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sum help from ur past experiences.. an immature SO?

Tracy - posted on 11/16/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm 23 and preggo- my bf and i have been together for a yr and i became preggs despite all teh birthcontrol we tried :-o but .. Im happy to be having my baby - as is my bF (who lives with me) .. I have no job and he suports me (he only works a target stocker position and $ is tight) ..He is addicted to video games .. tho he says he wont be buying any for a while (he has spent $70 on games this month so far) .. Im due in late feb and he hasnt bought a single baby item.. he comes home and plays games then promises to help me around the house and falls asleep -- AND to top it off blames me for being so cuddly that i make him passout?! Ive tried yelling and screaming and talking and notes..postings online... both mean- concerned and trying to appeal to how it makes me sad...Ive tried calendars and check lists and dry-erase boards.. He's a nice guy. I love him.. but I am often left feeling very alone in this pregnancy. Him and his father point out how he doesn't do drugs and he doesnt drink.. and how he's always been a very 'upstanding' citizen.. liek school crossing guard and HS football team.. Im afraid that we wouldnt have what we need for the baby if it weren't for family buying things.. I have 3 months-ish to go - and he says we have time - liek he did when it was 7 mo left and 5 mo left-- ect.. any advice? I mean- theres no breaking up for a good 9months - but Before I give up - i really would like to try everything i can to save us and our little family.

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Susan - posted on 11/29/2009

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You need to talk and listen. Get him to talk about how he imagines how things will be when the baby arrives. Talk about his dreams for the baby. My guess is that this doesn't seem as real to him as to you.

Yelling, nagging, etc. don't work. You need to be a team. Come up with ways to get ready for the baby together.

Martina - posted on 11/24/2009

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u need 2 be sneaky wen he wants sum lovin tell him ur too tired from doing all the house work after uv dun that a few times he will get the picture and start doing house work and when he does giv him the reward of sex! men love it and will do anything for it evenhouse work!lol

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2009

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sister,you have to put your foot down in the begining or he will take whatever room you give him and run with it.if he hasn't got his act together by now he's not going to.i think you should start packing and tell him your leaving and why.then see if he has a change of heart and goes straight out and gets something for the baby.if he acts like a bratt,walk out the door,while telling him you'll come back IF he grows up.trust me i know from experience what i am talking about.good luck and let me know how it goes.

Sarah - posted on 11/18/2009

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Sounds like your kinda stuck until u have the baby, but hopfully he will mature and be more responsible once the baby is born. Unfortunetly for some guys it just isn't real until the baby arrives. I would say just make the best of the rest of the pregnancy and try not to stress too much...but if he doesn't grow up once baby is here you might have to get a job and take him to court for support so u get your money before he gets his video games.

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