Not his first!

A place for expecting, new and experienced mothers who had their first child with a partner who already had one.

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i need help dealing with my boyfriends ex

I can not stand my boyfriend's ex wife she is bi polar and at times we are not sure if we can trust her with there daughter she is taking there kid around drug dealers and all...

Started by Brenda on 01/25/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 06/30/2014 by Amber

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Biomom horror stories

Hey everyone. I was just reading thru some posts and it seems like everyone on here has to deal with the same BM issues so I thought why not share some of the more difficult...

Started by Sonya on 02/02/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 09/24/2012 by Annette

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What top 3 questions should you ask...

yourself BEFORE you enter into a committed stepfamily relationship? I know many of you are already stepmoms. But I would like to know, what should you have asked yourself...

Started by Claudette on 03/08/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 04/08/2012 by Kirsten

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What to do when hubby doesn't control SS?

My SS is 13 years old, and since his Dad gave me a ring 2 years ago, he's wanted nothing to do with me (which has caused MAJOR problems with hubby and I)...I feel we shouldnt...

Started by Laura on 04/15/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/21/2011 by Sarah

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Quick Question

Is it normal to not have a connection to your boyfriend/husband's kid? I have not formed a bond with my SS and it's taking a toll on my relationship. Would just like some...

Started by Natalie on 04/02/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 01/20/2011 by Rachael

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TMI WARNING...Need advice

I'm in a hard place right now...I'm 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced...And my SO refuses to have sex with me...Not because he's scared...His reasoning is he can't feel...

Started by Dara on 09/15/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 01/13/2011 by Bobbi

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is this normal??

i love my husband very much but knowing he had a wife before me kinda bugs me and i dont really care for his daughter with her which bothers me to i like her and shes cute but i...

Started by Emily on 01/22/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 11/11/2010 by Elizabeth

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Hoping this won't turn into a big deal...!

We were supposed to have my SS over for his (15th) birthday weekend a couple of weeks ago but due to bloody men and their miscommunication it never happened. DH and SS were...

Started by Rowan on 06/14/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 06/26/2010 by Rowan

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need advice on how to handle a situation

We found out last month that SD (who will be 4 next month) has been told about her BM (by BM's family) since she passed....when SD was not quite 13 months!!! DH and I know how...

Started by Laura on 04/15/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 04/23/2010 by Erin

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Co-parenting....

Co-parenting... otherwise known as being BMs slave. My Dh, oh what a man, has found this new stance in which he wants us (yes us) to deal with BM and her family. I have no idea...

Started by Deborah on 02/12/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/22/2010 by Jennifer

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Older Step Children

Hi I'm 31, and i'm very lucky to have 3 Beautiful stepdaughters who are 15, 27 and 29!!! AND 2 Scrumptious Step Grandaughters who are 2 and 1 ! I also have a son of 9 myself,...

Started by Chelsey on 01/22/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/21/2010 by Louise

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Travel out of country

My husband's ex took their daughter to Mexico...without his written and notarized consent. She does not have sole custody they have joint. How she managed that is beyond me or...

Started by Lucia on 03/18/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/21/2010 by Louise

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Should you argue in front of your kids?

I've recently read studies that found that its not fighting that's destructive, but how parents handle the fight. Conflict is unavoidable — in most marriages it can be a...

Started by Shelby on 02/26/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/05/2010 by Julie

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Introductions!

Hello! I am currently expecting a child and my fiance already has a three year old. I was the sole care giver for this child until the custody changed. Its a difficult thing...

Started by Deborah on 01/21/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/04/2010 by Angie

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Need Motivation

I need motivation to keep going. Me and my husband have been fighting for two years to protect my SS. We have used every available resource available including CPS and...

Started by Sonya on 02/24/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 03/01/2010 by Wendy-Lynn

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Stepdaughter is growing up too fast??

My stepdaughter is 10 years old and lives about 6 hours away from us. Needless to say, we usually only see her during the summer. The other day she called me to ask for my...

Started by Kendra on 02/17/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 02/27/2010 by Julie

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Bio mom took husband's daughter out of state

Can anyone help me try and figure out what to do? My husband's ex took his daughter out of state. Since, she took her out of state he has not been able to have is visitation...

Started by Ashley on 02/21/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 02/25/2010 by Shannon

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Modesty

I'm newish to this whole "mom/stepmom" thing so any advice would be great. I'm wondering when should a child begin to have a sense of modesty, and what is privet? My 3 1/2 year...

Started by Deborah on 02/10/2010 in Not His First!

Last update on 02/17/2010 by Deborah