Talking??

Monique - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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Everytime I go into a well baby check up they ask if my son can say so many words, and of course my answer is "no" He says the regular mama, dada and stuff like that but no actual words yet. I have two older daughters aged 6 and 3 and they talk nonstop. So, I shouldn't worry about him not talking yet, but in the back of my mind I wonder to myself " why doesn't he talk yet ?" I'm not too worried but it still bothers me that he doesn't say real words!! He walked early on and he was early on all the other milestones that babies go through so, why so late at talking?? Any advice?? Or even just words of confidence that all babies are different and he will eventually talk. I feel like something is wrong when I tell my doc that he doesn't talk and I am afraid my doc will tell me he should be talking by now! Am I just being a worry wart or could there be something wrong??

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Chasity - posted on 07/24/2009

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My daughter doesn't even say mom, mamma, or anything close to mom, I think she has a whole 5-10 words, if that. she even says something that sounds like brad, who is her uncle, but that could be cuz my son is always saying uncle brad uncle brad. Some days i worry about her speach, but then I look at the differences between her and her brother and how they have reached each milestone at completly different times, and I calm down.

Susan - posted on 07/23/2009

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Ah, everyone says the same thing, don't worry about it! My daughter is 20 months, just started working on speech about a month ago, though she had some words and phrases she would use before that. My son was a talker by the time he was 20 months, but I told both my kids that they had to learn the words because I wasn't going to keep guessing what they were trying to tell me! So far, that strategy as well as naming objects, colors, etc. is working just fine. My daughter started walking a week before her 1st birthday, and seemed to be working so hard on mobility that I never worried about speech. So I bet you'll be just fine in a few months! :) Good luck.

Gina - posted on 07/22/2009

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my daughter (20 months) can only say mama dada and by bye and the dr told me that usually when babies have older siblings, that the older siblings will answer for them most of the time. so it's normal. all babies are different. my oldest daughter who is 9 now, talked like a grown up at an very young age. u could literally hold a conversation with her, on the other hand my son didn't talk good til he was about 3 so don't worry.

Isis - posted on 07/16/2009

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I would not worry!
He probably is so secure in his life with you and older siblings that he has not NEEDED to talk too much yet. I hear that happens a lot with younger siblings(and I have heard that boys sometimes take longer too). When I was a toddler I talked nonstop and knew my ABC's at 18 months. My younger sister on the other hand, did not really start talking until 3 and when she did she had a 200+ word vocabulary. She obviously didn't feel the need to communicate in English until then. As long as you feel like he comprehends what you are saying, and if your heart tells you he is fine, I wouldn't worry!

Elise - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have a 19 month old son and he is the same way. Everyone I have talked to about it says the same thing, give it time and he will talk when he is ready to. He has a little girlfriend 2 months older than him and she speaks a mile a minute. I think that girls develop faster at language then boys do. That is what my doctor and others have told me. My sister-in-law had her son first and he was the same way.

Jen - posted on 07/15/2009

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My daughter is the same... She understands when we ask her to do stuff and generally will do as we ask (ie pass mummy your juice bottle etc) but is not talking yet apart from mummy, daddy, babbling and noises which we now recognise as her trying to say certain things (for example, thank you or bye!) She too was a good steady walker quite early and I wonder sometimes if it is because of that? She will be having gromets put in in the next couple of months as she has fluid in her ears, and she was born with cleft of the soft palate so this can all affect her speech development... I still try not to worry too much though - I think that it doesn't help to get your self in a pickle about these things.

If you are very worried, perhaps go and see your health visitor (or equivilant depending where you are of course!)

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I have a friend who has a child the same age as my oldest son. She and I can't help but compare our two children. My child talked very early and hers didn't, but hers potty trained very early and mine didn't. Of course we both became very concerned about both issues. She went to her doctor and the doctor said the usual "no two children are alike", but what surprised me is that her doctor also said that children usually work on one skill at a time. Mine was working on talking and hers was working on potty training. I say that all to say that your baby might be working on another skill right now. Give him time. I can only imagine how much noise three talkers would make in your house right now!

Alysia - posted on 07/09/2009

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No two children are the same, but you should tell your doctor. If something is wrong (and I'm not saying there is) your doc can do tests to figure out the best way to help. You don't want any problem to go unnoticed and then it get worse. But I think the general rule is if they don't talk by 2 years then something is wrong...

Racheal - posted on 07/07/2009

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Usually when they have older sibilings they start talking later in life. The reason for that is becasue the older sibiling talks for them, this may not be the case for you but I know I have seen it a lot. Also boys are late talkers they like to sit back and absorb stuff before tehy strat jabbering. My nephew was very soft spoken until he hit about 3 or so then it weas like BAM, now he won't shut up lol. I woldn't be too worried.

Sandra - posted on 06/20/2009

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Sounds like we're all saying the same thing here girls, I don't think any of us has anything to worry about. A year from now we'll all be complaining about our little chatterboxes!

Joanne - posted on 06/20/2009

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Hi. I too have the same probably with my daughter. she was born november 17th. She says mum, dad, nana, cat etc. Then she will say random words one day and then doesnt say it again for awhile. The other day she said two words together and now want say it again. She points to objects that she wants or she takes you to want she wants either in the fridge or the cupboard. I was worried about her speaking but now I'm not to bothered now because she was quicker at all her other milestones like walking so her talking will come eventually in her own time. All I do is to encourage her by the objects that she is pointing to i say the word and hopefully 1 day she will copy me.

Crystal - posted on 06/18/2009

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My son is 18 months now and he says hardly anything, not mom or dad, but sill things, uh oh, duck, light, quick, nothing interesting. I feel the same way to, but the health nurse said boys are slower and not to worry

Sandra - posted on 06/13/2009

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Wow, (Beth Astle), I hadn't heard that, but it explains a few things. Nikita has had bad reflux all her life until about a couple of weeks ago, and didn't get her teeth until very late, so has been eating mushy foods until about a month ago. And literally, just in the last two weeks is when she has suddenly popped out a few words, like, dog, hand, pop (when she wants a lollipop) and apple, (which comes out 'arrbull').

Beth - posted on 06/13/2009

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My son is 18mnths and is the same, only mum or dad yet is constantly talking babble. My community nurse informed me that speech is directly related to reflux and eating solids. My son has had probs with both. Once you rule out hearing probs, i wouldn't stress too much. He will do it when he's ready, sometimes kids are just stubborn!!

Sandra - posted on 06/12/2009

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My girl is 19 months, and saying a few words, but we are not concerned, as she abbles with very real conviction, you would swear she is having a conversation, but in another language. She knows exactly what we are saying, and from a very early age would do as we asked her, and because we are with her a lot, we understand what she wants when she asks with just a sound, point, or look. So there is no pressure for her to 'have' to say words, and every now and then she will suddenly come out with a word, which we treat with absolute glee of course! I could be wrong, but I think that relaxing and letting them come to things in their own time, is less stressful for everyone, including baby! Good luck!

Mel - posted on 06/12/2009

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yeah, no worries there. my sister couldn't talk for 3 years (ended up at speech pathologist) and she won't shut up now. my girl started talking later than others, now she's 19months old and talking sentences. you don't mention how old your son is. but yes, every baby IS different, some taller/shorter, fatter/thinner, hairy/bald... why compare him at this age? there'll be plenty of people to do that when he's an adult.

Brigitte - posted on 06/11/2009

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My husband didn't start talking until he was 4 because his older sister did all the talking for him. His speech is fine now ;-)

Autumn - posted on 06/10/2009

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My son was born November 15. He is my first. I too, wonder what my doctor will say when I tell him at every visit that Elijah still isn't "really" talking yet. Seems like our kids are on the same track. He says mama, dada, baba, bye bye...and then every so often something out of the blue like cool, good, or yeah. My doctor doesn't seem as worried. Elijah hit his milestones fairly early as well. walking by 10 months and running before he turned 1. I think it's just a stage and they will talk when they are ready. :) Hope this eases your mind a little.

Amy - posted on 06/08/2009

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I highly recommend the "Your Baby Can Read" program...I started my little girl on them at 10 months and she speaks VERY well ( I constantly hear Wow she talks so advance for her age) and is also reading around 30 words now at 19 months old! I credit this praogram with doing it because some of the things she says I know did not come from us!

Kelly - posted on 06/07/2009

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My son just went for his 18 month check-up and i posed the same question with my doctor. My son says mama and dada and babbles constantly. It sounds like he is having a "real conversaton" as his voice fluctuates with each sound. My doctor told me that all is fine as he is making sounds and responding. I was so worried too until i heard that all is okay. My doctor also said that they usually don't get concerned until a child is two or so.

Amy - posted on 06/03/2009

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my boy is the same he walked early he was confidently walking unassisted at 10 months he only says mum dad and bub and doesn't even use those words at the correct times just rambles them, he has no interest at all in books or words he is really confident with physical things he can climb anything just about and he'll certainly give any climbing a try iltough I worry about his development in that sense I believe he'll just get it in time, he makes eye contact with me he looks at me when I speak and he responds to things like cuddles kisses so on he knows when he is in trouble (though he rarely cares) I think if there were any probs with him there would be other things wouldn't be happening like the eye contact so on I just think mine is too busy having fun to stop and concentrate on speech it may souns like a stereotype but as Brittney said girls really do pick up speech faster while boys are physical, I was previously a child care worker and have seen so many children talk later than others (they are usually the ones to not stop talking once they start) I have study and common sense plus experience to tell me its ok every child is different and its not anywhere near time to panic yet but I understand how you feel because as a mother I worry about the same thing no matter what you know its normal to worrry about your childs development but I'd say don't be too concerned

Christina - posted on 06/02/2009

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and he doesnt repeat when i name things...like spoon. water, milk
when he sees our dogs he says woof woof but doesnt say dog or when he sees the chickens at gandparents farms he says ka ka ka.... so not worried about learning dissability just the talking and repeating really.
help!

Christina - posted on 06/02/2009

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Hi, I am also very worried about my little 18month old boy.. also just says mama, baba and chicken... but i speak to him in english and my husband in greek. he is very clever, and when we ask him to throw his nappy away or to bring his shoes and various other actions he responds instantly. our doc says that we should expect him to start talking round about 2 to 2 and a half years because of the two languages. but then i see other boys at his age and they are talking and then when i read books and they say that at 18months they meant to be saying from 7 to 20 words... i start thinking other things. so Monique i understand exactly how u feel.... what do u think mums is it really because of the two languages?

Latesha - posted on 05/28/2009

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Monique,

At your next well-baby check up ask the doctor to check his ears carefully. My 18month old is talking up a storm even starting to put small sentences together but my nephew was unable to speak real word until they put tubes in his ears. If he has had any ear infections, that could be an issue that needs addressed. Most likely he is fine but if talking it over with the doctor and having him checked out makes you feel better then do it. Learning disabilities are a definite no at this stage of development.

Fabiola - posted on 05/26/2009

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one thing i will say really help my daughter start saying words were "Flash Cards" she loves them. She can now say the following words: Apple, Car, Dog and Bird.

Brittney - posted on 05/22/2009

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All babies ARE different! :) Plus, girls hit those verbal milestones earlier, whereas boys tend to hit the physical ones sooner. One of the reasons he could not be talking (as mentioned above) he has two odler siblings to do it for him. And, he is probably taking A LOT it...to much time to focus on new things, mom! :)

Sarah - posted on 05/21/2009

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I have twin boys born Nov 14. that are doing the same thing. I'm not too worried about it at this point. I know they'll come around and every child is different.

Ruth - posted on 05/20/2009

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Monique, you are a mom and you need to do what your intuition tells you is best first and foremost. How old is your son? I have been a preschool teacher for 20 years and I have seen children who barely talk at 2 and then wow its not stop. I do not know where you live, but birth to three will definitely evaluate him if you call them and I believe they are nation wide.

Monique - posted on 05/20/2009

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Thank you all for replying. I know all children are different, but I'm just worried a bit that he can't say any words. He does try to say kitty but it only comes out as a "K" sound and that is it!! No other words but mama and dada. but he calls every male dada but only me as moma. I just feel like the doctor is gonna think something is wrong when I tell him he doesn't talk! They expect him to be able to say like 13 words already and he can't say even one!! I did have him evaluated when he was younger only about 5 mths and they said he was doing great. Although he wasn't sitting yet or anything else, but he quickly after that became mobile!! But its just the talking thing that worries me. Maybe it is because his sisters talk for him a bit. He will point at things that he wants and I say the words out loud but he seems not a bit interested in repeating them or even trying to say them. Do you think he may have a learning disability already. Maybe I'll address it with the doctor in depth at his next well baby appt. Thanks again for the replies I really appreciate the confidence boost in that I shouldn't be too worried about it!!

Ruth - posted on 05/19/2009

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I too agree with the other two posts...no two kids are the same. Encourage your son to say the words. Constantly say the names of the items he wants ex. bottle, cup, spoon etc. Also if you are really concerned call birth to three. They will come out to you and do an evaluation. What is the worse thing that can happen? Your concerns will become a reality and at least you will have gotten the help sooner rather than later or they will tell you what the doctors are telling you... everything is alright. We are going through the same thing with our son. My children are 15 months apart and my daughter talked early and NEVER stopped. LOL. My son is slowly but surely meeting his mile stones but much later than my daughter. We contimplate daily whether to call birth to three. My son is starting to say words, but not many and mostly he repeats a word but does not use it in later conversations. He does babble alot, makes you wonder what he is really saying.

Zielke - posted on 05/19/2009

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Don't worry. Like Annika said, no 2 children will develop the same. And you will propably find it is because his 2 older siblings do all the talking for him. So why should he spend his precious energy on trivial matters like talking, when he is actually plotting to take over the world. LOL. He will start eventually.

Annika - posted on 05/19/2009

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Don't worry about that, my dear! No two children is the same. On this stage of their lives they look and listen to what you, your husband, mom and dad is saying. Be careful one day or another he wills tart talking, and then you will wish that he has a on/off switch! Just enjoy his baby talk and leave him to talk on his own time.



Good luck!



Kind regards,

Annika Heymans

Annika - posted on 05/19/2009

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Don't worry about that, my dear! No two children is the same. On this stage of their lives they look and listen to what you, your husband, mom and dad is saying. Be careful one day or another he wills tart talking, and then you will wish that he has a on/off switch! Just enjoy his baby talk and leave him to talk on his own time.



Good luck!



Kind regards,

Annika Heymans

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