Second Baby or Only child?

Angela - posted on 01/29/2011

I meant to write that I AM supposed to have a sibling!

Angela - posted on 01/29/2011

I'm so happy to hear from those of you who are only children and didn't have any issues with it. We adopted our son at birth and he will be our only child. Partially due to my age (I am an older mom) and partially because we feel our family is complete. I sometimes succumb to the thoughts that I'm not "supposed to" have a sibling for my son, but I remember what a great life we'll be able to provide for him. We belong to a playgroup and he has many friends that he plays with, so he gets the socialization he needs. Everyone has their own feelings about the size of family they'd like to have and there is no right or wrong number :)

Chiara - posted on 01/29/2011

I've had my 2nd child, they are 21 months apart, he wasn't planned but no regrets. I like the idea that they are close in ages as there is a big age gap between my partner and his sisters yet only 18months between them and they are really close so im hoping it will be the same for my kids, though i still feel like it was too soon and would of loved to give my girl a sibling when she was a lil older to understand, i feel like ive ript her of the time and attention she needs but now has to share since she has her brother, if you get me....

Maggie - posted on 01/25/2011

My daughter was born on November 11, 2008. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant with twins. So Becky will be a couple of months shy of being three when the twins are born.

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2011

Hi! My November baby received her baby brother in September! I didn't plan to have him so soon, but I wasn't opposed to the idea. The fact that he turned out to be a boy was icing on the cake! I am an only child and while many of us are happy that we didn't have to share growing up, I really wish I had siblings. I was always very introverted and that made it even harder for me growing up. I couldn't possibly imagine not giving my girl at least one sibling. I am happy I have one of each, but I really want at least one more, while my hubby is threatening to get snipped (joking of course)! I'm really glad my son surprised us all and my daughter loves telling him what to do already. Its awesome!

Jaclyn - posted on 01/15/2011

Hi, i have a 4yr old and a 2yr old and a baby due on the 31st of Jan. After my 2yrs old i really thought that we were done i had such a hard time with him but this baby was a surprise as i was on contraception pills at the time and skipped 2nights of it and fell pregnant. But we then found out that after my first 2 boys this one is a little girl so i think all things happen for a reason and this was meant to happen. I come from a family of 3 older sisters and my partner has a younger sister and brother. We knew that we wanted more then one but we thought that 2 would've been enough...but apparently not lol

Anna - posted on 01/09/2011

Our 2yr old is the oldest, then we have a 5m old and are expecting our third later this year.

Kylie - posted on 01/07/2011

i am pregant with my second, and would have had a second sooner but it took us 12 months to get pregnant. for us we were always going to have another, if you feel like your are both ready, and you can handle a second child then go for it!

Sadie - posted on 12/17/2010

Our Nov 2008 son already has a 9 month old sister! I also had medical and dare I say age concerns and so we went with doing it all fast. I can't personally imagine not growing up with a sibling! Honestly, now that we are almost a year in I don't think that having a second was a big deal, its the first one that's wicked stressful...second time around everything just comes easier!

Magen - posted on 12/17/2010

Marty, my Nov. 2008 baby, is the youngest of two

Kristi - posted on 12/12/2010

Hi Michelle - great topic! My 2 year old son is my first and only child ... for now. I was diagnosed with MS in 2004, so I went into my first pregnancy knowing that. We had a hard time getting pregnant with Wes but eventually we did and the pregnancy was great. Until 34 weeks when I developed HELLP syndrome and almost died. I recovered, thankfully, but I have lingering high blood pressure ... so I understand the concern with the lingering health issues!!!

Having said all that, my husband and I are talking about trying to get pregnant in fall 2011 which makes baby # 2 coming summer 2012, when Wes will be almost 4. Sounds like a great age difference to me - and a perfect one for me - between dealing with the MS and the high BP!!!

I come from a family with my parents and my brother. My husband has 3 sisters ... we always wanted 2 kids - my hope is that we will still be able to fulfill that dream! Good luck to you!

Rae - posted on 12/05/2010

Congrats to mummies pregnant again.
My Nov 08 baby is my second child, he has a baby sister who is 10mths. I would love to have more children but its not to be. I cant imagine being an only child as I grew up in a big family, I have 8 siblings. I would say go for it.

Carol - posted on 12/04/2010

what a great question to see how we all have something in common, and are all changing at the same time in the best way possible. my girl was born nov 13 08 and she is my second child. i have a 5 year old son also, and i am almost sure i am done with the children. 2 is fine for me, and im having a fabulous time with them both

Melanie - posted on 12/04/2010

I have just found out I am pregnant again this time it feels alot different than my first we decided about 6 months ago we wanted another but nothing happened things so we just got on with what we do now things have changed for me with a promotion at work and life is just how we like it to fine out I am 4 weeks pregnant with my second child, I am nervous about the second baby coming as my first was 5 weeks premature my goal this time around is to have this one on time only time will tell

Carly - posted on 12/01/2010

I had Lucas in Nov 2008 and he is an only child for now. We would like to start trying again soon, we would have started long ago but finacially it just was too soon. We wilol see how we go I suppose.

Ashley - posted on 11/27/2010

my son carsen was born on nov. 12 2008 and he was my first child. we now have a daughter that was born august 12 2010.

Mandy - posted on 11/27/2010

My first daughter was born Nov. 18th 2008, and we now have another little girl thats about a month old. When I first found out I was pregnant again I almost felt guilty, thinking that my first daughter wouldn't get as much attention as she needed. But she loves her little sissy very much and I can see they are going to have a blast together! Just not looking forward to having two teenage girls one day : P

Chelsey - posted on 11/26/2010

Im 17 weeks pregnant atm :) Think we would like 3 in total x

Tabitha - posted on 11/25/2010

My Nov 08 boy just turned 2 yesterday and my daughter turned 6 months yesterday and they both join their older brother who is 7. The 2 younger ones are exactly 18 months apart but they do good together. I come from a family of 3 kids and im the oldest and I wanted 3 or more kids, but the hubby said our daughter was the last. Congrats to all that are pregnant!! I'm going to miss that :(

Christina - posted on 11/25/2010

I have a little girl born nov 17th 2008 and I had another in july 2010 they are only 22 months apart, but are both girls and getting along very very well

Katie - posted on 11/24/2010

I just had my second little girl on November 5th (2010) and my first November girl was born the 23rd, 2008. So my two girls are a couple weeks shy of two years apart. It's been ALOT of work these past few weeks, but I know it will pay off when they can play together and I always knew I wanted my children close together in age. I grew up with an older brother and was also surrounded by cousins, etc... I was never alone. I could not have imagined being an only child either, which is why we decided to have another baby. This baby is our last though, financially we cannot afford any more and we want to provide the best possible future for our girls that we can. Anyway, in the end, it is your decision... but my reasons were similar to yours for wanting another baby. I couldn't imagine my first being an only child and I wanted her to have the closeness of a sibling as she grows up. Good luck!

Mallory - posted on 11/24/2010

My husband was an only child. I grew up with 3 brothers and then had a step-bro and step-sis. Right now I only have one child, she will be 2 on monday :). I think that she will probably be an only child. My husband and I both had different childhoods and both loved it, we are looking more so at what is best for our child rather than what we want. if we do end up having another it would probably be like 4-5 years til then. Whatever you decide, good luck :)

Tine - posted on 11/24/2010

We definately want another one!

Julie - posted on 11/23/2010

Hi Michelle... my second is now 4 months old. He and his big sister are 20 months apart. I'm in total agreement about the importance of siblings.

Anna - posted on 11/23/2010

Our Nov. 28th baby was our second. The only thing I would say is time between kids is not a bad idea. Mine are 2 years, 1 month, and 1 day apart. Way too close!

Jennifer - posted on 11/23/2010

Hello Michelle. We had a daughter in Nov 2008 and we are pregnant with our second daughter, due to be born in January. I struggled with whether I wanted to try for another as I am no longer a spring chicken and worried about the health risks, but the desire to give our daughter a sibling won out. This pregnancy has been easier. I worry about recovery from a c-section while caring for a toddler, but hopefully it will work out better than I imagine. Good luck with your decision. :)

Mae - posted on 11/23/2010

My son turned two this month. The day he turned 2, his sister turned 4 months. He loves his "sissy" and is so good with her. Best of luck with whatever you choose.

Julie - posted on 11/22/2010

i already have another 4 mth old girl, it is great

Ruth - posted on 11/22/2010

I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my second. We weren't planning on having another one this soon not until our daughter was anywhere between 3-5 years old, but we're happy anyways because now we get a little boy!

Georgina - posted on 11/22/2010

Hi Michelle,

My daughter was born on September 29th...
It wasn't a planned pregnancy...it just happened and although it was kind of difficult the first couple of weeks...now is just great having both kids!

Wishing you all the best...

Emma - posted on 11/21/2010

our nov 2008 bub is our 2nd child and no plans for any more (2 is enough, one boy and one girl)

Jennifer - posted on 11/21/2010

My son was born Nov. 20 and joined his sister who was almost four. They adore each other. I would LOVE another - am just dying to experience the whole process just one more time, pregnancy, breastfeeding, tiny clothes, sleepless nights, all the milestones... just one more time while I still can. My husband is not quite so eager. We have one of each and he thinks a third would be too hard to handle. :(

Kristina - posted on 11/21/2010

My Nov 2008 baby is my first. I'm currently expecting my second in June of 2010! I'm 12 weeks!

Jaime - posted on 11/21/2010

My son was born Nov 19, 2008... and I'm now 15 weeks pregnant {due May 12, 2011} :)

Crystal - posted on 11/20/2010

Our oldest turns 2 tomorrow, the 21st and our other son is almost 7 months. They will be the only two children we have though. I would like a girl for the experience (and all the cute girl clothes) but Im happy with my two boys and you dont want to outnumber the parent to child ratio!

Jodie - posted on 11/20/2010

My Nov 2008 baby was my 2nd boy and we are 15 weeks along with #3! It is a bit overwhelming but it makes for an even happier home! Good luck with whatever you decide.

Natalie - posted on 11/20/2010

hi my two are 16 months apart and we will soon be going for another! love the closeness of their ages!

Brit-Karin - posted on 11/20/2010

My nov 2008 baby was my 6th and final child. My oldest was born in nov 1988, so I believe I've completed the cirkle :-))

Jill - posted on 11/20/2010

My Daughter was born Nov 16 2008. She is our first but we have been talking about having another. And sort-of trying. I would like for her to have a little sister or little brother.

Heidi - posted on 11/20/2010

We are just starting to try for baby 2. My dh and I are both from families with 3 children, so we really want our DD to have that sibling experience.

Susan - posted on 11/19/2010

my son was born nov 18 2008 and he was my 3rd child. his older brother was 10 and older sister 16 when he came along and i now have a 4 1/2 month old daughter and we also have legal guardianship of another little boy who is almost 20 months old! i do not plan on having anymore! love my babies to death but don't think i could handle anymore lol

Wendy - posted on 11/19/2010

my Nov 2008 boy was my 3rd n last child, he has 2 sisters n they r all 3 years apart.

Caitlin - posted on 11/19/2010

My first was born 17 Nov 2008 and number 2 arrived on the 17 April 2010. So there is 17 months between them. They get on really well and my little girl loves her little brother so much. I am close in age to my siblings and are very close to them where my husband has a 10yr and 7yr gap between his older and younger sister and they are not a close nit family. You have to do whats right for you. We will start trying for number 3 in a few months time

Alexandra - posted on 11/18/2010

we have a 2 year old boy, a 10 month girl and we are due with our third baby in june. I think really when you guys are ready then start trying, is the best answer. I would not change anything, even the babies being close together. It took us several months to conceive with all three babies but we never gave up. Good luck.

E - posted on 11/18/2010

Our Nov 2008 bub was born on 16 Nov, she is our first and we are looking at a 4-5 year gap before the next. We are being a little bit selfish as we enjoy having her doing more things for herself now and we can have more time for ourselves but also we are working towards being qualified so we can give our next child all that he/she needs without worrying about money!

Helena - posted on 11/18/2010

We had our third 5 months ago when our nov2008 toddler was 19 months. It works super! Both our older children love the new baby. Just remember, having babies is natural, however many or close/far apart. So go for it! A big family is cool!

Casey - posted on 11/18/2010

My daughter will be 2 next week and I'm 90% sure that i don't want any more kids. I'm an only child and never felt like missed out on anything without having a sibling.

Kim - posted on 11/18/2010

My daughter was born on 8th Nov 08 and I am 10 weeks pregnant with our next child. We were in two minds but decided that we wanted another one as much for us as for her... she needs companionship within our family too... us adults won't always cut it ;)

Victoria - posted on 11/18/2010

hi, my little boy was born 21st nov 08 and i had my little girl 24th may 2010 so there is exactly 18 months between them. she is now 6 months and they all ready play and she think he is hilarious when hes showing off for her!! i think every child would like a sibling to play with! as long as its not going to make you really poorly go for it!!

Selena - posted on 11/17/2010

Hmm, I wouldn't be too "sad" if you only had one child. I'm an only child and I loved it! I had plenty of friends and relatives to play with and didn't feel "alone". My daughter will most likely be an only child and I don't think it's a sad thing. I run a playgroup and she gets plenty of social interaction. I never subscribed to the negative "only child" stereotypes. Every number of children (1, 2, or 10) can work out just fine. I think people just gravitate toward what they know. I was an only child, so I'm fine having an only child. You had a sibling, so you want a sibling for your child. Both ways are absolutely fine. I just don't like people feeling like they "have to" have 2 or more children, especially when they risk their health to do so. There's no law that says you have to give birth to a playmate for your child. I can promise you that there are plenty of happy only children in the world. I guess people think it sounds selfish to admit how awesome being an only child can be, but I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't know what it's like to have a sibling, but I honestly do not feel any "loss" or that I'm missing out. I have a wonderful family and great friends. :)