Anyone nursing a two year old?? or has nursed a two year old?Need Help weaning!
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Cynthia - posted on 04/20/2009
I'm so glad I came upon this question. Sienna wis 20mths and I am still breastfeeding. I want to wean her, only because at this point it is not about the milk, but the fact that she is SO ATTACHED to my breast, she wont even stay with anyone, or if she sees me leave she goes crazy!!! She literally goes up to me and pulls out my braests and latches on in 2.3 seconds!!! She has done it in public and embarassed me. I feel like I dont know how to wean her, and Im having alot of trouble. SHe still doesnt sleep through the night. HELP!!!!
Diane - posted on 10/29/2008
I'm nursing my 2 year old too (closer to 3 actually)! I'm having a hard time weaning too - he is just so persistent, it's easy to give in. Then, I wonder if I'm only weaning him because there seems to be social pressure to do it, and not because it's what's best for him or me. I am really torn. Why should I do something (wean him) because 'everyone' says it's time. In some cultures it's quite normal to nurse toddlers to about 3 or even 4. Anyways,... I have no ideas to offer you. I just try to distract him with something else.....
My son is now 26 months and nurses upon waking in the morning and before nap and bed time. I was able to night wean him when he turned two by just holding him close, rubbing his back, and telling him how much I loved him, over and over. I also promised that we would have "num num" in the morning (and made good on the promise). I did this for two nights and by the third night he slept through. So that worked great for me, I recommend it highly to all you night nursers! :)
Now we're getting to weaning further - I'm getting anxious to stop - it just doesn't "feel" right all the time, I'm sure many of you can relate. We just have to go with our guts on when to stop. We are starting by having my husband put him to bed every once in a while, and when he gets back from his trip next week, we will start having my husband put him to bed every night. Our son likes his arm rubbed so that works when Daddy puts him down.
Another thing that works great for toddlers is finding a way that they can still have the physical closeness with you without nursing. My son found a mole on my side that he calls, "Mommy's Spot." So if he wants to snuggle and nurse at a random time during the day or in public, or if he stressed or hurt, I offer up "Mommy's Spot" and he just caresses my side until he feels better. Sounds kind of funny I know, but it works!
Rich foods also work really well for us as a distraction - full fat yogurt, whipped cream, ice cream, etc. In moderation of course.
As we reduce the feedings the key is to do it gradually and with love - when you refuse or delay, make sure you are still very physically close and never show frustration with the crying or whining. Just keep saying how much you love them and that they can have "num num" (or whatever you call it) at the next feeding. Not sure what I'll do when I get down to one feeding per day - I guess I will just ask him to wait "until tomorrow" and start going every other day.
Good job to all you moms who have stuck with breastfeeding for so long! :)
Brenda - posted on 03/31/2009
As I said earlier, none of my eight children are nursing today. (The baby is 12!) In fact they gag when I talk about it. LOL
You have two issues. Weaning a toddler, and Meddlesome Friends and Relatives. Perspective will be a useful tool. Today for your friends and your mom, and maybe even for you, nursing a two year old looms large. The tug-of-war lines are drawn: American culture and "normal" on one side - your two year old on the other and guess who is the rope?!
Ultimately you must do what I encourage all moms to do "Write your own Mother-Book". Perhaps allow your friends and relatives to express their concerns and reasons they feel you need to wean now. Really listen to what they have to say. Focus on their motivation. Is it concern for you and your baby? Do they feel threatened because you have made a decision they did not make? ETC. Thank them for their love and concern, then tell them you will consider their points. From that time if they bring it up again, acknowledge that you remember what they said.
You are in fact in the process of weaning by restricting any breastfeeding. If your baby is bored and wants to nurse, distraction with a favorite toy, game or activity can help. If your baby is hungry now would be the time to serve some finger foods. If your child is cranky and sleepy, then a nap either with mom (nursing) or after a time at breast. Early morning and bedtime feedings were the last to go for me and my babes.
Think and plan ahead. You are the adult. Be prepared for those boredom times. Respect yourself and your choices. Others, including baby, will have to comply. But by all means, nurse your little one for as long as you want! Because when he is twelve he will gag at the thought of it. :)
Gabrielle - posted on 03/31/2009
I'm trying to wean my 2 year old right now. Having trouble though. I use to nurse on demand ... and now I'm down to 3 or 4 times a day. He doesn't like regular milk ... and only likes to drink water. And he is a very fussy eater. My friends and mother bother me a lot about why I'm still nursing and when I am going to stop.
Angeline - posted on 11/13/2008
I did not, but my step mom did for my youngest sister. I don't remember how she did it, but I remember it being hard for both of them. My dad was laying in bed without a shirt on and Rosie (my sis) wanted "bottle" so bad, she asked my dad "Daddy, you got milk in dem bottles?". It was too cute. All I can suggest is to take it one day at a time.
Natalie - posted on 11/12/2008
I'm currently nursing my 13th month old - #3 in my house. My first nursed until almost 2 when he self-weaned cold turkey. Not fun. My daughter nursed until just about 3. With her, I used distraction when we were out in public and slowly eliminated the times we nursed. It finally got down to only after I got home from work (for Rae giving up bedtime was way easier than the 5:30 nurse). Eventually, though, she was ready to just have cuddles with Mom. I have to say, though, as frustrating as nursing a toddler sometimes is, I really missed it when she was fully weaned.
Sakima - posted on 11/07/2008
I agree with Brenda. My daughter is 2.5 and I managed to wean her from daytime feedings at 2 yrs simply by keeping her busy or distracting her attention else where, At 2.5, she still nurses before bed and when she wakes up in the morning which I have no problem with.
Brenda - posted on 11/07/2008
As a mother of eight - oldest 25, youngest 12. I am pleased to report none of them is still nursing!
Good advice to take weaning on gradually, especially if your ready but baby isn't. Kids need stability, but they are very pliable and will go with your boundaries. I read once that it takes three weeks to make a new habit - brain cells and such involved. I think kids, with consistent guidelines, adapt much quicker.
Melinda - posted on 11/03/2008
I personally chose to wean because I didn't feel comfortable with the daily nursing, I feel that she is too old to be asking for it, the big push was when we were out in public and she would still want to nurse, I decided to only nurse when we're in the comfort of our home and to be consistent with timing I had to nurse only at naptime, bedtime, and night. I have recently cut the nap and bedtime feedings because I was hoping it would help her fall asleep on her own (which she does) and that maybe she would start sleeping through the night or put herself back to sleep.
Sharleen - posted on 11/02/2008
I'm still nursing my 2.5 year old! I decided I would let her self-wean, as that's supposed to be less harmful to her emotional development, but I did night-wean her ages ago. How come you have decided to wean? Are you having some trouble?
Melinda - posted on 10/31/2008
I am still nursing my 15 month old, not close to where you guys are but I already feel like I am being pressured to stop. I do like that my daughter is still getting some breast milk and that I am able to breastfeed this long. Did you know that breastfeeding reduces the risk of breast cancer for you and your child? I have been able to wean her to just night feedings (which some may be against). I started by cutting out her 'awake' feedings and only nursed her to go to sleep for naps and bedtime and throughout the night. I just recently cut the nap and bedtime feedings and only nurse when she wakes up in the night...usualy around midnight and 4am. I have a background in Early Childhood Development (which does not make me any more knowledgable about being a mother)...but I have found that you have to have the backbone to stand up to your toddler. Instead of asking them, tell them--"you're a big boy/girl, you use a sippy cup during the day" "it's not time to nurse" offer them a distraction, direct their attention to a new toy or game.
Ashlee - posted on 10/28/2008
yes i still am lol hes 26 months and im like ok riley get offfffffffffffffff lol well im starting to when he asks for it i say do u want some water or i will go in the kitchen and get him a snack to replace it and i till usally try to only to it before he goes to a nap or bed
Kal - posted on 10/27/2008
I'm currently nursing my two-year old, but haven't attempted to wean him yet. I'm planning on trying to cut out nursing sessions a little at a time, but with my busy schedule, I haven't taken the time to do it yet. My goal is to have him weaned before he's 3 although he may have a different idea about that!
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