i have a 8year old girl she is still wetting her bed at nights . is this because she was a preemie?

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Jenn - posted on 02/23/2009

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This is actually quite common it is a condition known as enuresis. I have endured this with my own child who still does this occasionally. This usually stops around 12 years of age. I would suggest buying goodnites for her. Do not make a big deal about it because it is embarassing for her and you do not want her to feel like she has done something wrong. I would still consult with her pediatrician on this matter and make sure that she does not have a kidney or bladder infection. I cut off all of my sons liquids after 6 pm other than a "sip" of water.  You may also want to ask her if she is having any trouble at school or elsewhere. Sometimes this could be a sign that something or someone is bothering your daughter, kids can be mean, school can be stressful. Good Luck

Megan - posted on 03/09/2013

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It is possible that being a preemie may be a factor. Just know that millions of kids wet the bed every night, so you are not alone. I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. Typically the childs brain does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com
Good luck and God Bless!

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Trudi - posted on 02/22/2009

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My nine year old daughter still does to and she was 9lbs at birth so I don't think it has anything to do with being a preemie. My doctor says its a genectic thing, my husband did until he was about 11. They have really small bladders and cant control it no matter how hard they try, then eventually they grow out of the stage. My doctor suggested I get her an alarm that can sense it before it happens to stir her from her sleep. Or you can always get water proof sheets and wait until she grows out of it like I did. I just try to not say anything it must be terribly embarrasing for her, all I can do is love her and support her and make sure she goes to the bathroom before she goes to bed.

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The question is is she wetting the bed every night or just a few nights a month?



I was a bed wetter until 11 and my 8 year still wets the bed about 1 -2 nights a month. I find that if I stop her fluid intake at least 2-3 hrs before bedtime and make her go before bed she doesn't wet the bed. She normally does it now at other people's homes who don't follow these rules.



 



If your child is wetting the bed every night. I know what I did was I would set my alarm for about 2am and every night I would wake up and go take my daughter to the bathroom. That helped her a lot too.

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Katherine - posted on 10/31/2013

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My son was a 29 wk preemie. He's now 10. We've tried pull ups, decreasing liquids after dinner, nothing after 7 pm, and walking him up in the middle of the night to no avail. He decided recently, he was going to get himself up by setting his own phone alarm. It works, his own solution.
I was told by the pediatrician that being a preemie, his bladder may take longer to expand/ grow, to hold the fluid and since he's such a heavy sleeper, he's not sensing the full bladder. In due time he'll be able to quit setting his alarm and sleep through the night... dry.

Marcia - posted on 11/01/2012

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My 8 year old still wets the bed and it drives me crazy her father wet the bed till the age of 14 i on the other hand stopped wetting the bed at an early age. But from the research i did I realized that bed wetting is heredity and sound sleepers wet the bed and she is a strong sleeper i dont know what else to do but this cant continue i would take any advice i get

Leilani - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi.  My daughter just turned 9.  She wet the bed all the time.  Then she would hide it because she was embarrassed.  I limited her fluid intake to about 2 hours before bed time.  I try to keep an on anything stressfull for her.  A bad day at school.  A frustrating evening with her little brothers.  Maybe she is just having one of those days.  Limiting fluids and just really keeping on top of everything that is going on with her helped me out a lot.  Maybe it will help you by at least giving you a starting point.

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no not at all. She's probubly scared of something . The dark is a scary place for kids. Put on a nite light. Relieve her stress and read to her and kiss her before bed time . Leave your door open and a hall light too. It should stop  in a year or so.

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The question is is she wetting the bed every night or just a few nights a month?



I was a bed wetter until 11 and my 8 year still wets the bed about 1 -2 nights a month. I find that if I stop her fluid intake at least 2-3 hrs before bedtime and make her go before bed she doesn't wet the bed. She normally does it now at other people's homes who don't follow these rules.



 



If your child is wetting the bed every night. I know what I did was I would set my alarm for about 2am and every night I would wake up and go take my daughter to the bathroom. That helped her a lot too.

Nicole - posted on 02/17/2009

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Has something traumatic recently happened to your child? Sometimes trouble at school or fears about certain things can cause potty trained older children to regress. Be patient! Try a bed alarm to help get her back on track!!

Kristina - posted on 02/14/2009

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I don't know if it would be due to being a preemie or not.  But that's interesting that you would say that.  My 7 year old still wets the bed also and was 7 weeks premature.  Her doctor said that it's hereditary.  My husband and I were both bedwetters.  None of our siblings were.  My other three children are not.  I'm not sure what causes it.  We recently took her to the doctor and they prescribed a pill for her.  It seems to be helping, though she has an occasional accident.  It's very important not to punish them for it, because they really don't do it on purpose and it will actually lead to a longer problem.  I was against the pill until recently because I thought it would dehydrate her, but she hasn't had a problem whatsoever.  Good luck!



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Kate - posted on 02/11/2009

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Great comments/suggestions, Kristen. The only thing that I would add is to speak to your pediatrician about the bed-wetting. But I honestly don't think it has anything to do with having been a preemie. Good Luck and let us know how things go.

Kristen - posted on 02/11/2009

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Is she still wetting her bed, or has she just started again recently? I know some kids at that age start again. Not because there is anything wrong, but just because they are growing rather quickly and their bladder control slips a little. It stops on its own when everything catches up to their skeletal growth.



If you think it is psychological/emotional, one of my friends tried something that worked. She discontinued pull-ups and checked on her son once or twice after he went to bed. If he had wet the bed, he was responsible for changing the sheets and pj's himself. Of course, you will want to put a waterproof mattress pad on the bed. After a while he got tired of having to really get up in the middle of the night and stopped wetting the bed.

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