Am I the only on still carrying my 4 year old?

Kristin - posted on 02/09/2012

I carry my 4 year old boy around when he gets tierd. He is 40 lbs. It really doesnt bother me but it does when family yells at me and saying hes too old. Am I spoiling him? Everyone has something to say. He is really clingy at this age too. People get jealous when I put my son first. Its frustrating at times. What am I supposed to do? He will grow out of this I am sure.



Kristin

Jodie - posted on 06/29/2011

I still carry my five year old sometimes just because I love her so much, she doesn't often ask to be carried but 9 out of 10 accepts to be carried either on my shoulders or my back, not very often of my hip.
I have also, though rarely, given my eight year old (now 9) on my back.

Bonnie - posted on 06/25/2011

My daughter will be 5 in 3 months and I still carry her when she is tired or lagging behind. I am slender and short and she is the size of a 6 year old, but I love holding her and that she loves when I do. Only when she needs though. Its not like she's 10, she's still my baby :-)

Misty - posted on 02/11/2010

I remember thinking how weird it was to see people carrying their "older" kids. But now my son is 4 I catch myself holding him and for some reason it doesn't seem so weird

Kate - posted on 02/09/2010

Nope! My son is 40 lbs now at 4 and yea some people have said I look silly trying to carry him sometimes but I still do once in awhile. I think I do it because i still look at him like hes my baby maybe because he is the last one i will have or that I just spoil him more being older this time and more attentive. What do you think?

Dawn - posted on 02/09/2010

I still carry my 4yo little man around sometimes: I love it! He is very independent but sometimes he just needs/wants mamma: I see nothing wrong with it. Before we know it they'll be way to big and not even want to be seen in public with their moms!

Sara - posted on 01/30/2010

LOL! I was carrying my 4 y.o. until I became pregnant again! I still sometimes need to carry her like if she falls asleep in the car or on the couch and my hubbys working! But I'm very careful, lift her properly, and try not to carry her long distances. She understands but still keeps asking if I can carry her again after the baby's out! Almost like Danielle, I'm just under 5' and around 100lbs, and even 34 lbs is a bit much while pregnant!

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2010

No! I was starting to think the same thing. My daughter does it too and she is HEAVY and I dont think she realizes it!

Yanet - posted on 01/29/2010

oooo no!! I still carry mind...My back hurts really bad as well..thank god for back rubs

Lindsey - posted on 01/22/2010

Mine loves to be independant but doesn't matter what time of day she reverts back to "the baby" which she knows she is .... I also don't think it helps when the older children treat her like a baby either. No matter what I have tried short of walking slowly away and letting her cry as she walks after me (she allows follows can't stand me leaving her) I have not been able to find anyway to break her of the I want up mommy.

Rhonda - posted on 01/17/2010

You are not alone!
I carry my 51lb 4 yr old on occasion- usually when he's tired. People look at me like I'm strange because he is big and tall for his age.
Fortunately, this is a rare occasion.
I'm trying to wean him off because he's just getting to heavy and I'm beginning to feel it in my back. :/

Heather - posted on 01/16/2010

my son is just plain out lazy...if he wasn't a bit skinny i would have told him NO a long time ago...in a way i still like it too coz it shows he still wants to becared for rather than be all grown up and not wanting that much affection anymore

Julissa - posted on 01/16/2010

Yes!

Cindy - posted on 01/15/2010

My son don't really want to be carried unless he is very tired, hurt or I need to get into a store b/c of rain or something. Other then that he walks and he will say... "Mama I big boy now me can walk myself" and that is what I let him do. If you choose to carry you daughter around then that is fine, but lets hope by 5 or 6 she still don't want to be carried that would have to bother your back.

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2010

I still carry my 4 year old. After a full day of school she is really tired or sometimes in the morning. I even do it sometimes just so she will stay still. LOL

Megan - posted on 01/12/2010

Everyday when we come home from dropping my daughter off at school he says "mommy my legs are tired" and he almost insists on being carried. I refuse to and tell him that my arms are tired.

Angela - posted on 01/11/2010

No. My four year old does the same thing. He is Mr. Independent all day long, but before bed, he turns into the biggest baby of all. I'vce been wondering if I was the only one with that problem.

Angie

Heather - posted on 01/04/2010

My daughter occasionally asks to be carried. She has to be really tired or in one of her lovey moods. I have to try and tell her gently though that she is a big girl and I can't carry her. She is tall and getting much heavier!

Elaine - posted on 01/03/2010

Quoting Elizabeth:

Am I the only on still carrying my 4 year old?

She wants to be independant...but when the sun goes down, she still wants to be held on my hip. My back is getting tired, but I can't seem to say no. Is she the only one out there?

you know i LOVE carrying my four year old. i'm small and 9 months pregnant but i really love it and know that very soon she won't want me to. that's how i look at it. -elaine

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2010

I stopped when mine was around two and 1/2 because I had my daughter and had to carry her. My back has two herniated discs and I couldn't do it anymore. It was hard for him because he was jealous of his sister. she is going to be two soon and am ready to stop carrying her (mostly). My son threw fits and cried but he eventually got over it and now loves his independence. Good luck!!

Brandi - posted on 01/02/2010

No maam, there is nothing wrong with carrying your 4 year old. I do, when I can, he is a chunk now lol.

Christina - posted on 01/01/2010

No I still carry my 4 year old. I carry her everywhere we go

She is very independant but when we go out she on my hip

Lu - posted on 01/01/2010

you are not the only one, our 4 years old still wants us to carry her when we walk for a while, I am trying to break that habbit too.

Susan - posted on 12/31/2009

My 4 year old is carried around a lot too. He still seems to need that emotionally, and it's okay with me since my back is okay. If it's hurting your back, maybe you could explain that to your 4 year old, and sit down with her and snuggle a bit instead.

Melissa - posted on 12/30/2009

this doesn't sound good for you! I think it is time to start weening her off the carrying. My son tries it on when we are out, but not at home. I have no great plan to help you, but I think you should do something - it cannot be good for you.

Danielle - posted on 12/28/2009

I rarely ever carry my daughter around. I told her once she turned 4 that means she is a "Big Girl" and mommy couldn't carry her anymore. I still do on a very rare occasion. I hold her and cuddle on the couch and all but as far as walking to the store, around the mall etc its very rare i will pick her up.
it doesn't help that i am very short (barely 5'1) and she is already 36' or something like that not really sure on her height but she is too tall for me to carry her..lol

Michelle - posted on 12/19/2009

I pick my son up when he wants to be held but then he is so independent he wants to get down and do things. I hold him, hug him, and let him go.

Angie - posted on 12/17/2009

My four year old still wants to be carried as well. We make her walk most of the time, but will still carry her when we are in a hurry. She ends up on Daddies shoulders more often than not.

Nikki - posted on 12/16/2009

haha no way my 4 yr old still wants me to carry her every where and i have tried everything to get her to stop being carried.

Andrea - posted on 12/13/2009

I carry my girl around too, sometimes if shes too tired to walk or if i'm trying to get somewhere fast and shes dawdles! I'm sure its fine!