How do moms handle teens friends frequent visits?

Shone - posted on 06/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My house appears to be the teen hangout house by default. My work hours decreased so I am working 1-3 days now. My sons friends want to hang out at my house all day. Occasionally it's not a problem.They are all job hunting, playing sports and good kids with ferocious appetites. It is a relief to know where they are and know they are not in trouble but I can not feed the neighborhood, especially now that I work limited hours.
The main issue is that I don't want guests in my home when I am away, my spouse does not reinforce this. I have come home early from work and discovered teens in the house and my spouse has left for work. I politely drove them home and taken away privileges from my son, including no visitors in the home.
Any suggestions.

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Ana - posted on 06/22/2012

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My mom told us (4 of us), no one in the house when an adult is not here.. no exceptions..if the rule was broken, she made us feel it, grounded, no activities, no visitors for a month, what ever it took...but you can't punish the kids if the dad is who really needs the punishment..

Shone - posted on 06/21/2012

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Thanks. I will change my posts. Thanks for the parenting reinforcement/support.

Karla - posted on 06/21/2012

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Shone, you might get more responses if you post your question on the "Welcome to Circle of Moms" page instead of here at "Obama Mamas"

As for your question, to me it sounds like you are handling it fine. Sometime you have to tell kids to leave, and set a few rules. It sounds like you are doing that in a kind and accepting way. It might not be comfortable for you, but parenting isn't always comfortable. :-)

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