I am not enjoying it any more:(

Cherie - posted on 01/10/2010

Thank you so much for the replies girls, I have been continuously doing the resettle through the night with no picking up, no talking and no eye contact only shhh and patting if he gets really fussy since posting he is doing better then every 2 hours but is still waking 2 - 3 times a night but last night he only needed one resettle and I then topped him up at 5:30am and he is still asleep and its 9am woohoo so he slept 9 till 12:30 - 15min resettle then through till 5:30 and still going! I really hope this is a sign of things to come. His day feeds have dropped as well now he only has a feed for his day nap which is for 3 hours now YAY nap that is not feed hehe and before bed as a top up after solids and I am feeling so much better for it the pinching is easing I guess not feeding him as often its not bothering me as much I just really hope it continues improving, so far so good!

Again thank you I will be looking into all your tips to help me continue the process and its good to read over when Im having I cant do this moment xoxo

Brandi - posted on 12/31/2009

My 19 month old still nurses, but is definitely approaching the end of needing/wanting to nurse. When she hit 12 months, I tried giving her straight cow's milk, but she spit it out and gave me "the look." I then gave her cow's milk mixed with breastmilk, but she developed awful gas. When she was 14 months, I purchased Lactaid and mixed that with breastmilk, slowly increasing the lactaid portion and decreasing the breastmilk portion of her daytime bottles/sippy cups (she was in daycare 5 days a week while I worked) across a 4 month span of time. She enjoyed (and still enjoys the lactaid), it has a sweeter flavor than cow's milk does. Around 14 months, I started putting her in her bed to sleep after nursing her to sleep. At first she slept 2 hours before waking and refusing to go back to sleep, then she slept 4 hours, then she stretched to 6 hours. However, my husband started waking up when she fussed and bringing her in to our bed at some point between 4 & 6 hours of sleeping alone and she regressed for a 4-5 weeks. The night she turned 18 months, he was away on a trip, and I decided to tough it out and see if she could sleep through the night alone. She fussed at the 4 hour mark, and put herself back to sleep. She then fussed at the 8 hour mark, and put herself back to sleep. At the 10 hour mark, she fussed, couldn't (or wouldn't) console herself, and I brought her to bed with me to nurse/sleep until she reached her full 12 hours of sleep. I then trained my husband to not get up for her, and now she sleeps from 7:00 p.m. until 5:30 or 6:30 a.m. with only a few very very short fussy moments during the night. Both sides of our family have trouble sleeping, so I don't expect her to ever sleep through the night without waking, but she has gotten much better at putter herself back to sleep when she wakes during the night. Oh, I still nurse her to sleep & nurse her when she wakes in the morning. Last night she went to sleep without nursing, but nursed for an extra long period of time this morning. I think she'll completely wean by 24 months (if not before then).

One last thing, whenever she bit her pinched me, I would yelp loudly and put her down on the floor. One time she bit so hard (she was teething), I yelled so loudly and put her down so quickly that she cried from the unexpected reaction. She never bit me again after that. That method wasn't working on the pinching, so I simply pinched her back one day right after she pinched me, and she stopped pinching except when she was trying to get the let-down reflex kick in faster.

Regina - posted on 12/29/2009

At 10 months I couldn't take the 4-6 night time feeding anymore, so I put on my big girl panties & decided that it was time to cut them out. I ended after bedtime feedings cold turkey. It went really well. For the first week she still work up about 4 times a night & I would just soothe her back to sleep without picking her up. But then the next week I decided it was time to sleep thru the night. It only took about 2 days & now if she peeps at night she gets herself back to sleep 99% of the time. I'm a much happier mommy now & still enjoying my daytime feedings.

As far as the pinching goes, when they pinch or bite end that feeding right then. Even if it means you have to go pump. It will only take a few times before baby realizes why the feedings are stopping. Hopefully that will work for you.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/29/2009

Oh I feel ya .. My daughter is 14 mo and she loves to pinch me. I can not get her in her own bed either. I dont think weaning her will be hard except for at night.... A few things I have done during the day is sippy/straw cup with water ... very cold she loves that. lots of finger foods. Have to get him eating more solids so he is not hungry in the 1st place. Ovaltine in the milk... might help. or start pumping and giving him that in a sippy. Don't do the bottle thing though. Thats just one more thing to have to take away. Maybe add some milk to your breast milk. oh I also feed her a big bowl of cereal before bed so she does not wake up hungry. That helps alot.

Good luck... when you do wean there is a tea called no more milk made by Earth Mama Angel Baby ...

Elizabeth

Heather - posted on 12/25/2009

My little guy was quite the same. I was up at least 6 times night until about 12 months. I made sure he was eating more real food at dinner. We also leave a sippy cup of just water in bed with him. He is now 18 months and is sleeping about 12 hours a night. It took a little whilt yo break the habit of waking so much but it slowly went to 2 time s night of waking and then none. It sounds like you're being used a the binki. I give my little guy several incase he looses one he can find another. Hang in there it will change. I know life ina fog is very challenging. Good luck.