18 months and doesn't talk yet!

Lynn - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My son is 18 months old and doesen't really say anything other then gibberish. he makes noises and sounds but only has said mama and dada like 3 times we talk to him he points at things and we tell him what it is and sound out the words he just doesnt do any thing back. Is this normal?

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Jessica - posted on 06/29/2010

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My oldest didn't start really talking until after he was 18 months either. He would do the same thing, babble and follow simple directions but wouldn't really say words. we started doing sign language with him, really simple ones, please, thank you, milk and all done and that was it really. He fought it for about 2 weeks but then he started signing please and thank you and all that and then not too long after that he started saying some words. he didn't start really really talking until 2 but now he's almost 3 and talks up a storm, he give me a running commentary where ever we go. If this is your first son and he isn't in day care he wont really start talking until "later". just cause he doesn't have someone his size to talk with or see talk. my second son who is only 15 months younger than my 1st is now 19 months and talks alot because of how much he and my oldest talk. i have a friend who's son is over 3 and was barely talking until about 3 months ago, but that is because he has a very mild speech problem, but he goes to speech therapy and is talking up a storm now. if he is almost 3 and still isn't talking then seek a specialist, until then don't worry and give him time. he will get there. :-)

Jhane - posted on 06/28/2010

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My son just reached 18mos last June 20,2010 and the same thing with u he doesn't talk much...but good things about him is he can understands several instructions such as get your milk, pick up your mess and throw in d trash can, close the door, lay down to bed, go to bed, drink water, get your shoes, get your car/toys, get your pillow etc...i speak to him as an adult one and not baby talk. he babbles a lot too uttering words i cannot understand. often times he will get my hands & would say a word i can't barely understand but i can feel that he wants me to understand him. then what i am going to do is to pretend i can understand him & answer back. perhaps most of the mommys are right. different kids has different pace of development & all we have to do is support them & guide them. Goodluck to all of us...:)

Judith - posted on 06/17/2010

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Glad to hear my 19 month old isn't the only one that isn't understandable. He will have long detailed conversations with himself, but it's all gibberish to me. LOL...He does say Dada and mama, and will say peas (please) on occassion, but that's about it.

Anjeli - posted on 06/16/2010

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My son did the same thing. The doctor would not listen to me, she keep saying it was fine, so I beleived her. So I waited but he still was not talking like he should be I finally got him into speech theraphy and now is 6 and cannot stop talking.

Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2010

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Im in the same boat as you and getting more and more frustrated with it everyday because the whinning and crying seems to be taking the place of conversing and that just does not work with me. I attribute the delay in my son to the fact that we are speaking to him in french and english, but that could just be my rationalization. I agree with all the other posts and am happy to hear that this is not abnormal.

Tharyn - posted on 06/15/2010

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We had the same concern - Blake is 19.5 months - and a month ago we were really concerned that he wasn't saying anything - and in the last 2-3 weeks - he's started repeating more words.. he doesn't say them perfectly - but he's trying...

He can definitely hear well enough - he knows what we're saying - you can ask him to do something and he'll do it...

Boys are just slower than girls at this... our daughter was talking at 12months and in sentences at 18months.... but then again, she was at the total other end of the scale - she's always been seriously advanced....

Don't stress, and if you're worried and feel you should be trying to do more - then just get those big word picture books and spend time pointing at things and reading out the words - the kids love it....

Jill - posted on 06/15/2010

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My son has just turned 19 months and he just babbles, he can hear okay and can follow simple commands but just doesn't talk. I don't know if there's a problem, whether he just doesn't want to or whether its because his sister who's 5 talks for him. I am getting a little concerned but will leave it a little while longer as his development seems to come in fits and starts.

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i was told its a boy thing to not talk early. my son does same thing as yours, never called me mum or dad though he does know how to say the words, just doesnt feel the need to call out to us. i dunno it feels kinda funny when my sister in law's 6 month old already calls out to her "mama". I think it maybe because he has an older sister, so probably helps him to talk early.

Anyway, what we've been trying to do lately is bribe him. I know it sounds dodgey, but hey it works. We hold out a tiny "Nerds" lolly in our hand and ask him to say a word. When he says it we give it to him. We go through all the words that he knows (but for some reason doesnt USE) and reward him when he says it.

I've already seen some improvement. He's starting to say the words more clearly even though its only been a couple days. Yesturday we asked him to say "Alysha" - his baby sisters name - and to our shock he actually said Alysha! for the first time ever. Couldnt believe it as we've never asked him to say it before and hes never said anything close to it. I guess he must have heard us say it a lot and has internalised the word.

Karen - posted on 06/14/2010

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My son is 19 months old and he only says a few words as well. He also has had fluid in his ears for months and the doctor says his speech may improve once he gets the tubes in, but I am not worried about it. I know lots of kids that talk later and then they never shut up, lol! I wouldn't worry..he will tal when he wants to. If you would like to improve his language go see a speech pathologist to get some ideas.

Crystalyn - posted on 06/14/2010

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My son is the exact same! I took him to the doctor because I was concerned about his lack of talking. The doctor watched him in the room for a bit and said he was completely normal. Your son sounds like mine, they know what things are bc they can point to them but just dont say them. Is your son really active? She said the ones that are more physically active usually are later talkers and not to worry at all! Goodluck :)

Lynda - posted on 06/14/2010

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My daughter is 19 months old and has recently just started saying words we can really understand. She didn't say much for a long time except Mama and Dada, if she was saying anything else it was gibberish and we definitely could not understand it. Then within two days she was saying Yea, Hi Uh-Oh and Ta-da, just out of the blue. She understands everything we say though, so much so it scares me! :) Sometimes I think it just takes them a bit to get started doing something and then once they start, there's no stopping them! I've found that once I start to worry about something that McKenna's not doing, she usually starts doing it. If it is something you're really worried about, as always, check with a doctor, but always remember, all kids development differently! Good luck! :)

Jessica - posted on 06/12/2010

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My little by is also 18 months and all he really says is momma and papa and the normal thigs like nigh nigh and cup for something to drink and light but thats about all he says so its normal :)

Raelene - posted on 06/12/2010

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my son is nearly 19 months and until he was nearly 18 months he didnt say many words but he made sounds ('ahhhh' for drink 'woof' dog etc.) and gestures for everything! I was worried that he would figure he didnt need to talk, but each time he used the sound I would repeat back to him what he was telling me 'Yes, thats a dog'. etc and he really likes books on things he is interested in. Now, just over the last 2-3 weeks he has not stopped talking! Everything he hears he copies, he has even begun to sing 'hot pota' (hot potatoe) and 'col agettie' (cold spaghetti) as he does the actions. It is so funny to hear him say real words and we have realised just how much he was taking in about what we said before he began to talk.

As long as your son is communicating, babbling and has no obvious hearing imparment everything is completely normal! He will talk when it suits him and it wont be long until you'll be wanting him to stop talking! lol

Juana - posted on 06/09/2010

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my son Leo is 19 mnths and last week on his visit to the doctor I was asked to fill out some questions about the things an 18mnth should know how to do. My son scored low , the doctor said he needs to be evaluated for early intervention cause he should say at least ten words and my son doesn't. He says mama, papa,hi, teta, abert (albert) oh-oh .He will also need a hearing test. I know he can hear, but how well can he hear is the question. I will let you guys know how it all turns out .

Jacqui - posted on 06/09/2010

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My almost 19 month old now, really doesn't talk either. She babbles all the time, understands us, will follow simple directions, and doesn't seem to have any hearing issues. The only things she will say on any consistant basis is cheese and Jess (one of her shows she watches.. lol). She has said daddy a few times, but hasn't said it for awhile. Other than that.. nothing. I SO want to hear mama.. lol.. but I guess we'll have t wait. I'm trying to not worry about it, and letting her do things at her own pace.. it's just hard sometimes. :) I feel that if you LO is understanding and communicating in other ways, he will come around to speaking... if you are really worried, you can have him evaluated.

We have made the decision to wait until V is 2 before we begin to worry and have her evaluated.. but that's where our comfort zone is. Good luck.. and know that you aren't alone!

Clara - posted on 06/09/2010

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Absolutely normal !!!!!!!!!!!



Dont force development, they talk when they are good and ready !



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Yolanda - posted on 06/03/2010

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He may be fine, or he may need help. yes, all kids are different, and the range of normal is wide at this age, but it will begin to narrow quickly. I don't want to miss a window of opportunity, so decided to let a professional help us decide if there's a problem in my daughter's development. My doctor agreed.



My 18 month old has her speech language eval and hearing test scheduled next month at our local Children's hospital. Her language is no where near her twin sister's. I have a niece who has language issues, so I figured there was no benefit to us waiting. If there is a problem, we caught it early. If not, we're just out a few hours time- and we'll at least get some good recommendations on how to move things along at home.



Look up 'early intervention services' in your state and and they will do a free developmental evaluation. If there's a need, they will refer you for further evaluation. Again, it will stop you from worrying, as you'll have a professional's opinion, and help if you need it. I felt much better after I made the phone call! I felt proactive instead of reactive.

Heather - posted on 06/03/2010

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Totally agree, they start when they are ready. My 18 month old only says a few things. Momma and Dadda are not one of the words. Our doctor said if she says something consistently it counts as a word. She says WA for water, nigh nigh when it's time to go to bed. He also said as long as she can understand she is just fine. Which I know she does. I will ask her to do things and she does them, so I know we have no issue there. They will talk when they are good and ready so really, don't stress about it :)

JoLona - posted on 06/03/2010

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I agree with the above comment....and yeah one day you will look up and you'll be like hey I tought him that word a month ago!

Tareena - posted on 06/03/2010

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There is no such thing as "Normal" when it comes to the development of infants/toddlers. They grow and develop at their own pace. Your son may not be talkative right now, but one day he will surprise you at how many words he starts using and how fast he learns them. My daughter says several words, but she goes in spirts as far as when she learns new words and it completely shocks her daddy and I. He'll talk when he's ready and as long as he can communicate to you in other ways I wouldn't worry. Talk to your pediatrician if you are really concerned and they will be the best person to give you advice. I say just keep encouraging him and talk to him as much as you can as you do daily activities say out loud what you are doing. That is how my daughter seems to learn words the best. Everytime we eat or change her diaper we say "all done" and have since she was a few months old and that was one of the first things she started saying. Hope this helps.

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