Brenda - posted on 09/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
Welcome to No More Tears. Just a few general guidelines for everyone.
This can get to be a heated topic, so let's make sure we keep things civil. Please do not use derogetory or inflamatory language, and refrain from insulting others who may have an opposite view from you. I will close conversations that get out of hand. I do not anticipate this happening, as everyone who joins will have the same goal in mind. I do encourage debate, because that is what makes us stronger in our beliefs of doing the right thing for our kids.
Do not solicite work at home stuff here. Circle of Moms has other places for that. Such posts will be removed and/or locked.
I just want to give a description so we are clear on what we mean by certain words that will often be used and have some vague definitions in most people's minds:
-Sleep Training: This term in general refers to any methods that force an infant, toddler or child to conform to a set way of sleeping. This can include place of sleep, time of sleep, time of feeds during sleep, among other things. Controlled Crying and Cry it Out are types of sleep training. Sleep training, in essence, goes against our purpose with this group because those two areas are types of sleep training, however, we can discuss these things to hash out if we believe them to be a true sleep training method or something else.
-Controlled Crying: This type of training is often suggested by doctors and nurses. This is typically Dr. Ferber's methodologies. Dr. Ferber is not lumped under Cry It Out, partially because Dr. Ferber himself is adament that he never used the terminology of Cry It Out. He does however advocate some controlled crying, and not going immediately to an infants cries is most situations. Controlled crying can be staged, ten minutes, then check on them, fifteen, and so on and so forth.
-Cry It Out: CIO for short, these methods are any method that allows a child to cry for any amount of time, either accompanied crying or alone. Cry It Out methods are described in many parenting books today, and I will endevor to make an ongoing list of books that advocate alone or acompanied CIO. If a baby is being comforted during crying, such as a colicky baby, it is NOT considered CIO. Babies cry, and we are not trying to say that if your baby cries you're doing something wrong. The difference is in the reaction to the crying.
-Co Sleeping: Co sleeping is generally sleeping beside the infant. Cosleepers (those sidecar bassinets for your bed) or having your crib beside the bed without the side is considered cosleeping. Co sleeping includes the baby sleeping in the bed with you.
-Bed Sharing/Family Beds: This is just what it sounds like, having your child or children sharing the bed with you.
Other than that, Welcome, and have fun posting!