Anne - posted on 04/22/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
My 13 month old little girl has always been a people person. Since she was 6 or 7 months old she would get excited when she saw children in a playground or on TV or anywhere. When she started toddling I took her to playgroups. We tried so many. She would be so happy and excited to play with the other children. She went to touch them on their arm and flash beaming friendly smiles at them, brought them a toy or just tried to be involved in what they were doing but every single child would scowl at her, push past her, steal her toy or just totally ignore her. In the end we stopped going because all it was doing was hurting her. For a while after intensive playgrouping she seemed to have lost her desire to play with other children. Now she just sees other children when we go out to shops or the clinic or the park and the same thing continues. She is back to being so friendly and happy to see them. Just yesterday we were at the clinic and she saw a little boy there of about 3 and she smiled at him and shyly helped him to turn the wheels on an activity toy. The boy looked at me and I smiled at him so then he puffed himself up with pride and proceeded to show off to the grown up. My little girl thought she had found a play friend but then he rolled his eyes, sighed, wrenched the toy away from her and took it to a location where she couldn't play. She was left looking forlorn. A few days earlier we went to a garden centre and she was playing in the outdor play area when a 17 month old little girl came to play too. Same thing, my little girl ran up to her so happily, I enaged the mother in conversation so she might let them play together. My baby followed the other girl around and got totally ignored. The only time the girl payed her any attention was when she decided she would steal my little girls car and went to push her out of the way. The week before she thought she was playing a game of pushing chairs around with an older girl when the girl knocked her down to go off to her mum. My baby is only young but she does seem to understand being rejected. I have advertised to see if any moms with friendly children wanted to go on playdates but only a few responded and their children were not friendly. I don't know what to do. I don't want to keep her isolated but are all the constant knock-backs going to affect her confidence? Is it unusual for a toddler to want to play with other children? She is not so interested in the toys as in interacting with the children.