for mums that nurse/d their baby off to sleep?

Karley - posted on 04/08/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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how old were they when you stoped nursing them off to sleep?

and what did you do to get them to sleep?



im asking because my 4 month will not sleep unless i nurse him off and when i put him down he wakes up.

he will sleep through the night but not during the day and i want to know what i can do to get him to sleep and stay asleep

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Emily - posted on 04/09/2009

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They were both over a year old. the little one is two and a half and I usually still nurse her to sleep although she can fall asleep without nursing.

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Maria - posted on 07/04/2011

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well. have you tried a soothie for breast feed babies? also you might consider pumping milk and mixing it with a tiny bit of single grain rice cereal and a touch of white Karo syrup to prevent constipation. sometimes babies especially breastfed babies need more than milk. i know i've breastfed 3. I would mix 4 ounces of breast milk with 1 tsp of cereal and half a tsp karo syrup and see how the baby does on that. it's always worked for me.

Merry - posted on 07/04/2011

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Eric was just over two years when I stopped nursing him to sleep for nap and night, I would have continued longer but he started refusing to fall asleep when his little sister was born, we think he was trying to get more one on one mommy time by not falling asleep when I laid down with hum. So he would nurse but not fall asleep and I had to care for the baby too so he ended up having to fall asleep in his bed alone alot. He didn't seem to mind too much so I think two years of bf to sleep prepared him well to fall asleep on his own!

Cinda - posted on 03/30/2011

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My son is 2 1/4 is STILL doesn't like to go to sleep w/o nursing. Just before he turned 2, DADDY started putting him to bed & he would go to sleep w/o nursing but NOT if I did it. He KNEW I was the nurser & if I was in the room or he saw me while Daddy was trying to put him to bed, it was all over, he would cry until I nursed him (hours). As long as he didn't see me & Daddy did all the bedtime stuff & put him to bed, he was pretty ok w/ it (minimal fussing & crying).

Cinda - posted on 03/30/2011

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My son is 2 1/4 is STILL doesn't like to go to sleep w/o nursing. Just before he turned 2, DADDY started putting him to bed & he would go to sleep w/o nursing but NOT if I did it. He KNEW I was the nurser & if I was in the room or he saw me while Daddy was trying to put him to bed, it was all over, he would cry until I nursed him (hours). As long as he didn't see me & Daddy did all the bedtime stuff & put him to bed, he was pretty ok w/ it (minimal fussing & crying).

Christine - posted on 08/05/2009

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I think it all depends.. If i am around I had to nurse Thomas to sleep but I knew for a fact that when I had to work and someone else had him he did alrigth soothing himself by placing his hand on their chest or if they sang to him, but they did lay down with im also I think that helped.. But if was around it was a no go.. he wanted mom

Margie - posted on 07/01/2009

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I know how frustrating it seems right now, but 4 months is still really young. My 7 month old also still nurses to sleep, or at least sleepy enough to be put down. But 4 - 5 months was pure hell for us in the sleeping department and I went through the same thing of worrying about nursing him to sleep, him learning to go to sleep on his own, etc. He sort of just snapped out of it one day and dramatically improved his night and nap sleeping. I truly don't think nursing to sleep is such a bad thing, as so many people and books would have you believe, especially at such a young age still.

Thea - posted on 06/25/2009

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My first daughter always nursed off to sleep until I weaned her off at 12 months - I still have to lay down with her now until she drifts off (she is nearly 4) but I like the cuddles.

My youngest daughter is 8 months and still nurses to sleep. I have started feeding her then laying her down and sometimes she will wake up... I just sit by the cot and gently 'shh' 'shhh'. This seems to work!

Sharon - posted on 06/09/2009

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I nurse my 6 month old to sleep and right before his long afternoon nap. When he was smaller, he almost always fell asleep with my breast in his mouth and I'd have to unlatch myself. But as he got older he always unlatched himself when he was done and turned his head and fell asleep. On some days I still have to unlatch myself but not very often. Does your son have something that he's attached to that could help him sleep? My baby has a lovey and when I'm nursing him, I put the lovey on him and he usually rubs it. Reason is because my oldest who is 26 months goes to sleep with no problem as long as he has his lovey and paci. We take him to his room, put him in his crib, give him his lovey and paci and turn off the lights and goodnight ;) You'll get there. Enjoy this time!

Leah - posted on 06/05/2009

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With my first daughter, I would try to nurse her and put her down before she fell asleep so she'd learn to sleep on her own, etc, etc... But it was so exhausting! I would be in several times a night trying to get her to go to sleep again. With my second daughter, I never even got out the crib, and just nursed and had her sleep in bed with me. She nursed to sleep until she was weaned at 2. Now, we are co-sleeping/nursing to sleep with my third, a boy, and I am enjoying the restful nights. I don't have to get up and rock him, several times a night, just roll over, nurse, and fall back asleep. I guess I've gotten lazy as the years go on!! By the way, he will nap on his own during the day too.. I think babies sense that naps are different than sleeping through the night.

Meg - posted on 05/26/2009

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Don't feel pressured to have a baby that "sleeps through the night" My son is 15 months old and still wakes for night feeds. I read an article in Mothering magazine just recently that says that's just biologically what babies are programmed to do. And to quote the article in the may-june 2009 issue, "night waking in infancy is not a bad thing, especially from the point of view of survival, optimal development, and emotional connection. Night waking appears to serve several protective, reparative and attachment functions. infants enter REM sleep first, have shorter sleep cycles and spend much greater amounts of time in REM sleep, by thus spending less time in a deep sleep, they get greater brain stimulation, and more access to breastmilk and maternal presence"

www.mothering.com

trust your baby and your body!

Sherri - posted on 05/14/2009

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My baby would not fall asleep unless she nursed until about 4 days ago when she decided that she was not going to breast feed anymore.... she is 1 already so I think that when they outgrow it they will stop you just have to decide how long you want to do it. Also he may during the day need you to extend the time between sleep encourage him to get on a schedule. I am not sure if you have one but maybe if he is sleeping thru the night he is only in need of one long and one mini nap a day. Or maybe just one nap a day. Its clear that he can put himself back to sleep at night because you said that he does stay asleep. Just a tired not well constructed thought... lol

MariLynn - posted on 05/11/2009

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I nurse my baby to sleep still and she is 13 months old. Its too early to expect babies to sleep through the night- that is an expectation that is put onto babies not a developmental milestone. Some parents brag that their baby sleeps through the night but many of those parents also let the baby cry it out and that's a no go. You just have to be patient and understanding. Co-sleeping does help; when the baby awakens at night he'll fall asleep a lot quicker if he's snuggling against momma.

Anastasia - posted on 05/07/2009

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my boy is 6 months and still nursed to sleep, I am going to continue to do this until it is not nescessary and he is old enough and starting to understand things better. people say negative things like "how are you going to get him to sleep at two, huh?" and things like that, so id rather not talk about it off the internet.

I agree with some of the other posts, make sure bub is really asleep before you put him down. You may also want to try another sleeping position belly, back, side whichever works.

My cousin, whos 3 now, wasn't weaned until she was 2 1/2 years and was put to bed by the breast until then, because of her age it was easier to transition her into some other way to put her to sleep. she's still not completely doing by herself, but she's getting there.

June - posted on 05/07/2009

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Your baby sounds similar to mine... she sleeps through the night but never used to sleep during the day. At night I always nurse her to sleep and when she's decided she's done eating, I move her to an upright position in my arms (her head on my shoulder) to burp her and continue to rock her until I can move her from one arm to the other without her twitching. That's when I know she's asleep and I can usually put her down without her waking. It took a week or so to get to this point. Now she's 15 weeks old and for the last 2-3 weeks has had a routine of sleeping throughout the day, about 3 times a day, but only if I hold her... and she'll sleep for close to an hour. I'm working on trying to put her down to nap... try try again! :) I leave the house work for later.

Hope that helps a little... good luck!

Stacey - posted on 05/02/2009

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I nurse my baby to sleep or use a paci, but he usually only lets me get him to go to sleep, and no one else. He fights it big time. I would wait a good while before putting him down for bed. I usually get my baby to sleep, lay him in his crib, and when he wakes up for the first time, I bring him in bed with me (usually around 4:45 am).

Cassie - posted on 04/29/2009

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Last night was the first night my 17-month old son went to sleep without being nursed down. My husband laid in bed with him until he fell asleep. I never even tried to get him to sleep on his own - too much work! When he was a baby, he would fall asleep in his bouncy chair or swing. He did fine going to sleep when he wasn't around me. But if I was there, he knew it and wanted to nurse.

Ashley - posted on 04/27/2009

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I nurse my baby to sleep at naptime and then transfer her directly into her swing. At night, I try to nurse her in the middle of the bedtime routine (like after the bath but before her book) and then give her a binky and hold her like we're nursing and we rock with the lights out...then directly into the swing again when she's asleep. The swing's swaying motion mimics that of me rocking her, without me having to dedicate another 30+ minutes to rocking a sleeping baby. It makes a huge difference to me when our bedtime routine already takes up to an hour, and I just want to get a few things done at the end of the night!
(She then sleeps in her swing for the first few hours, and after she wakes up I bring her to my bed to nurse and sleep. I used to always nurse her to sleep in our bed, but she's mobile now and absolutely can *not* be left anywhere that she's not confined--so her carseat, swing and crib are the only places she can sleep alone until mommy comes to bed! She's not hot on the crib.)

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You can still nurse him to sleep, you just have to make sure that he has stopped twitching (I know, it sounds funny, right?) in order to move him to his bed. Meaning: his eyes stay closed and his arms, legs, fingers, etc aren't moving around at all during his exciting baby dreams. It takes about 10-15 minutes from the time they appear to be asleep, but it is worth it.



I didn't learn this trick until my second son and its a lifesaver!



If I'm desperate to get the baby to sleep, I wear her in a sling or carrier and it puts her right out.

Erica - posted on 04/16/2009

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My little guy nurses to sleep in the afternoon, but in the morning he's fine with some swaying to sleep. It's good to know that other Moms are going through this. I was wondering if I was starting a bad habit, but I have no problem doing what's best for him.

Itsamystery - posted on 04/08/2009

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Many babies are like this - they only want the good stuff from mom! You could try having dad persist for 10-20 minutes before you take over, depending of course on how badly your son protests. If he really hates it try dad for 2 mins, then 3, then 5, then 7, etc. He might eventually get used to it.

They do recommend waiting about 15-20 minutes after baby has fallen asleep before putting them down. Do you wait? If they're not in a deep enough sleep the movement will wake them. The floppy-arm test is a good one. Lift his/her arm, if it's floppy and just drops back down, it's safe to lay baby down.

Does he fall asleep in the pram? This can be an alternative way to get baby to sleep.

I wouldn't worry too much though. They do get into the habit of nursing to sleep, but ths isn't an evil thing; nursing is usually the quickest and easiest way, and any habit can be broken with some patience down the track.

Karley - posted on 04/08/2009

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he usualy screams when his dad tries getting him to sleep he also screams when his dad gives him a bottle of EBM

Itsamystery - posted on 04/08/2009

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I find the same as Tricia; other people can get my son to sleep no problem, they just say 'ok, time for bed, night night', and he goes down just like that. But he will not go to sleep without nursing for me. We're just about to try night weaning, by having dad take over at bed time and night wakings, so I'll let you know in a few days how that goes. My son is 22 months old.

Can you get dad to help rock him to sleep or something like that?

Tricia - posted on 04/08/2009

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My LO will not go to sleep without nursing if I'm in the room, but if I leave, someone else can jiggle him untill he drifts off.  He will also sleep in a baby carrier, so I often wear him.  Sometimes he sleeps in his carseat , but he cries a little to help put himself to sleep if no one's holding him.  Usually only two or three minutes.  You know, just long enough to make you feel like a terrible parent, but not long enough for Daddy to get annoyed enough to pull over.

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