Getting into toddler bed with toddler?

Nancy - posted on 03/18/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Have you ever climbed into your toddler's bed with them?



We've converted our son's crib into his toddler bed with the side rail fully removed and a guard rail in its place that we remove during day and put back for night time.



Very often my toddler wants me to either sit on bed to read stories or lay down next to him as he's falling asleep at night. I actually love doing it, because it just makes the whole nighttime process a lot smoother and to be honest, I'm exhausted too so its great to lay down for 15 mins or so until he's asleep.



My question is, is it safe? Does anyone else do this? I'm sure I'm over the crib weight limits, so how risky is it that the crib might break? His crib has been very sturdy this whole time and it doesn't give any signs of breaking when i lay on it - its been as sturdy as our own adult bed.

I've also found a few videos online of parents climbing into their baby's cribs.



Anyone have any stories or has done this? Would love to know I'm not the only one!

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Anna - posted on 03/21/2011

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I think you may have a case of both! My 2 yr old has also become picky and wakes at night. I think this is due to a phase they go through. HOWEVER we had our second 8 months ago. She didn't show any signs of an issue for a few months until the past couple she's been doing "baby" things. For example, she never took a sippy cup. Once my son went to a sippy she decided she wanted his. This is currently the only thing I can think of but there are other things she used to do on her own she wants us to do for her..Oh FEEDING..sometimes she wants us to feed her. She hasn't been doing it lately so I don't know if she's over it or not. For awhile my husband and I let her sleep in our bed but once she realized we didn't have toys or anything she wanted back in her room. She's been sleeping through the night again now for the past week so i'm hoping we're through that.

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Hope - posted on 04/03/2012

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Eeek I don't know about that....I wouldn't do that on my son's bed- he's got a wooden race car bed with pretty slim planks under the matress and I wouldn't trust it under my 126 pounds. Also, I know this is a stupid reference, but on the Kardashians Rob climbed into a crib at a store and the thing broke immediately. It must have been a nice $2,000+ crib and couldn't hold his weight so that might tell you something. I feel crummy now for referencing those people.

Jordanne - posted on 03/29/2012

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I guess I'm lucky, my son is 2... has been disassembling chairs and tables in the living room since he could walk, yet still hasn't figured out how to climb out of his crib. He is a very active child, and won't sleep without a healthy scream most nights... and sleeps with many toys (because he spends more time playing than sleeping, but they're all safe, and it gives us longer to wake up in the morning) so I fear that if we got him a toddler bed, we would just find him at about noon, sleeping in the middle of his room on the floor, with all his other toys (that he puts away every night) strewn everywhere. I say if he stays in the crib, why not use it!



Buuut I'm getting off topic. I used to babysit a friend of my mom's daughter. She would refuse to sleep (when she was about 5) if I didn't stay in the bed until she fell asleep. The major worry I had was that I would wake her somehow, and would have to wait longer to go watch TV. It was in a smaller bed, but it was long ago, so I don't really remember if it was a toddler bed, or just a single. Either way, I fell asleep once, and woke up to her mom coming into the room. She smiled, and thought it was cute that her daughter did that. We were like sisters back then. I was annoyed because I couldn't watch Buffy the Vampire slayer. I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you do make it a habit (because sometimes you don't realize it's getting that way until it happens) choose your babysitters wisely. Your child might want to have them sleep in their bed because it's what comforts them. I would have never slept in the kid's bed with her if I myself wasn't babysat by her mother when I was her age... and we were all like family.

Tamara - posted on 03/26/2012

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I use to climb into my sons toddler bed when he was ill or couldn't sleep. I have never had a problem with it. I found it a lot easier to settle my son when he couldn't sleep by sitting/ laying next to him in his bed. Though i had to deal with crying and tantrums whenever I decided to cut it down so he could fall asleep on his own. Other than that i found it perfectly fine.

Dara - posted on 03/25/2012

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I'm not so strict about sharing my bed with my 18 month old. However, we don't co-sleep that often, and she would much prefer to sleep on her own! Sometimes, there are nights when I feel more comfortable with her sleeping with me. One night there was a thunderstorm, and she was dead to the world. I picked her up and put her in bed with me.

Mirrhya - posted on 03/25/2011

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I am very strict about not getting into bed with my 2 y.o. but we do cuddle in a chair for song or story time before he gets into bed. There is nothing wrong with a little cuddle time before bed, as long as they put themselves to sleep.

Nancy - posted on 03/21/2011

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Thank you everyone for comments - helps to set my mind at ease. And Louise - I agree - I definitely don't want to turn this into a habit that's hard to break. I try first to give him my arm to rest his head on, or my hand so he can hold my hand instead - if nothing else works, then i just climb in and he's asleep in 10 mins. The other part to this story is that we just had a baby (3 months old), and so I always have to wonder if this is part of him adjusting to his new baby sister?

He's our first, so I can never tell with these things if it is a normal 2 year old stage he's going thru, or if its because of the baby. Because she's only 3 months old, we are more relaxed than usual about everything - partly because we dont know if he is craving extra attention/affection (we are giving him lots!) and partly because we're so tired!

We're just feeling our way in the dark with this, so I'd love it if anyone knows whether this is a baby thing or just a 2 year old thing? He's also waking up at night (when previously was great sleeper), and is turning into a super picky eater (previously ate everything in sight). Due to baby or 2 yr old type of issue?

Anna - posted on 03/20/2011

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My husband got into our daughters (she wasn't in it so there wasn't as much weight) but he weighs 190. Bed didn't even act like that much weight was in it. I wouldn't do it to a store bought toddler bed with the cloth under the mattress but otherwise I dont see an issue.

Caitlin - posted on 03/20/2011

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Wouldn;'t work for me.. there's a 50 pound limit on my daughters bed (it's not a convertible, it's a seperate bed...).

As long as it doens't show any signs of breaking, I dont' see the harm..

Louise - posted on 03/19/2011

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My husband has got in with our daughter with the rails still on our cot bed for a joke and snuggled up with her. he is about 13 stone and the bed did not even creak. If your bed is not showing any signs of stress then don't worry about it.

Just be warned though if you get into bed with your child every night then he will expect it every night and this is a hard habit to break. Try and do it randomly or you will find your child will only sleep if you get in with him and as he gets older this will be a real pain.

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