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My hubby is very supportive in the methods I choose to use when parenting our daughter. His parents, not so much. They keep telling me that I need to get my 10 mth old trained to sleep by herself. When I was pregnant and we told them our baby would sleep in our room with us, his mom responded, "Oh but then it will wake you up. Better to have the baby in its own room so that you can sleep." I'm thinking, um that's the point of having the baby in the room with us, so I can wake up and feed her. Recently she gave me a book that "helped her". It was written in 1985. Hm.... I'm also thinking that methods have changed much since then. They tell me that letting them cry doesn't hurt the baby.
Lets look at the facts: My husband was, obviously, a cry it out baby. I love him terribly but it takes a lot of effort for him to show emotion towards me. I'm a very affectionate person. I have to be patient and understanding, but repetitive, that I like to be held and touched and kissed often. He CAN'T cry. Not that it's a manly thing, but he literally can't squeeze one tear. Our daughter breastfed, co-sleeps, and was a close carry baby. She is warm, happy, and affectionate. She hugs often, gives kisses, laughs often, and plays gently with her baby dolls. Her development is incredible! Her motor skills are that of an 18 month old.
I think I'll stick to my method. But now, when is it okay to let them babysit? I love them dearly, aside from the CIO thing. I want them to have a loving relationship with my daughter, but I don't want them to just let her cry! What does everyone else feel about this? Am I just being weird about this and one weekend is okay? What are your experiences with CIO v. Not CIO? LOL, discuss!