breastfeeding

Amanda - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I've been debating on whether or not I should continue breastfeeding my son...who is now 2 months old. I enjoy my duties but my husband thinks I should put him on formula. I think he worries he won't be getting enough. He even hinted that one of his friends wife who just had a baby is having trouble with breastfeeding and lack of milk supply and he's put the pressure on me to change over. Trust me I know I make enough and my son's dr told me he is fine. I need help on how to change my husbands mind...I know its my choice but its his child too.

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Mary - posted on 01/31/2009

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I agree with Ann about the cost argument...formula, & all it's accessories, cost a small fortune. In addition to this, there are benefits to continuing for at least 6 months, including the added immunity for baby, as well a decreased risk of food allergies, You could try pumping, and letting him get up for that middle of the night feed...couple of nights of that might be all it takes, lol!

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Perhaps an argument to try with your huband is one of cost.  If he will, have him research the cost of formula, bottles (remember to include multiple types because you baby may not like the first nipple you try), water filter, etc... everything you need to make bottle feeding work.  That may change his mind.  Is there a reason he thinks the baby isn't "getting enough"?  Could he be trying to solve another problem (crying, gas, nightwaking) with formula?  Maybe talking about this issue would help.  Good luck.

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Jennifer - posted on 02/04/2009

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Just like a man! Really, my ex husband demanded I bottle feed and I wouldn't. My husband wanted me to bottle feed #2 and I refused to do so and now with #3, he wouldn't even think of it, but he's been educated about it so well. It's free, it's easy/convenient, and no, it won't disfigure you (that was the ex's belief). Above all else, it is one the very best things you can do for yourself and your baby.

Stacey - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hm, that's a tough one. I BF but do also do a couple bottles of formula a day (to give me a break.) I prefer breastfeeding for those night time feedings -- no bottle to mix/warm up. But during the day I sometimes prefer she take a bottle. You could meet hubby half way and pump/bottle feed for when you're out of the house (and possibly at that friend's house), but when you're home with baby just breast feed exclusively.

Tatham - posted on 02/01/2009

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stick with the breast feeding..its best for your son and you...if your husband can, he should go with you for your sons next dr. appointment so he can see for himself that your son's doing just fine and the dr. can explain all the benefits of breast milk

Sheena - posted on 01/31/2009

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You should breastfeed and formula, thats what i do!!..My baby gets a little bit more of breastmilk then formula tho.

Brooke - posted on 01/31/2009

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an idea just come to my mind... do you have a breat pump or good at expressing?

you could express it in to a bottle and just show him that there is alot of milk there?

just an idea because my husband had no idea until i showed him physically.

Brooke - posted on 01/31/2009

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my husband says the same thing but in reality you are the one that will be making the bottles, often getting up through the night to make them and finding somewhere to heat them when you go out. you have the extra cost of formula etc to your shopping bill. also it is sometimes hard to find the right bottle/formula and can take some time.

it is healthier for you and your baby to breastfeed so if you can not find a medical reason to change over i would stick with it. its also great for bonding, so convenient and can reduce postnatal depression. if bubs is gaining weight and healthy, tell your husband to trust you in making the right decision for your new edition.



i told my husband to try my baby on a bottle if he wanted to and she wouldnt take it for him and so i said oh well looks like i have no other choice lol.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/27/2009

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You should look into a breastfeeding class. Obvisouly you don't need it, but if your husband is willing to go with you he will learn why breast feeding is such an advantage for your baby. If he refuses to go maybe you can borrow a video from a lactation specialist that he will watch. Those classes and videos really know how to make a person feel motivated to breastfeed (and hopefully support breastfeeders).

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