is the ideal birth position because it gives the biggest roundest pelvic opening possible and keeps gravity 100% on your side, but hands and knees or lying on your side or kneeling might feel better for you. Some people swear by breathing patterns or focusing--didn't work for me, might work for you. Try not to get an episiotomy (some doctors won't tell you they're cutting until it's done--if you've told them no beforehand it becomes sueable).

The two things that will help the most are being informed and determined and having a support person who is willing to tell the doctor to leave you alone when you're too busy having a baby to say it yourself. Hopefully, it won't come to this, but if you think your doctor or hospital will require extreme measures, ask for your AMA form when you walk in the door. By law they have to give it as soon as you ask, but in the heat of the moment you may forget and they will stall. Having it doesn't mean you have to sign it, but doctors and hospitals tend to give more respect to those who know their rights.

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Natasha - posted on 08/06/2014

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It goes beyond bad in to horrific. I have one child, and the experience was so traumatic I vowed to never have another .
The memory is still vivid and I still have nightmares about it years later. It also affected both the bonding and relationship with my child.
You would not have a limb amputated with no pain relief so why have a child that way? People can argue all they like that it is "natural"..so is death but we do not expect people to die in agony do we?

Dawn - posted on 05/19/2014

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Yes. It is really that bad. I am pretty outraged by the other commenters saying that natural childbirth is not scream-worthy and that it is exaggerated in movies. In fact, even the most terrifying enactment of a very painful labor could not accurately portray the extent of pain one feels during natural childbirth. I could go on to describe what natural labor really feels like and even include some scary analogies, but I will spare you because I don't believe that anyone should have fear put into them before labor, however I also believe that no one should go into labor without mentally preparing themselves and having accurate information from which to make an educated decision toward medicinal intervention. I was refused an epidural because of sciatica that I experienced during pregnancy and I am afraid to have another child because of the pain I endured. Children are every bit worth the pain and I am a very blessed mommy, but the pain is difficult to contend with. It is also worth mentioning that EVERY labor is different, just as is every woman's pain tolerance. Best of luck to all the mommies-to-be and remember that you need to do whatever is right for YOU, and do it shamelessly.

Yani - posted on 04/15/2014

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I'm pro Natural Birth. I home birthed my 2 children and the midwife didn't even make it in time for the first one, so my husband and I delivered on our own while she walked us through it. I just didn't realize I was in labor in time for her to get there.

My experience is pain is a state of mind. Yoga and breath work are great practices to get prepared but the speed and intensity vary. Every birth experience is different but I believe that no matter the what it's worth it to have a natural unmedicated birth. You feel amazing and are better able to interact with your newborn after.

I believe you should have the kind of birth that you want. Contractions pass and delivery is quick. (In my experience) The baby coming out was kind of like a surprise. Not painful just surprising. The after birth is like pushing out a big blood clot. It's a very full feeling but still not painful.. also surprising once it comes out. Overall the body knows what to do so relax and JUST HAVE THE BABY. I suggest a midwife and homebirth if available (It's usually cheaper also) Stand firm in your decision and don't let anyone try and convince you that you NEED to do it any other way. By the time my contractions were feeling intense I was having a baby.

You TOTALLY can do it!! Read Hypnobirthing to help get your mind prepared. Your body is LITERALLY made for this so allow it to happen naturally. Stay in your power and don't be afraid to express what you want. It's your right!! Your bringing life into the world. No one needs to tell you how to do it.

Wishing you a BEAUTIFUL birthing experience and I believe in you and your ability to birth beautifully ♥

Praveena - posted on 04/14/2014

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Hi, did anyone try with magnetic therapy during labor? I'm due in june with my first baby and have learned that magnets are great for pain management.

Sandy84 - posted on 06/12/2013

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Let me be honest with you: It's not a piece of cake. However, you'll get rewarded with the most beautiful thing you could ever imagine.

Rebekka - posted on 05/29/2013

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My boy friends mom said threw her four natural births contractions are the worst bc that all the epaderial is for the rest is a natural pain killer you body produces the pressure is all you have to worrie about bc you vigina goes num on its own

Reina M - posted on 02/01/2013

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i just had a baby about 2months ago... and had gotten the epidural and now im having maiger back pain.. my back freezes from the pain its all my back and sometimes its my lower back and i just cant move.... im hateing this pain idk wat to do...

Louise - posted on 01/30/2013

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hi, natural birth is as painful as you make it i think.What i mean by that is -if your tensed up it makes the pain worse.You need to relax and focus and think positive thoughts .Ive had 4 natural births and 3 with gas and air.I much prefered the natural births as i felt really good after wards.Saying that if i wernt so scared of needles i would love to be pain free with epidural but im to wimpy to try one.
The contractions hurt more in my opinion ,my labours are very quick and intense.My last 3 were induced and took along time to start labour but once started were quick and painful.
However you give birth natural/epidural we as woman are all fantastic people .
Dont worry though give it a go if its to painful have the epidural.We dont get a medal for going natural

Tracy - posted on 01/14/2013

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its painful but not that bad. all u need to do is to
take your mind off the pain and wait patiently till
its time. and learn how to take pain any how.

Deborah - posted on 01/14/2013

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Having a baby is painful, but it depends on how you cope. If you have good techniques for managing your pain i.e relaxation, water, music, deep breathing, whatever it is that you do, and good support an a reasonably short labour then your experience will be more favourable. I have had 5 deliveries, 4 without pain relief, but the 4th one was long 15 hours and I was exhausted so couldn't face the planned water birth and just had pethadine. Tiredness is not a friend to a natural labour and amplifies the pain so get plenty of rest before labour, and stay upright, walking etc during labour to help things along. Best of luck.
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Tasha - posted on 01/03/2013

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I'm due on the 12th! My last birth I had naturally. And it was NOT that bad!!! (I'm scared to jinx it though since I'm planning on doing the same this time ha)

But my experience was fast. I was at the hospital, my contractions all of the sudden were huge, and I had to have the nurses get the drs who ran down the hall to catch the baby. I had him about an hour after I arrived or less.

Now if those contractions had stretched to hours, I have no idea the strength they would have been or how I would have reacted. I remember joking with the drs, one even commented on it.

I do however, remember thinking of wolves in the forest giving birth to pups and how we all think we're so evolved being human, but at that moment, on the table, I was just another ANIMAL giving birth lol. That's the thing I remember most about the natural birthing experience, feeling like a wild animal pushing out a another animal. hehe. I find it funny now, and they say you don't remember how bad it truly is, but I shall see!!!

Mine came so fast last time, I'm worried I'll have this one in the car on the way. I told my husband we need to keep a towel in the car when it gets close. :D

Good luck!!!

Andrea - posted on 12/22/2012

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I'm just going to be brutally honest about my natural birth with my first child, so you know the range of what to expect. You may find your birth to be envigorating and not that bad, as some have said on here. Or you may be like me, and find it to be the most mind-blowing pain anyone could hope to imagine. I was very prepared for my natural birth, it went extremely well,and I will do it again for future children, but nothing could have actually prepared me for the experience of the pain I felt for the last 7 hours of it or so. It was so taxing that I couldn't feel much emotion for the first minutes after my daughter was born. The experience just felt kind of inhumane to me. I only screamed once, which was when my daughter's body wriggled out. It hurt so much more than her head that I thought that the doctor was pulling her out and I screamed for him to stop. The other noises I made, though, probably sounded like a dying animal. And I wasn't being dramatic. That being said, you can totally do it. You just have to be very matter-of-fact about your desires, and need to have a strong conviction why you want to be drug free. I'm not trying to complain or scare you. I just felt like a failure after the birth because, despite how well I did, it wasn't a breeze for me like some of the books made it sound like it could be if you were prepared. Everyone's body is different, so success is getting through it. Not getting through it without breaking a sweat.

The early contractions are like a tightening and releasing of a belt of muscles wrapping all the way around your tummy and lower back. Those feel very natural, almost like those muscles are doing push ups or something. They're also exciting because you know things are getiing started. As they get more intense, you start to feel like your body is in a vice and it's very hard to relax through them. I tried to keep my sounds low, but started to get a little higher pitched as they intensified. The worst are the last few contractions before pushing, when you feel like they're just slamming your body. You go from zero to 100 in a second and stay there for several minutes. I got a "rest" period in between my last two contractions, where I almost passed out. Then my first pushing contraction was about the worst part of the whole labor. It was not so much a contraction as a convulsion. That's when I felt the ring of fire, but only for a second. The pushing contractions got much more manageable after that transition, though, and like the other ladies said, it's much more active and a relief to be pushing. Although it's still very uncomfortable. You can feel yourself tearing and realize that you have to keep pushing through it. I felt like I couldn't get enough air in between pushing. Like I said, for some reason her body sliding out was excrutiating to me. I could feel her shoulders and stuff like a meteor. I don't think that's normal, though.

You can totally do this. It's not a walk in the park, and it may be a little traumatic, but it's worth it to have a healthy delivery and avoid complications from drugs. I don't think the drugs necessarily help matters at all. Good luck to you!

Tracy - posted on 09/11/2012

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For me, the contractions weren't so much painful but irritating. Yes, there was pain, but it just felt like if I keep moving, I could work the pain away. So, as long as I KEPT MOVING through contractions - walking, rocking, etc... then it was great. Once labor progressed and it was near time to push, I can tell ya, I was so "out of body" mentally that I paid no attention to any pain until it was all over. During the pushing time, for me, there was no pain at all because my mind kind of shut off. I couldn't tell you if the building was burning down. I have done epidural with my first and natural with my second. We are done with kids, but if I did it again, I would go natural every single time. It was a fantastic experience. Mostly, just do a lot of research on the stages that your body (and mind) will go through. If you understand all that, you will be more likely to enjoy the experience.

Sara - posted on 09/06/2012

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I know you have given birth already, but I have to say: transition was nasty for me with both of my kids. I wish I would have had homebirths so the drugs weren't available to me because I could have made it through and felt like an even more amazing woman! Birth plans don't always work well in hospital settings (the medical staff is all too eager to give you drugs if you ask, even if you have a no-drug birth plan). So unless you have a really strong advocate who knows that you really don't want drugs, if you ask, you shall receive.



I attended a friends' birth and I kept having to remind the nurse that she had a birth plan that stated no drugs. She ended up having a walking epi, but only after the doctor told her "now or never" (and she was in a lot of pain). I even got asked in a snotty voice if I was a doula (I said no, I am a friend and an advocate for this family). I should have said yes, but they don't like doula's or midwives in the local hospitals here.

Khumo - posted on 09/04/2012

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i have a son... flip that day for me was werid cos it was my first time and my bf was nxt to me...ddnt kwn wat to expect nd the nurse was sooo clam nd makn conversations and all til i felt that it was time to push...the bby head was kinda big so she had to cut me alil so the bby culd cum out...the rest my bf wuld say...bt after that it was lik nthg happnd wel until i got stiches...bt i stil tnk naturly birth is the way to do tngs....

Christine - posted on 08/29/2012

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if you can handle the pain you have at it.. HOWEVER for me I had epidural with my daughter and it was just easy... Now with my son.......My water broke at home and they had to induce me... and I had the epidural... and I was in labor for 29 hours... in 12 hours my epidural I guess wore off so they gave me a boost which dropped my blood pressure and the baby's heartrate so they didn't want to give me another one..... Then 3 hours before he came out my epidural wore off again and I had to feel it all.... It was very painful... the contractions are terrible at least I thought until I had to push him out... I felt everything... I felt him ripping me into 2 down there that pushing was soooo hard and soooo painful... He came out 11lbs... and 24 and ahalf inches long... 38cm Round head... 22 stitches later I was finally done... If you want to do natural by all means have at it... but keep in mind of the size factors of your child..... I never want to feel that again... I never want to go through with that again... Its worth it in the end yes... but it's really made me not to want anymore children... we have 2 kids a girl and a boy I think we are good on our family...

M - posted on 08/29/2012

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Nope or we'd be extinct - LOL

seriously though...it is the worst for the last couple of centimeters, and then pushing kind of hurts so good...

for me, staring at the second hand on the clock and concentrating on the pain coming and GOING was really helpful.

Giving birth on my side was really comfortable too

word to the wise, husbands HATE seeing wives in pain so tell him he has to support you...

with one baby my OB and DH who are good friends ganged up on me and talked me into an epidural at 10cm - LOL - I don't like the way they make me feel.

I get epidurals now for a back injury, and I really have side effects from the needle - LOL - I have to have drugs to have the EPIDURAL!!!

My thought is that fear can make it hurt worse (re:my fear of big needles in my spine)...

if you can manage your fear, you will be fine.

I remember thinking during each contraction, ok if I can't take it after the next one, I will have an epi...

suddenly I was there, baby there, joy, pain gone!

Brandi - posted on 08/22/2012

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I have had three vaginal births without epidurals. I did take stadiol at 6 cms with all three and in the 45 minutes that the drug works I dialated to 10 cms. My second two labors were induced but the longest was the first at 6 hours and three pushes. I think the most important thing about labor and delivery is to go into it with an open mind. That way if the situation changes and you need an epidural or a c-section you are not disappointed in the outcome of the delivery. Good Luck and enjoy that baby!

Paula - posted on 08/13/2012

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Everyone has a different tolerance to pain.
Contractions are painful but they don't kill you (I personally think migraines are worse) and like others said, delivery feels just like FIRE.

If you want to experience it then do it. If you are scared, then opt for the epidural.

(that being said, I enjoyed my one child's birth more when I had an epidural, I was so ANGRY at the burning fire (natural birth) that I just wanted the birth over.)

Good luck! :)

Lauren - posted on 08/08/2012

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Honestly.. it's suposed to hurt liek hell, your pushing something inside you out! my baby was 9 lbs 15oz.. all natural. i wanted the epidural but by the time the doctor got finished with his last patient and got to me i had gone from 3cm to 7 1/2 this was in about 30 mins! so they told me by the time the epidural kicked in i would of had the baby already. so i totally freaked becasue im no good with pain at all. i cried and cried untill my midwife told me the only way to make it not hurt was to relax and breathe. so the only way i could handle the contractions where to lay on my left side holding onto the side rail tightly and breathe! just breathe is the only way to get through it i think. keeping yourself calm telling yourself to think about the finish and getting that baby out!! as for the delivery, i personally found it feel alot better when i was able to push. focusing on something other than the pain. your downstairs feels like its on FIRE hence the quote "burning ring of fire". i had my boyfriend, mom and mother inlaw in the room with me so when they saw the baby comming they engouraged me alot and i was so 'pumped' to get the baby out and being caught up in the moment the pain just turned into a rush to get the baby out. i had to have the 'snip' and all but i dont remember feeling the pain of it just the rush of blood and the sound. it sounded like taking sizzers cutting through bristal board paper lol. i will probably have my next baby natural without the intention of the epidural. :) so ya bring a good suport team in the room with you and breathe is the advice i have for you :D good luck!!

Jessica - posted on 08/05/2012

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I had a natural birth and thought it was an amazing experience! I also had my baby at a birthing center where natural birth is supported and the midwives really took their time to help me through my labor. Our bodies are meant to have babies and if you have a natural birth your natural hormones will kick in and it's similar to having pain meds (from what I understand). It was painful and it took work, but I had a natural high afterward, wasn't groggy from drugs, and was in a great state of mind when my baby was born. I've heard so many horror stories of hospital births and pressure from doctors and nurses to have drugs. I think if you want to go natural you should definitely make sure the people delivering your baby support natural birth. Unless something goes wrong in labor I plan on having all natural births. It seriously was one of the most amazing experiences of my life! The best piece of advice I was given: labor is a roller coaster, pain then no pain, then pain - just ride each contraction and when it's done, it's done.

Maria - posted on 07/29/2012

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I would like to add that doing deep deep focused breathing down in your stomach and focusing on relaxing your jaw and shoulders during a contraction and then squatting that may help you through handling the pain of the contractions...it did that for me...but still...I wished I was offered an epi with my first one so it would have been just as joyful and great an experience as it was with my second with which I got an epidural.

Maria - posted on 07/29/2012

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I had my first one all natural and all of the fears that I at first hand had - but that after being was being told and convinced was only in 'worst case scenario'- were met. I did it and could do it again but there was nothing glorious about it thought I got sooooooo much praise...I would rather be without the praise and then be painless! With my second I asked for an epidural when I was 4 centimeters...It was just too unbearable and the thought of going through another whole night and morning after 7 hours of full on super strong contractions at only 4 cm's was overwhelming. I was exhausted and dizzy and nauseous...each contraction lasted for 2 minutes! and with only 45 seconds in between and baby barely moving down, so when I got the epidural it was such a relief and I had an absolutely beautiful, painless and calm birth and was able to laugh and of joy and relief while I was pushing my second out, because it was the easiest thing...my second flew out (I'm fit and have strong stomach muscles) and I'm so thankful that with my second I wasn't told that I could go through it just fine naturally and was doing well - as when I was in labour with my first baby - because I felt the midwife was putting words in my mouth that I did not feel was appropriate...I know best HOW well I'm doing! It turned out that my second baby was laying in a bad angle...'a so-called star gazer' (face facing towards mom's front of body instead of face facing towards her back....so baby is actually 'stuck' fighting against the contractions).
I'm now pregnant with my third and I'm open to however I feel it is going. I'm not eager to prove anything or to make anything worse than it is....every childbirth is different and so are a mom's body. There is nothing to brag about doing natural child birth...I've done it...so have billions of other women....childbirth happens around the globe every day..each baby comes out differently of different bodies and in their own timing. I'm not afraid of giving birth, it's just not a thing that I glorify and brag about like a lot of women do. However, the child itself is a miracle and The Creator is who I glorify. We should focus more on how we raise our kids! My first looks like a model and is 2 years ahead academically than his schoolmates and is a sucker for animals and they love him too ...they circle around him..he's an animal magnet and he is so sensitive in his spirit and has tought me soooo much that has matured me as an adult, my second is pure cuteness in so many ways and wants to be friend with everybody and kisses me and tells me he loves me as the very first thing in the morning to wake me up and is super well behaved and such an easy a child. My kids are the joy of my life and I would do anything for them!
I've had 5 food poisonings in my life and with one of them I was rushed to the hospital and was given morfine and it was just as bad as giving birth to my first child painwise if not worse because of the extreme nausea and puking so much to the point of bile coming up. I've experience lots of physical pain in my life even falling on my bike fracturing my skull and having a chip of bone pop out of my skin from my right leg's shin-bone. Labour is another kind of pain. The expansion from 1-10 cms is the worst part of the labour..pushing is the far easiest. I think the reason why I did not ''enjoyed'' being in labour and giving birth without pain meds..even the 7 first hours with my second, was because I've found out later that the 7th disc in my lower back is in a really bad angle so it looks like my butt is sticking out like a duck while it's actually my back that is crooked. When I touch myself with a very light touch on my spine it's very very tender and that is also where the pain was unbearable when I was in labour....my back is messed up and I think if my back wasn't so messed up I would have been in less pain. So again, I think if a womans hips or back are out of alignment the experience of labour can be quite different than when having nothing wrong with your joints. I was squatting and leaning forward with both of my labours and found that to help dealing with the contractions. I was able to walk around and move as I pleased during both labours and even with the epidural so that was nice. I did not have to be forced to lay on my back when having the epidural...I layed on my side for 3 hours with my second because I couldn't keep my eyes open and stay awake when it was 2 am. Baby was out 3 1/2 hours later and I'm so thankful for my second birth was painless. It was beautiful and such a relief!

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i had 3 babies with no intervention. just focus through it, block everything out and focus. the contractions are by far worse than pushing. when you push there is a major burning sensation but just remember: the better you focus and push the faster the pain goes away.

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Natural birth doesn't have to hurt but if you are fearful it will!(Google fear tension pain). The trouble is woman don't know how to birth anymore as its done behind closed doors, so even if you want to go natural its unlikely it will happen unless you educated yourself. I had my daughter (my 1st) using the skills i learnt in hypnobirthing classes and can honesty say there was no pain at all. It was hard work but not painful, i liken it to running mini marathon! Knowledge is power, good luck to you

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when i had my son i was on medicaid and i went to a widwifery that had a birthing center and did home births. Just do a little checking if thats what you really want to do.

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I loved the experience of having a natural birth.. well almost natural.. I didn't start contractions on my own after my water broke so the induced them, I had no pain meds though... You really do have to find that position that is best for you. My nurses wanted me to lay flat on my back and that just didn't work.. Sitting was best for me. On the bed with my feet together and slightly bent over... I also just concentrated on breathing keeping it slow and even, and held my hubby's hand. pushing was the best part. It hurt for sure but it was the sign of the end and once the head was out all the pain just kind of went away... I will definitely do it again!

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I had an epi and still felt everything! It didn't work for me and the only reason I had one was because the doctor elected for me to have a C-section...wouldn't have had one if it had been left up to me. I had 2 natural VBACs (vaginal birth after Caesarian) and yes, it hurt during the contractions and pushing, since I hadn't had a regular birth before, but the rush I felt afterwards was awesome! I was actually hoping for twins with #2, that's how big the rush was. I had a little Nubaine to take the edge off the contractions (mine got worse with each baby), but not enough to completely dull the experience. I would just breathe through the contraction (not Lamaze, but "in the nose, out the mouth") and got through 2 just fine. Plus, all those drugs they want to plug you up with aren't really that good for baby's bp or sugar levels.

Amber - posted on 06/01/2011

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wont lie it hurts... but its amazing. i have my fist child w/ an epidural and felt not one contraction so when i have a home birth with my second it was like starting from square one. the contractions hurt and they are different for each person but your body is ment to do this its your mind that you have to train. your have to be mentally strong enough to over power your minds natural responses. i believe anybody can do it. good luck and the worse pain is what they call the ring of fire pretty self explanatory but it means the babies crowing and your next to done.

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Do it, you're not gonna regret it. I had my twins in hospital without epidural and IV (heplock only for access). Make sure there is somebody there with you, you can trust and that will make sure they will stick to your birth plan as much as possible. The nurses and doctor kept coming to check on me all the time if I am still alive since I was so quiet. For me was important that nobody touches me or talks while I was having contractions. I just closed my eyes and relaxed as much as possible thinking how my babies are "coming down", how I'm gonna see them soon...the worst is to be tense and cry, it just exhaust you...I just wanted to feel my body at such an important event and was scared to death they will "section" me, but fortunatelly everything worked out good, just with episiotomy ...if there would be next time, I'd love to do homebirth!!!!

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I had my son at home with no drugs. I agree for me the pushing was very painful but still the easiest part because it just really happened spontaneously and I was very excited to get my baby out.



In between contractions AND pushes I had ZERO PAIN. Really. So I knew each time it was just ONE MINUTE of pain and it would be over. It hurt SO bad for that one minute, but each one seemed to go by VERY quickly. Moving around, talking, and sleeping were key to keeping my mind relaxed and calm in between. There are also lots of natural ways to relieve pain, like bath, rebozo (like a sheet someone pulls around your hips - ask the midwife), breathing, hypnosis, movement, massage, and just positive thinking!



Also, I would arm yourself with LOTS of solid reasons why you do not want the epidural. If all it did was stop the pain with no side effects, I would do it in a heartbeat. However, nothing is without risk. For me, the most important reasons for drug free were: I could MOVE freely; I could let my body tell me how to move; if something was wrong I would be able to feel it; I wouldn't risk a drug reaction from or my baby (i react badly to some pain meds); I wouldn't risk a backache or spinal puncture; i am terrified of that huge needle; and also that I wanted to be sure me and my baby had clear heads the first time we met :) I was totally open to the risks of an epidural IF I TRULY needed it - like a stalled labor or intense back labor, etc. But I would never take those risks without a true medical necessity.



Knowledge is power! I think if you give good, solid, scientific reasons for not wanting the epidural, the midwives and nurses will be much more supportive and helpful in your natural birth. Having midwives instead of doctors is usually a big help in natural birth, as well. Good luck!

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Hey you are due on my birthday ;-)
It is wonderful and not really painful! I had my first baby naturally on January 21st this year. I used a pool which was lovely. In my opinion, the "pain" is dependent on how you cope with stress. As long as you stay relaxed it is intense pressure plus period like pains. But since they come and go it is fine to cope. I found transition the hardest, but it passes very quickly. The pushing stage was totally different, because I actually had something to do, instead of just relaxing into the contractions. I did Hypnobirthing, which was lovely and like I said also really enjoyed the pool. I can recommend the Epi-No device. I found it on the internet and it prepares you for when you are in labour and prevents you from tearing. I did not tear at all, so that save me the pain, I am sure. Good luck

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My pain was a moderate, dull ache during contractions. The crowning was the most painful part, but it does not last long. My pushing contractions were painless. I used the Bradley method.

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Im 17 and I had both my babies natuarlly. I felt every single contraction and being cut with both and stitches. With my first baby I didn't want to hear how painful it was and others births if it had to do with all that kind of stuff. I had my baby and pulled through everything without screaming. My focus on both my babies was seeing and holding them the first time. I felt it helped not focusing my thoughts on "how painful it was) I got to enjoy both their births and actually I loved every moment of it. I helped both when I was being stitched up and to say looking at their faces and how my heart sank knowing how much I loved her already and I couldn't find words to describe it. I don't believe in pain medication for anything expecially birth since I wanted to experince it as naturally as it gets. Good luck to you though and enjoy that little budle of joy your going to have. Wether on what decision you make, know its yours and don't let what kind of pain it is get to you, cause thats not going to help. :)

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Can i just say that i waited till 8 cm till i got the epi. i didnt even feel any contractions until out of nowhere BAM!!! hurt like hell and then they checked sure enough i was at 8 and then everything was happening so fast why i am saying this is because it is so true they really do push the epi like crazy i was getting nervous so i got it. but my next one i def dont want one. i would suggest walkin A LOT!! i think thats what helped me the most not to feel the contractions. But this is a really helpful post thanks!!

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I've had two kids naturally and the most important thing you need to know is DO NOT GET PITOCIN!!! No matter what you do... that is the most important thing to remember. My first time round I didn't get it and the pain wasn't so bad once I started pushing, but the second time around I did have pitocin and it hurt worse than anything anyone could imagine. I literally thought I was going to die... and so did my husband for that matter. Natural birth is an incredible experience, but do not get pitocin. I'm done having kids, but if I ever happened to get pregnant I would still do it all natural. There is nothing more empowering than giving birth.

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I had a natural birth at home, and everyone thought I was "crazy" or "brave" for doing it. Actually, I was terrified to go to the hospital, where you are forced into everything. And the funny thing is, lots of my friends had epidurals, and they still moan about the pain of childbirth! Like others here have said, it is like anything else - you find a way to manage. It is actually not the horrible, debilitating thing they make it out to be in movies, etc. I think accepting that your body is doing what is natural and learning to relax into the sensation of contractions, instead of fearing the pain, actually helps move your birth along. I used birth meditation CDs every night before bed for about 6 weeks before the birth, and it really helped! I visualized and went into this weird mode of chanting during contractions - hey, it worked for me. I think it was exhaustion, not pain, tat was hardest for me - I was just really, really tired by the pushing stage. I used a squatting position, finally, for the big push out!
Oh, and for those who want a natural birth in a hospital - I highly recommend hiring a doula. They are your advocate during birth and can support your birth plan when drs and nurses try to pressure you into interventions (and you're kind of busy concentrating on other things!)

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Do you have a birth plan written up that both your hospital as well as your doctor/mid-wife have. I had a birth plan that I gave to my mid-wife that she faxed over to the hospital. The nurses read my birth plan before I actually got to the hospital when I was in labor as well as when they switched shifts shortly after I was admitted. They NEVER asked me if I wanted something for the pain. Contractions hurt. I've heard from so many people that they feel like really bad menstral cramps. That's so false. They feel NOTHING like menstral cramps. I don't feel like it hurt as bad as I thought it was going to, but I think I made myself think that it was going to be the worst thing ever, so when it came down to it, it wasn't as bad as I thought. It still did hurt A LOT though. I LOVED the tub. My hubby kept on asking me if it was helping, and at the time, I really didn't know if the contractions were better or not, UNTIL I got out. That's when I noticed a HUGE difference. The tub helped a lot with pain management. Also having support is really a major thing in getting though it naturally. Pushing to me hurt, but at the same time it felt so good that I wanted to push harder. The worst part about pushing is when the baby's crowning, it's burning, and you can't get rid of that pressure because at that time, the baby's head isn't going back in after each push. I think I was pushing even when I wasn't having a contractions because I couldn't take the pressure. lol. If your determined to do it naturally, then you can. Just remember, this is what's best for both you as well as your baby. Just think of epidural as not an option. I hope everything turns out how you plan it. :o)

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Out of my four, the younger three were natural. Yup, contractions hurt. The worst part though is the ring of fire, the actual "birth canal time" of giving birth. Its the moment when your in so much pain you question God, you're convinced you can't go any further, and then your body takes over and you're just there for the ride! Hopefully it will be a short ride. Time in the canal was always 1-2 minutes for me, but lordie lordie those 2 minutes suck. LOL.

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HI hun I am due with my second baby in may and this will be my second natural birth



i have to say for me the pushing was the easy part because the urge is so strong it is a relieve to get to do something about it, saying that i had a 3rd degree tear so i was in as much pain after the baby came out as i was in the middle of pushing. The contractions are hard but as long as you have support and you stay on top pf them then you will be fine, i to was pressured by nurses for medication first for an epidural then they asked if i wanted IV meds, i screamed at her and she left, I told them when i came in not to ask me and yet they dare to when im alone, my husband was asleep and my support people outside for a cigrerette , i was furious. Make sure they note not to ask. im using a free standing birth center where nothing is offered this time because i was not happy about being asked in the middle of labor for pain relief. I did it with my first child and i think anyone can do it, the pain you feel is way more worth it because of the experience you get with bonding. I spent 5 of the 18 hours i was in labor in the bath tub, when i had to get out to push i could barley stand because the pain intensified almost double, i highly recommend the bath tub and if you can birth there i would. birth balls are great for early labor discomfort, relieves the pressure from your hips and back.



My insurance does not cover my Birth Center and there is no medicare program that i know of that cover either birth centers or home births, but if you find the right midwife and a good hospital you can make your plan work



YOU CAN DO IT, its just a matter of how bad you want it, and as long as your prepared to fight through the pain then you can. Tell your self i can get through what ever comes at me, THey did it for centuries, our bodies are meant to go through it and its pain for a reason

Hirono - posted on 01/12/2011

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I wish I could do a home birth, but I have medicare and I don't know if they cover homebirths. But the Hospital I am going to has midwives instead of the regular labor and delivery nurse, so I am hoping that it might help.

I just don't want the epidural at all because I know that it can slow down the labor and the nurses usually try to give you pitocin to make the contraction strong again. Then the contractions can get too strong to the point that they need to give you more epidural. And the pitocin causes really strong contractions that it stress the baby and sometimes can lower the baby's heart rate.

Also when I got the epidural my first pregnancy my back hurt so much that I had trouble walking from back pains.

I know that if I get to the point of no return I can probably get through it so I am just going to try to stay strong and pull through it!

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Natural birth is not impossible. I should know, after two natural, drugfree home births. Giving birth hurts a lot, more than anything else I have ever experienced, but it was so worth it. I don't like the idea of bringing a baby into the world while being drugged, because epidurals can also have negative side effects, both for mother and baby.

The contractions are most painful, especially when you're getting close to full dialation. The pushing is not the most painful, in my experience, especially if you have giving birth vaginally before. (the first time the actual moment when the baby's head was crowning hurt like hell, but you know you're almost there...

My advice? Prepare yourself with knowledge about the process of giving birth. During the process: go with the flow, don't try to fight the pain but keep breathing. And trust yourself and your body to be able to bring it all to a good end.

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I feel a bit better now hearing all this. I am just glad that the pushing is the easier part. I know that it's going to hurt a lot, but your stories gave me relief. Hopefully I won't give in and get the epidural, but if I do then that'll be then.

Thank you for your advice and info!

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i have had 3 vginal births. 1st with pethidine and the other 2 with nothing. I personally find the contarctions close to the end the worst. I think that pushing i fine because i have something to do with the contractions instead of just dealing with them.
I found heat worked the best with my pains. It seemed to relax the contarctions and made them more mild.

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I have had 2 natural births now. The nurses and doctors really do push epidural. My nurse told me that it was very rare for her to see a natural birth. I think the key to less pain is getting in a position that is comfortable for you. For me that was squatting with my arms up holding onto something or someone. Don't let the docs or nurses tell you how to have your baby. Your body knows what feels most comfortable, this position is usually not laying in a bed. It is also really helpful to have trained labor support. Doulas are usually pretty inexpensive considering all they do to help and Moms do need someone there to stick up for them and help them find a good position and keep things moving. I found laying in bed during contractions most painful and the pushing was a relief. I didn't find the pushing painful but invigorating. Knowing that my baby was going to be here soon. Also making low deep noises helps relax your jaw and a relaxed jaw helps relax your body. The more relaxed you are the less pain you will have. It might help to check out some natural birth videos on Utube. I hope everything goes well for you and you get the birth you want this time.

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good on u for wanting to give it a go! ok...of course it hurts! i believe the secret isn't trying to minimize the pain, by the time u reach the end that realistically isnt going to happen. i think it is more important to find an effective way to DEAL with the pain. for me, pregnancy yoga did the trick. it taught me to embrace the pain, to relax and to keep myself calm. it was like a challange, and although at times it got really tough, i did it, i had my girl with no drugs, using only water as pain relief (which i highly recommend also!). just remember that if it gets too much, having drugs is ok. u dont have to be superwoman. a successful birth results in a healthy mum and baby! no matter how he or she enters the world =) good luck

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