My daughter is 2 and rufeses to give up her Bottle! any Idea's?

Cheryl - posted on 11/17/2009

My daughter will be two next week. I can't imagine (after five kids) having a two year old with a bottle. She does need to lose the habit now before she is four and still using a bottle. She will choose to use a cup when you make it clear that you expect her to and that you will only allow her to do that. Two year olds are not babies and they know, at that age, who is in control. If you let your child be in control now, she will be in control when she is five, and ten, and fifteen.
You can show her who is in charge by simply quietly and firmly telling her that she may not have a bottle, if she wants a drink she will use a cup. If she gets the milk out of the fridge in protest, you quietly and firmly tell her that she will not get milk unless she drinks it out of a cup and then put the milk away in the fridge (how about on a shelf she cannot reach?)
The reason that I am responding so strongly is two-fold. First, you sound entirely frustrated by this situation. You sound like you believe that it is inappropriate to have a two year old still drinking only from a bottle. You are the mom and you should be in charge - so take charge.
Secondly, our society is being taken over by children who have been raised to believe they are the center of their universe. They are selfish, demanding, rude, sometimes criminal. They have been taught that they can have their way whenever they want. It is up to us parents to show them that they must conform to society - put others first sometimes, share what we have with those who don't, love others more than they love themselves or their things, etc. If each of us parents will step up and expect more out of our children, we can change the future for the better.
God bless your endeavors with this child. Whatever you do to fix this issue, make sure she knows that you love her enough to expect better behavior (no screaming) and that she is growing up and when we grow up things change.

Sara-lou - posted on 11/17/2009

Quoting sherry:

My daughter just turned 2 on sunday and she still takes the bottle. She has one in the morning with juice and one at night with milk. I look at it this way, hopefully she will live a long and healthy life to at least 85 years or longer and so why would it matter if your child uses a bottle for 2 or 3 years? I have never heard stories that your child is disruptive or aggressive or a drug user because she used a bottle for too long. I figure this is her vice just like everyone has one!! Good luck!!!

 

 

i have to say i agree my son turned 2 sunday aswell n he also only has 2 bottle's day.   If it isn't harming her or stopping her develpoment in anyway y take it away health visitors and midwife's think all children are text book baby's so follow you instincts n you being the mommy decide whats best  GOOD LUCK....!

i have to say i agree my son turned 2 sunday aswell n he also only has 2 bottle's day.   If it isn't harming her or stopping her develpoment in anyway y take it away health visitors and midwife's think all children are text book baby's so follow you instincts n you being the mommy decide whats best  GOOD LUCK....!

Sherry - posted on 11/17/2009

My daughter just turned 2 on sunday and she still takes the bottle. She has one in the morning with juice and one at night with milk. I look at it this way, hopefully she will live a long and healthy life to at least 85 years or longer and so why would it matter if your child uses a bottle for 2 or 3 years? I have never heard stories that your child is disruptive or aggressive or a drug user because she used a bottle for too long. I figure this is her vice just like everyone has one!! Good luck!!!

Ashley - posted on 11/14/2009

i really dont know what to tell you shes very strong willed.. my daughter is also jsut turned 2 on the 6th of nov she hasnt had a bottle since she was 14 months i think.. my best suggestion is just take it away yes shes going to scream and throw a fit but just throw them out and refuse to give her it again only offer her sippys if shes thristy she will drink... and put a lock on the fridge lol... my daughter is also very strong willed when it comes to thinks she wants but she knows that no matter how much she cried or screams shes not gonna get it if its something i dont want her to have... best of luck to you