Kathryn - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 4 in November. She has toilet trained for 8 months now. Self-trained, we had little to do with it. The first week she was in panties she did have accidents but realized that she didn't like that and soon had none. We've gone all this time with no accidents of any kind.
The school started again for her big sister. Suddenly every few days there was an accident. Then it increased to daily and the last two weeks it's happening more than once a day and she even had a poop accident one day. She's not happy with the accidents but she keeps having them. Talking to her hasn't helped. She knows big girls go in the toilet. She's verbal but she's not saying why she's having the accidents. She just bursts into tears and says "big girls go in toilets." She's become clingy since big sister started school. I almost can't get a thing done during the day. So I spend a lot of time playing with her or doing preschool stuff with her at home. (she doesn't attend preschool....we are in that catch 22 of middle income families...earn too much for state programs and after bills are paid each month there's not much playing room to add on the cost of preschool so I work with my kids myself) I do ask her to play by herself sometimes while I do some cleaning or whatever. I must have a break from her by my side constantly or I'll go batty. I love her but...yeah you get the idea. She's always been an independent child so this is all new.
At first I tried not making a big deal out of it. But as the accidents have increased my patience is decreasing. I can't think of how to help her solve this. And today is NOT good. My husband who usually more patient with the girls, decided to have her back in pull-ups during the day if she can't use the toilet. (she's a very heavy sleeper and so we have them for bedtime only) He told her if she's going to have accidents like a baby then she has to wear a pull-up. She's NOT a happy little girl this morning. And I know that even though he's a good daddy, when he gets like this there is no arguing....well I could try but when he gets like that it'll just lead to a huge fight and I really don't feel like going down that road.
Usually I can brain storm and think of ways to solve a problem for my girls. But I'm having my own minor medical issues currently and my brain is already in such a fog that I'm fresh out of ideas on this issue with our daughter.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.