how do you deal with a defiant and aggressive 2 year old?

Kirsty - posted on 10/13/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son has changed so much lately. He is aggresive and really naughty, I dont know how to deal with him right now. He says no to everything, hits me, bites me, pulls my hair for no reason or at random times. He also finds the hardest surface possible and bangs his head on it. either when he gets told off or for no reason at all.

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User - posted on 10/20/2009

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My daughter was doing the hair pulling and honestly I got fed up and pulled her hair back. No enough to hurt but it got her attention and she stopped. She also went through a not so cute phase of digging her nails in to my leg or arm when she was mad. For that one I just would put her down and say "Let me know when you want to be nice." and after a few minutes of being ignored she would pat me softy and say sorry. Its an idea seems to work for my little monkey.

Kirsty - posted on 10/14/2009

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Thanks alot Ashley that is great information. He has been moved up a room in childcare now so hopefully that is more mind stimulating for him.

Ashley - posted on 10/14/2009

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Hi, Kirsty! I had the same problem with my two year old...I got so frustrated, because it felt like no matter what I did, nothing worked. Not even time outs...it only made him "freak out" more. More screaming, more fits...etc. I went to the doc and talked to her about it, and she gave me a hand out. I knew I couldn't write it all here, so I googled it, found the link to the same thing on parenting.com and wanted to send it your way in hope that it may have some sort of advice that can help you with your son.



http://www.parenting.com/article/Toddler...



I hope this phase passes quickly - I know what a struggle it is to have to handle his tantrums. If it's any comfort...my little guy is starting to "chill out" now. Finally. When I thought I couldn't take it anymore, he finally just snapped out of his little phase, and all I have to put up with is regular toddler tantrums. Best of luck...I know it's tough.

Kirsty - posted on 10/13/2009

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im trying time out at the moment with him so hopefully that works. The strange thing is, when he is with other people they say is really good but with me he is horrible. Thanks for advice.

Cassandra - posted on 10/13/2009

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My daughter likes to throw things when she gets angry. She also does many of the things your son does but she does them to her older sister. She spends a lot of time in time out and it seems to be getting better. Getting them to stay in timeout can be rough sometime but you just have to keep trying!

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