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Patricia - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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MY BABY WONT EAT FOR ME, SHE IS A 1 YEAR OLD AND SHE HARDLY EATS WHAT SHOULD I DO? I'M AFRAID SHE IS NOT GETTING ENOUGH OF WHAT SHE NEEDS...

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Jazi - posted on 02/12/2010

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First Patricia, calm down. Yes this is going to be a long post, Also possibly a bit rambly, but the information will all be there.

First thing, if you suspect that your daughter is having any sort of medical issue causing her to not eat, CALL YOUR PEDIATRICIAN! if you have any suspicions at all, don't rely on friends/relitives well ment advice, go to the professional. Let them ease your mind first that there is (gods willing) nothing wrong, she's just being a normal 1 year old.

Now that we've addressed that, let us look at the size of your daughters fist. that is about the size of her tummy. not really a lot of room. then you add in she's not chewing food to tiny pieces because she doesn't have molars yet and won't for a while. Liquid takes up room as well as food, and it doesn't pass through the stomach immediately. 2oz of juice with 2oz of water can take 45 minutes to pass through the stomach into the small intestine. Solid food takes longer.

At the age of 1 she should be on whole milk, or on an appropriate alternitive if she is allergic to milk. This does provide a lot of calories, nutriants, and takes up room in her tummy.

Then look at what you give her durring the day. At the age of one, it is still only recomended that she only get 2oz of juice mixed with 2oz of water per day and not every day. Juice has some nutrients, but it also has sugars that can cause the brain to not trigger a "hunger" responce. Not hungry, they're not going to eat.

best thing - multiple snack type meals offered 5-6 a day, try to use small nutritional packed bite sized pieces that can be scooped back up into a take along tupperware bowl and travel with you so you can offer snacks in the car. it may only be a whole wheat cracker and piece of cheese that you take 3 minutes to eat after grocery shopping before the next stop, but it is something. (a note, I am not advocating letting your young child eat in the car while you are driving without someone to watch her because of the choking hazzards)

Try not to give a snack for 60-90 minutes before your family dinner/supper. serve her some of what your family is eating. yes even if you're able to afford steak and lobster for dinner on the west coast, share, as long as she is not allergic. 4-5 SMALL bites of your dinner shared gives her a feeling of joining the family, serve small portions of protien, veggitables, fruit and bread. the entire amount on the plate should be in a circle no larger than the palm of your hand. if she eats it all good.

If she does not eat it all, try extending the amount of time between that last snack and dinner. Also look and see what is happening with the food on her plate. is it all being dumped on the floor for the dogs? (kennel the dogs for dinner - major distraction and feeding the dogs is FUN!) Did she eat something entirely? if yes, note what it was for repeat attempts. Did she do a general "graze" and take just a bit of everything? She may have more on her plate to eat than she wants that night.

THE big tip, eat with her! Share your food off your plate, fork and spoon. Use this as a time to teach; please, thank you, drink, eat, more, etc. Sharing with mommy, daddy, and Sissy is a privalege and special. "their" food is always better. You can gradually reduce this habit later after you're not so worried about her not eating right. And as many kids go through a picky eater phase a touch later in the late toddler to preschool age range, it is a valuable tool to bring back out at times. (worked great with my nephews)

I will admit when it comes to sharing food though, even now as an adult, My friends and I love going out to a restraunt, getting several different items and "sharing the experience" with each other and having whole conversations about the food, what it stimulates in our senses, our hearts and our minds. And after weeks of "isn't this peanut butter nutty?" and "this is a sweet apple" being the only talk about food you have, it is a great stress reliever, freindship builder and guilt free time away from the kids. I mean, what 2 year old likes sushi or sashimi with a bunch of gossippy women a little tipsy on sake?

My son is currently 15 months today - we still fight the finiky eating, but his doctor is not worried about the fact that there are days he only eats breakfast (1/4 C. cearal (Life) and 1/2 a banana) and a dinner at around 7 - 730 (when the house eats) where he gets about 1/2 cup of food total that most nights we end up with 1/3rd C on the floor in an attempt to draw the attention of (not the 3 dogs who are crated for their own dinners) but the cats who seem to have a more diverse appitite then the dogs. it's scary. The above quoted routine with the snacks is what my Mother, Aunts, and cousins have all used with their kids, my Pediatrician likes it, my son is growing (way to fast *sob*) so it's all good. I wish you luck - Jazi

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Megan - posted on 02/21/2010

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PediaSure is about the worse thing you can give a toddler. The vitamins and minerals are all synthetic and barely absorbed by the body and it is over half sugar. We wonder why so many kids are diagnosed with diabetes, this is it. Please don't give your kids pediasure, make your own smoothies and shakes with plain yogurt, non-soy protein powder, and fruits and veggies.

Emma - posted on 02/19/2010

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my son is at that stage also how i make sure he gets everything he needs is SNACKS SNACKS SNACKS. gerber graduates has a great selection of little snacks u can try camrynns favorites are the little fruit twists, lil crunchies, granola bars,he will snack on his favorite thing cheese. and loves milk. DONT give up keep trying to have something around just incase she feels like snacking :) bananas are good too

Mary - posted on 02/15/2010

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My doctor advised on reducing milk to at least 16-20ounces, and give multivitamin (Polyvisal) everyday. I also noticed my daughter loves feeding herself so I give her a small bowl for herself and I keep the big one to feed her. At times she wants to eat from mama's plate so I put her food on my plate and eats believing she is eating grown up food.
A friend of mine whose son won't eat but drink milk and eat pureed fruits, has started adding vegetables in the fruits and that way he is getting all the nutrients deserved.

Emma - posted on 02/15/2010

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i've been having the same trouble with my little girl she tends to go off her food when she's teething and will just have milk we dont force food at her if she does not want it then we wait if she wants to try something when we are eating then we will let her have some of our food so at least she has something my friends little boy did'nt eat anything till he was two years old and just managed on full milk he's now 14 yrs old and it has'nt done him any harm. i'm sure when she's ready she'll make up for it so dont worry if she's still having milk thats good then she's getting all the vitamins and iron she needs from that.

i hope this helps a bit
xx

Shulandria (Dria) - posted on 02/13/2010

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give her what she will eat as long as she's not loosing weight she is ok

Shannon - posted on 02/12/2010

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I won't get into a long drawn out response as it looks like you have many comments. But I would like to add try Gerber pasta pickups. They are good for em and they can eat them by themselves or you can pick em up with a fork or spoon and feed the pasta to her. Also my baby likes bread so I take a piece of bread and put cheese and that inside the bread where she can't see it. She will also eat a sandwich if I cut it in half and let her bite off of it. Yogurts are usually something they won't turn down either. I buy Danonino Yogurt they are small cups. I let my 15 month old use a baby spoon and she feeds it to herself. Independence plays a big part of this transition. They are starting to realize Hey I can do this by myself. Good Luck!!

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2010

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DS is the same (and DD at 3 occasionally still does it!)... I agree with what has been said before: keep trying and see the pedi if you are really concerned.

I'll also comment that DS loves cheese, fruit and cereal so when he gets picky I just put out a variety of cut up pieces in snack cups and let him graze. Fortunately, he also likes yogurt and I've discovered a brand called Chobani which meets a toddlers total RDA of protien, so I feed him one a day and give him milk *after* meals so he doesn't fill up on milk. One other thing: try not feeding her any snacks or drinks an hour before meal time... it might help her feel hungry when she tucks in!

Nancy - posted on 02/12/2010

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I haven't actually gone through this but the reason for that may be because I always made sure my daughter ate with me at mealtimes. She would watch what we ate and would like to try the same. When she didn't want to eat I too thought it was fine becuase she would drink milk but there is a limit to how much milk a child should really have. What I suggested to another friend is leave plates of finger food and if they want something they will eat. It also teaches a child to graze which is good.

Kristine - posted on 02/11/2010

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we supplement with PediaSure or Carnation Instant breakfast (in his milk) when needed

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I think it is pretty normal. I read in the "what to expect; The toddler years" that all 1yr olds go through the same thing. My son did it, and I was worried, and he still does it, but he will eat when he is hungry.

Mandie - posted on 02/11/2010

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Going through it too and mine won't even drink milk. She does eat yo baby yogurts though (2/day) to make up for milk she wont drink, and also cheese. She doesn't like to touch anything mushy or wet. She is very wierd about textures. I agree with below, if she is growing, don't worry too much. And when I say growing, my daughter has been in the 5-10% for weight since she's been born and 50% for height. She's is just an itty bitty. You can also try to add Poly-Visol liquid vitamins into whatever she will eat/drink. It helped give me peace of mind. But beware, the drops are nasty, so use little at a time. You are doing a great job! Just keep going! Just remind yourself it will not stay like this forever!!!!

Miriam - posted on 02/11/2010

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Mine is the same. He only eats what he wants as long as it's finger food. He won't let me feed him with a spoon anymore and has shunned milk since he was 8 months. He eats cereal, potato faces, chicken nuggets, fish fingers and toast with spread cheese. Lately he's suddenly avoiding the nuggets too. I just keep presenting him with food and keep my fingers crossed. He's very independent and stubborn so I just present food hoping he'll give it a try. MY pead said that as long as he's a healthy weight, it's not a problem but I have to admit it is a headache. By the way, he used to eat 4 meals a day till his 1st birthday. Everything changed overnight.

Adeline - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son was having the same issue and I was really worried about his nutrients due to the bad intakes of solids. Subsequently we gave him PediaSure (from Abbott) and he loves the premium chocolate flavour. He had PediaSure for approximately 4 days and suddenly he was going for our food and asking for more! Right now, he is on regular milk feeds + solids and his appetites has improved tremendously.

An-Toinette - posted on 02/10/2010

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Babies at this age does that, it like a hunger strike! It will pass soon enough. But if you really feel to worried, go and see the doc.

Rachel - posted on 02/10/2010

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And I don't buy the whole "they will eat when they are hungry" You could let my son go all day and he would not cry for food.. as long as he is playing and having fun he does not care about food whatsoever. I will not have to worry about childhood obesity with this one! haha

Rachel - posted on 02/10/2010

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This is gonna be long SORRY! Yea.. my son is the same way.. we practically have to shove food into his mouth. One thing that has helped.. which is completely a bad habit.. is having the TV on while he eats. Its the ONLY thing that has helped. ITs the only time he watches TV.. and I turn it on when I feed him breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Luckily we have a TV in our dining room, so still eats in there. But I have just had to try all kinds of things. He is pretty picky but for breakfast I can get him to eat baby yogurt, cinnamon raisin bread, whole wheat bagels, cheerios (they even make fruity ones), those baby puffs.. try some of these ideas. Maybe she will like to feed herself the cheerios or feed herself the bagel or the bread. I usually can get him distracted enough with the cartoons to feed him the yogurt or some apple sauce or soup or something. As picky as he is he really likes foods he can play with like Spaghetti O's or chicken noodle soup that he can pick up.. I would try those. He is the type he will eat little snacky finger food things, but its harder to get him to eat the real stuff. But one thing that has helped me breathe easier is the fact that he drinks really good. If your daughter will drink good, try to give her fruit/veg juice. V8 Fusion makes great juices that have lots of Vitamin A (vegetables) and the vitamins from fruit. Make sure you mix it with water though. Gerber also has some juices that have fruit and vegetables in them. And give her milk.. maybe even try it with chocolate syrup or something! I have tried so many different things.

Rita - posted on 02/10/2010

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AK YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT GIVING HER VITAMINS, I HAVE MY 14 MONTH OLD ON TRIVASOL AND HE EATS LIKE A PIG NOW. LOL GOOD LUCK.

April - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son is doing the same thing right now. He'll eat breakfast and a little for lunch. But, when it's dinner time....he wont even take a bite of anything and would rather play in his food. So, most nights he's absolutely nothing for dinner. I still keep trying though. I make him a plate of food, give him the plate and fork, i try helping him..i've tried everything and he just wont eat. I guess they'll eat if they get hungry enough. My doc said to not give him as much milk as i was before. So, i've cut his milk some and he's starting to eat more now. Well i guess if i walked around all day drinking milk i wouldnt want to eat anything either. Milk is very filling. Also, since my son usually doesnt eat dinner i make sure to try to get him to snack on something...cheerios..anything...before bed.

Alysha - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son does the same thing, just make sure your daughter gets her milk, and try EVERYTHING, my son will eat really good one day and the next wont eat a thing the doctors say they will eat when they are hungry, but if its been a while i would take her in just to make sure she is still growing the way she needs to be, if her growth is fine there is no need to worry! Good lucky mama

Shawna - posted on 02/09/2010

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i went through the same thing. she will eat when she is hungry. did u try different things? if your worried call her doc mybe she isnt feeling well.

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