Crystal - posted on 02/10/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
This was not taken well in another thread, because apparently it's too against everyone's beliefs in there and how dare I tell them they are wrong, and besides, it's Jan Hunt telling it not me. In another thread I was attacked because I was apparently the only one who doesn't believe in spanking, and then was accused of not raising my kids from the bible because of it because the bible says "spare the rod, spoil the child".
Well the bible doesn't say it, some satirical novelist wrote a poem that it says it in and the poem and most of his novels were apparently about ending child abuse. I find it ironic that people who say that are unaware of this. Plus the fact that they are quoting scripture that isn't even scripture.
So I found this article, and since I would like someone to read it, because I found it so interesting I thought I'd post it here, where it would probably get a little more understanding.
This was the part I found most interesting and enlightening.
4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children.
While the "rod" is mentioned many times in the Bible, it is only in the Book of Proverbs that this word is used in connection with parenting. The book of Proverbs is attributed to Solomon, an extremely cruel man whose harsh methods of discipline led his own son, Rehoboam, to become a tyrannical and oppressive dictator who only narrowly escaped being stoned to death for his cruelty. In the Bible there is no support for harsh discipline outside of Solomon's Proverbs. By contrast, the writings in the Gospels, the most important books in the Bible for Christians, contain the teachings of Jesus Christ, who urged mercy, forgiveness, humility, and non-violence. Jesus saw children as being close to God, and urged love, never punishment.3
So apparently the love and acceptance I give my child is God sanctioned, which I already knew because I just couldn't imagine God wanting me to hit my kids in any way.