How would you react?

Bobi - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I always hear that my daughter is fat. People say "doesn't look like it would hurt for her to skip a meal" or something to that affect. She is only 20.5 lbs. and is 29 1/4 inches long. She does have chubby cheeks but she isn't fat by all means. I get so offended, how should I react to these people with out being the over protective mom? She can't fight her own battles yet so I need to.



OK, LETS PUT THE BIG TWIST ON THIS THING. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF IT WERE HER GRANDPA WHO SAYS IT EVREY TIME HE SEES HER EAT? (SERIOUSLY)

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Cori - posted on 09/14/2009

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i would call him fat, or skinny, or something to that effect...you know shoot the insult back at him.. thats just my style though!

Trich - posted on 09/14/2009

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i totally agree, babies are allowed to have a bit of chub on them. its what makes them so adorable all there little rolls :)

once they start crawling and walking it will disapear and every child is different some may have chubby cheeks and some may have chubby arms... my little guy seems to get chubbier ( is that even a word?? ) just before he has a spurt..

im not sure in pounds, but he is 9.48kgs and 10months old, he is bigger than some of the boys in my mums group and smaller than others younger than him as i said everyone bub is different..

as leanne said before me tell grandpa if he cant say anything nice about her dont say anything at all :)

Leanne - posted on 09/10/2009

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Your baby sounds GORGEOUS!!!! I think it is best to confront a bully head on...Tell her Grandpa if he can't say anything nice not to say anything at all!!

Kristi - posted on 09/09/2009

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It's comments like that, that caused my 3 year old neice (now 8 years old) to tell my husband that they couldn't order pizza because she would get fat ... what the h$#&#?? She still has body issues - she's 8?!?!??! ARGH!

Kristi - posted on 09/09/2009

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Well, I can tell you that my answer probably isn't cool with many people - but I would have no problem telling my dad (or my husband's dad for that matter) that he had his chance to raise a little one, and now it's our turn. She's very healthy and happy, and that's what matters. Some people don't get how rude their comments sounds.

My son is 23+ pounds and 30 inches tall. He's not even really chubby, but is very solid (like his daddy) ... no one has had the guts to say anything to me about him being a big boy ...

Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2009

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That's pretty freaking rude. People always want to throw their unneeded opinions out there like we need to hear them. You know you're baby's healthy and that's all that matters. Thank god she doesn't belong to whoever says she should skip a meal...theyre babies not super models! I feel the same way bc my daughter is really petite just like me. I'm tall and skinny and she's the same. People have said things like...doesn't your mommy feed you? And it really gets under my skin!

Meaghan - posted on 09/09/2009

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I would tell grandpa to shut up. It's not overprotective at all. I get the same thing from people, Aiden is 10 months 22.5 lbs and 31 inches. I tell them to get a hobby cuz if they had one my childs size wouldn't be important to them.
With all of our food being genetically processed with growth hormones (no matter how hard you try and avoid, it's there), especially whole cows milk. There are so many babies now that are bigger, not fat just big.
Chubby cheeks are the most beautiful thing about babies, so kissable and pinchable. You're her mother and know her batter than anyone else in the world, you'd know if she was fat. You know she's happy and healthy and everyone else can p*** off

Sarah - posted on 09/02/2009

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Turn it around on him. Some times the only way people like that will learn how cruel they are being is if you insult him in some way as soon as he says it again. i.e: 'she could do with skipping a meal' - maybe you could mention his receding hairline or grey hair or something you would never even dream of saying. He'll be shocked and then you can tell him that he now knows exactly how you are feeling. As someone said above - you really do need to knock this on the head before bubba starts to understand otherwse that could open another whole can of worms!
Good Luck hun xx

Katie - posted on 08/28/2009

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Perfectly healthy and normal!! Do not listen to anyone who says that a baby needs a diet!! How terrible for a BABY to start learning about body issues!! INFURIATING!!! The evil side of me would respond with something about needing to share diapers with your little one or making extra puree'd food. ;-)

Kelly - posted on 08/27/2009

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aww, no that weight sounds perfectly normal and babies are suppose to be chubby! its healthy! good luck!

Heather - posted on 08/27/2009

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I would tell Grandpa how that makes you feel. And that yours is perfectly healthy. Just personal note but my Father in law has a tendency to tell his grandkids look at your Grandpa belly. Which with our kids he finally stopped but with my sis in law didn't and they too thought it was funny until the youngest started to not eat at teh age of 5 because she thought she was fat. I tried to warn them of this that they were not giving them good body image. I've had an eating disorder and do struggle some days more tha others an feel more comfortable now than I did 12 years ago. I sit and talk with my neice a lot and she doesn't have a problem now. maybe you could share this story with Grandpa because even though yours is only 9 months Grandpa needs to be more aware of what he is saying because you never know how in a few it could affect them when it becomes a habit for him to say and your precious one starts to think about it.

Bobi - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Amy:

I would tell him she is the 50% percentile for both height and weight ( my son is about the same weight and height as your daughter) no one has ever said that to me about his weight they tell me how tall he is. ( which he is not according to the percentages) The skip a meal comment just shows how ignorant this man is tell him he is stuck in the 1950's mentality. Your daughter IS NOT OVERWEIGHT at all....



When I get asked how old she is and I say 9 months they always gasp and say she looks so much older, she is really tall I think considering that she has almost caught up with her cousin who is 7 months older.  I really try to ignore it and remember that he is from a different generation but that is my baby he is insulting.  I grew up being called bubble-butt and Boobless....I don't want a nickname like that for her.

Bobi - posted on 08/27/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

It is important for Babies to have a little cubb, it aids in their brain development. And it doesn't sound like your baby is fat at all, just PERFECTLY normally. Besides, aren't the babies who are a bit cubby just that much cuter?



My husband read that somewhere before we we were even thinking of having babies and I really wish he would say something about it to his dad.  I love chubby babies, when you hold them you don't feel like you are going to break them. 

Bobi - posted on 08/27/2009

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I never thought of that, me being upset by it and when she understands it bother her! She really doesn't look chubby, she has chubby cheeks but she gets that from her grandma, in fact she looks just like her grandma and not like me or her dad, it is funny! her grandpa just says things that others wouldn't normally say to others. Like when I was first pregnant with Lilly and we were keeping it a secret until the all clear point he told me out of the blue that I looked like I was gaining weight. and with the baby I am carrying now he told me I didn't look pregnant, just that I have a gut.....WOW, as if pregnant people do not already have issues especially since I got pregnant 7 weeks postpartum.



Everyone has such great comments. I think She is perfect the way she is and I wouldn't change her.

Amy - posted on 08/27/2009

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I would tell him she is the 50% percentile for both height and weight ( my son is about the same weight and height as your daughter) no one has ever said that to me about his weight they tell me how tall he is. ( which he is not according to the percentages) The skip a meal comment just shows how ignorant this man is tell him he is stuck in the 1950's mentality. Your daughter IS NOT OVERWEIGHT at all....

Kayla - posted on 08/27/2009

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and one more thing reguardless I know my kids are fat lol I love them eaither way and I know I am feedin them good and reguardless if the kid grows up fat or even skinny it doesnt matter they will be loved by you and thats all that the kid needs

Kayla - posted on 08/27/2009

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lmao gurl dont u worry bout that my 4 year old is about 50lbs and 1 year old is about 30lbs and my 9month old is 20-25lbs dont worry bout anything anyone has to sey to you bout ur kids I think its adorable wen kids are chunky atleast we all know they are gettin fed and they are healthy

Kylie - posted on 08/27/2009

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i would tell the grandpa is if he hasn't got anything nice to say then he can say nothing at all. Calling a baby fat, how ridiculous.... some poeple have no class. Protect your baby and tell the people who call her fat to back off and keep their opinion to themselves. you don't want them to be saying that to her when she can understand the meaning of the word. My LO is a petite baby boy and my mum kept saying oh hes failure to thrive..i told her to stop saying that because wasn't true and made me feel like a she thought i was a bad mother.

Jennifer - posted on 08/26/2009

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I would tell "Grandpa" that fat is VERY necessary for an infants development. Foods help with brain development, immune system....really the benefits are endless. Just be honest with "Grandpa", and tell him that you do not appreciate his comments. My son (born 11/15) is 24lbs and 29.25 inches...so definitely a big baby. I get similar comments, but choose to brush them off. He is healthy and handsome and that is all that matters.

Abbey - posted on 08/26/2009

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My boy is almost 22 pounds and only 27 inches, so he is a bit more rotund. Most people tell me how chubby he is too and the same sort of thing about not missing meals. But those same people tell me a baby is cutest when chubby. Truth is, they are healthy unless the ped says otherwise. Most likely yours will stretch to lanky and thin, like I expect my son too. I wouldn't worry too much about it, because if it bothers you it will eventually bother your daughter and create more problems.

Catherine - posted on 08/26/2009

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My duaghter is 29.5 inches and 23 lbs 4ozs. the doctor says she is very healhy. She is a chunky baby and that is what makes her so cute. She has got rolls on her legs and arms. Don't worry about what he says. Its baby fat. That is why it is called baby fat cause it comes off when they are no longer babies.

Regina - posted on 08/26/2009

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The funny part about her G-pa saying eat to her is--My skinny little 9 month old says EAT all the time. People think we are staving him. Honestly he eats about the same sized serving our teenaged boys do! Everyone has different matabolism. His is just VERY fast.

Bobi - posted on 08/26/2009

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OK, LETS PUT THE BIG TWIST ON THIS THING. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF IT WERE HER GRANDPA WHO SAYS IT EVREY TIME HE SEES HER EAT? (SERIOUSLY)

Melissa - posted on 08/26/2009

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I first get the question - how old is your son? Then when I tell them, they get a look on their face or say OH! I just laugh and agree that he's a big boy - he's over 29 inches long and almost 22 lbs. The doctor says he's just fine so I agree with the ladies above that your baby is just perfect for him. While no one has come out and said that he is fat - which he's not chubby but just big - but I'm not sure how I would respond if someone did. I would probably be offended too. It has made me just that much more aware of how people speak without thinking. Try not to let them get to you - you know your baby best and if she's happy and healthy that's all that matters.

Colleen - posted on 08/25/2009

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Those people are downright ignorant and arrogant and all sorts of other "ants" Anyway, Those are the stats of my little man. He's got cheeks and sausage arms and cute chubby thighs. I love it. So far no one says he's fat, but they all compliment on how healthy he looks. I'm even told its refreshing to see a baby that doesn't look sickly thin. Your little one is a perfect weight. You don' t wanna loose her down the drain.

Regina - posted on 08/24/2009

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People are ignorant they need to just keep thier opinions to theirself. This baby is "fat" this one is "skinny". All my boys are very thin and very tall they look like bean poles. People always ask...Do you ever feed them? DUH! What kind of ? is that?

Melissa - posted on 08/24/2009

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It is important for Babies to have a little cubb, it aids in their brain development. And it doesn't sound like your baby is fat at all, just PERFECTLY normally. Besides, aren't the babies who are a bit cubby just that much cuter?

Kymberly - posted on 08/23/2009

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gesh some people are just so rude.first of chubby babys are nutural and very cute secoundly you could tell them they could probly should take their own advise I mean really maybe they will rethink what they say even if they dont need to lose weight

Jess - posted on 08/23/2009

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no i agree she is not fat at all my girl is 24lbs and over 31.4" long she is very tall. tell them all she is storing it for the winter!!! lol or better yet tell them they could do with skipping a few meals them selves ha ha... but seriously Aliyah gets really chubby just as she is about to have a growth spurt and then almost over night she just looses her chubby checks! not worry and dont stress as it would be much much more of a concern if she was under weight!

Kelly - posted on 08/23/2009

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She is by no means fat....my son is 25 pounds and 6 ounces and 30 inches long....he is a big baby.....and i also hear the same kind of comments, but i just tell people that he is a big baby and isn't fat....i try to just let it go....and not let what other people think bother me....it doesn't matter what other people think as long as you know that she is happy and healthy thats all that matters.......and my sons doctor says that he is fine....so i would say that she is fine....just don't let other people get the best of you....

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