How do you get teenagers to just listen?

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Sarah - posted on 07/13/2009

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They do. No matter how angry they are, you are the biggest influence in their life. I would listen to my oldest (now 25) tell her friends things that I had told her (even though, at times, she would disagree with me). She repeats what I said to her as a teen all the time. They are listening. Realize you deserve their respect, too. Hope that helps.

ME - posted on 07/13/2009

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I would suggest that you listen to them first. (I am not saying that you don't). I have worked extesively with teens, and lecturing them never did me any good. Teens with problems with drugs, violence, or who simply don't think about their future and the need for a good education. They all feel unheard and misunderstood...let them talk, and you listen...once you do that, I bet you know what to say in a way that they will want to listen!

Twala - posted on 06/18/2009

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Find a common ground/compromise and remember to show them respect. Sometimes we parents have a one track mind that says "Dag on it I'm the parent and what I say goes" However, this will not work. Teenagers have their own minds and they have formed opinions, likes and dislikes therefore we must show them respect and listen to what they have to say and go from their..

Katrina - posted on 06/11/2009

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It is not easy. But you can not stop. Your words stick with them and every time they are about to do something, total recall kicks in. On the surface, it is a defense mechanism to show us that they know more than we do. My son thinks he has learned more in his 14 years than I have in my 36. I will cut him off when he feels he has the answer just to let him know that there are other ways to think, act, and react. We as the parents have to trust that we are doing our jobs even when it doesn't appear to be that way.

Heather - posted on 06/05/2009

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Even though my 16 year old does not usually take my advice, and appears not to be listening, she really is. I have noticed that while she does not always make the choices I advise her to take, my words to linger in the back of her mind and she does at least start to question some of the stupid things her friends are doing. Like we all did, they have to learn from their own mistakes, we have to learn to let go a little bit and watch them make mistakes and then 'face the music' for it. But I can tell you that just when I think she has dismissed my advice as useless I overhear her making some of the very same statements I thought she ignored to her friends on the phone (when she doesn't know I an hear her of course!)

Jammie - posted on 06/05/2009

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You can't really they have to find out on there own all can do is help them to be safe and pray they now right or wrong. i never listen to my momm but i would learn the hard way or i would listen to those i look up to. teens tend to listen to peers then adults because they think they grown and and think they know what they are doing.

Jammie - posted on 06/05/2009

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You can't really they have to find out on there own all can do is help them to be safe and pray they now right or wrong. i never listen to my momm but i would learn the hard way or i would listen to those i look up to. teens tend to listen to peers then adults because they think they grown and and think they know what they are doing.

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