My son has a terrible tone in his voice when he speaks to me.

LaTasha - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi. Whenever I tell my 4 yr old to do something he looks at me and says no, with this horrible tone. I just have to give him "the look" and he does it but I really don't like how he says no. It is very rude and since he does what I tell him any way I'm at a loss for how to get the attitude out of him. Should I punish him for his tone? If so how?Any thoughts or ideas would be helpful. Thank you so much.

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Kimberly - posted on 04/02/2010

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We went through this. I told him that I can't understand him when he talks to me like that, and that when he can talk nicely to me, we can try again.

Teresa - posted on 03/14/2010

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definitely tell him that the way he is talking to you is not okay and that he needs to say it a little kinder. also let him know that it is not ok to tell you "no" regardless of what he does or doesnt do because at that age i dont think its a matter of testing his boundaries anymore like a child does when they first say no. but i wouldnt punish him either, punishing is really overrated, talking can really get you far, it makes them understand and feel like you listen and respect them, which really is important.

Amanda - posted on 02/11/2010

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I put my son in time out and tell him when the attitude is gone he is able to rejoin the family. Some days it takes 15 seconds for the attitude to go away, sometimes it takes 5 minutes... and other days he knows he is having a rough day and will decide to take a 1/2 hour to play by himself and wind down before he is ready to have family time because he doesn't want me making the decision for him.

Brittany - posted on 01/27/2010

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oh yeah and if it doesn't stop you should let him know that there will be consequences for his attitude. even though he is doing what you ask of him

Brittany - posted on 01/27/2010

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my son also does this same thing and i have had talk after talk with him about it. i let him know that it is very rude and disrespectful when he speaks to me like this. i try to let him know that it hurts my feelings and it has stopped so i would let him know the same.

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