Boarding school

Tony - posted on 12/01/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm a single mother and I get home late. I feel that my son is too young to stay home alone after school while I'm at work. I don't want a nanny as my son & I have had our share of their dishonesty and dissappointments. Aftercare is out of the question as most schools only have it until Grade 5. The school I am looking into costs a fortune but is really great and I, personlly believe he will love it. Is it advisable to take my 11 yr old son to (weekly) boarding school, how will it affect us? I'm afraid he might feel that I'm neglecting him and might put a strain on our relationship.

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Renee - posted on 12/15/2009

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I think he is old to have an opinion. Ask him. My daughter is 10 and I would ask her what she wants to do but YOU ultimately have the final decision. Do what is best for him and his safety. Good luck to you and your son.

Michelle - posted on 12/02/2009

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You don't say how late you get home. That is an important factor. Is it 11pm and he's already in bed? Is it 7pm and you still have a chance to interact with him for a short time? Do you get to spend time with him in the morning before school? How much face-to-face time would you be loosing? How hard would it be on YOU to have him away? (Now multiply that by at least 3x for him.)

I also don't know what your neighborhood is like, but at 11 years, he may be very close to being able to be home on his own. With a little planning, you and he can make sure that he's eating healthy. (If he needs to make his own dinner) Are there friends or neighbors near-by that you trust to be used for support if needed?

I don't envy your decision. You are trying to provide the most safety and security for your son as possible. Yet, kids often spell the word "love" as T-I-M-E. Not to mention what you will miss if he's away all week. Talk with your son, and look into your heart. Deep down, you may already know the answer that's best for you.

Diamond - posted on 12/02/2009

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That's a hard call, especially since I have never had to put any of my children in boarding school. First I would suggest to pray about it, check around for other alternatives, or even speak to your Supervisor, or manager about the situation depending on the type of work you do maybe they can allow your son to come to work with you if at all possible. Hopefully if you have an understanding superior; he or she will understand your situation and do all they can to assist you in this matter. I hope you find a solution very soon! I have two small kids myself and it can be very difficult raising them alone and having to be both mom and dad, while at the same time spreading yourself thin by being everywhere at once.

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