Sandra - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )
I am a SAHM and am ALWAYS with my daughter of 4 months. I love her to pieces and need help with something....
I know that this is not normal, and maybe obsessive....but i HATE when my MIL holds my daughter. I feel awful for feeling this way but i cant help it. I dont mind when I am there and she is holding her...I am taling about when she takes her from me, and walks to another room "to be alone"
I dont have a mom so its not like i let my own mother hold my daughter, and not the MIL.
I want my daughter to have a good relationship with her grandma, but I just feel that she is mine and i dont want to share her. I feel that for 9 months I didnt have to share her, Now that she is here i have to share her, and I dont know how. My husband holds her, baths her, changes her etc. and I dont have a problem with this. I also dont have a problem with our friends holding her...but for the MIL is the only one i feel this way about,
Maybe it is because my husband and I were never close to her before the baby, and now all of a suddon shes in our lives? maybe it is because I dont feel she is my family so why is she holding my baby?
I DO let her hold my baby, I am NOT trying to stop her from having a relationship with my daughter, I do not tell her how I feel
I am not here looking to be judged...I know my feelings are strange, I am looking for advice from other moms that might have felt this way, and how they got over it,