Victoria - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )
Feeling quite alone in my parenting style right now. My Daughter is 15 weeks old and I am so fed up with not knowing anyone who supports AP or is even doing it. For me I didn't even know that my parenting style had a name ! I was just bringing Willow up the way that felt natural for me, although it has taken along time to get to that point. When she was first born I tried very hard to fit into the 'norm', but it felt wrong so gradually I started to do it my way - co sleep, nurse to sleep, put her in a baby carrier during the day ! I have raised many eyebrows let me tell you ! How sad is that ?
I have started to meet up with lots of new Mums and you know what ? Not one of them is doing it the AP way. They all have their babies in cots and in seperate rooms, they let me CIO and they look at me like I am some raving hippie and that my Daughter is going to be one spoilt brat because I am not doing it the 'normal way'. If I had a pound for each time someone has said to me 'You are making a rod for your own back', I would be rich by now !
I am beginning to feel really isolated and I am even beginning to doubt myself and the way I am raising WIllow.
My theory is that by me sleeping with her, nursing her to sleep, taking naps with her, etc, I am looking after her needs, therefore she will turn out to be a very secure young lady. When she wakes instead of seeing four walls, she sees Mummy. I follow her cues and we are so insync now that she only has to look at me a certain way and I know she needs to feed etc. I feel that I am catering to her every need, therefore she feels confident that she can rely on me, that she can be content knowing that her needs will be met !
Please tell me that there are Mums out there doing it the AP way ! And please let me know how you got support.