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Alexis - posted on 02/01/2013

I totally agree with trying daycare part time at first. It might help both of you adjust slowly. I realize this may not be an option for you if you have work to return to, your schedule might not allow for such an activity. Maybe you can try play dates or dropping her off at a relative's to be alone/without mom (or with other kids) for an hour or two a few times a week. Just getting used to being outside of the home and with less familiar people may help the transition feel less foreign and traumatizing. Baby steps :)
I have to laugh because as I write this, I see myself crying my eyes out when I start bringing my 2 year old to school. I can't say yet how he will handle it, but I know how I will handle it-begrudgingly. lol Be strong!

Vanessa - posted on 07/06/2009

Thanks so much Melana. I think you are so correct when saying it is about what is best for the child and not hurting others feelings. I have visited a couple of day-cares and was not to pleased with them even after being referred by friends. I do have a little time so I think a part time situation in the beginning is a good idea. Thanks again.

Melana - posted on 07/06/2009

I am a mother of 4 and each time I took time off from the workforce in order to spend as much time as possible with my new baby their first year. The longest gap I had was 2 1/2 years after my oldest son....but one measure of advice that might help your transition is before you actually go back to work, you may want to start your daughter off at daycare just part-time. Maybe just a few days a week for a few hours. This is a transition for her too! That way too you can kind of have a trial period before you actually put your foot all the way back into the workforce.



Another word of advice,,,you may have to try a couple of daycares before you select the one you feel most comfortable with. No daycare is perfect, you will have to pick and chose and don't feel bad if you decide against one. Go with your intuition when it comes to your kids' daycare....it's usually 100% right! :) I felt bad in the past when a friend or family member referred me to a daycare and then I wasn't as pleased as they were....so I decided against it. Don't feel bad, it's about your child not hurting anyone's feelings;)