Brianna - posted on 06/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a 9 month old baby boy, he is a wonderful, easy going, cuddly/loving baby. Lately, when it comes to sleeping he has been fighting me both at night and at nap times. I don't really follow any particular method of parenting, I go with my instincts and cues from my little guy as to what to do in a given situation. When he was about 4 month old we had a great routine for going to sleep, I was able to put him down at the end of it tired but awake and he would fall asleep in minutes, with little to no fussing...not crying just a little talking to himself and rolling around to get comfy and then down usually for the whole night...I know I was very lucky especially with a EBF baby.
When he started teething he needed more comfort and started waking up 1-2 times a night, he sleeps in a crib in our room so I just grab him feed him and right back to his. It seems like with every milestone his sleep has gotten worse. He is now crawling, pulling up, and cruising with walking not far behind. We haven't altered our bedtime routine, except that now I nurse him to sleep, unless he falls asleep when we are carrying him. Lately, the second that I lay him down, completely asleep, he wakes up and starts bawling. When I pick him up again he thinks its play time, even in the middle of the night. I don't know what to do and I feel like it is just getting worse. Both my baby and I need sleep. I can only handle listening to him cry for a couple minutes and then I'm ready to cry too, but I also feel like he needs to be starting to learn how to "self soothe" just a little. After several weeks like this I finally let him just cry, I was in the room and kept touching, patting and rubbing and humming so he would know I was there and after more then 30 mins of crying he was finally asleep and I felt so bad I haven't been able to go back to sleep myself and I'm sitting here crying as I type this.
I'm just at a loss and feeling like a terrible mom right now, does anyone have any suggestions about what to do? Or how long this stage lasts, I'm willing to ride it out as long as I know that it will come to an end. My only request is not to recommend co-sleeping, I CANNOT sleep when my little guy is next to me.
Thank you for listening and I hope you don't judge me to harshly for what I tried.