How do you handle a very active two yr old?

Tina - posted on 02/03/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My son is very active and is into everything. I can not seem to get anything done around the house. If I turn my back on him for a second he is getting into stuff that he is not supposed too. What should I do?

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Jessica - posted on 08/14/2010

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my son is very active as well. I was never getting anything done! i have a gate blocking out kitchen cause he always seems to get in trouble in there and the bedrooms and bathroom are locked so he can go into the living room down the hall into his room and dining room which are all toddler friendly so if i go into the kitchen i dont have to worry to much about what he is doing! now when i do the dishes i let him help, i have the right side sink he has the left, i give him some cups and bowls and a sponge and he will help wash them, i end up having to re wash but he atleast is with me and i know what he is doing, although my kitchen gets flodded i dont want to stop every second to make sure he isnt getting into something he shouldnt, he also vaccums, i bought him his own but it wasnt good enough he loves to vaccum so i let him do it, he does a great job he wants to do it!! and some days i dont do antyhing but pick up his toys and just play with him!! he also loves to help throw clothes in the washer and put the detergent in.. he is a great little helper!! but def. can be fresh, soo if he is fresh he gets the time out! but let him/her help you, and instead of cleaning everything ever day, make a schedule, vaccuming and sweaping one day, dusting another... so you are cleaning something everyday but it may take 20mins rather then hours.. that way he will help and not lose focus after so much time since kids have a short attention spane! that way you spend more time with your son/daughter! i would say when they are napping you can get stuff done but my son wears me out that i take a nap when i can!! good luck! hope this helps, even though i was just all over the place with it! =)

Pat - posted on 09/16/2011

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It's his job to be "2:" and active and into everything. I saw a movie speeded up of the movements of a 2 year old over a half hour in my college Early Childhood Class. It looked like a the path of one of those bumper cars just walking into walls and backing up., Lots of figure 8's! :) They are growing at one of the fastest rates, both physically and mentally, in their entire lives. TIP: keep him safe #1. Find a room near you (not the kitchen) where you can put up barriers (gates, etc) to keep him safe while you work. (Kitchen work means they are in a highchair or other restraint. Not safe, otherwise. Making beds? Bring into the room and close the door. All doorknobs need child safe locks. They are absolutely fearless and will take off no matter what you say. They haven't lived long enough to be afraid or understand danger. They rely on you totally. Don't go downstairs to do laundry. Do that when another adult is available to watch them, or they are gated in their room (if they wake up from sleep). They are heavy enough to fall against a gate and knock it over, so you need the permanently installed variety, or don't use one. If you are too tired to do laundry at night if it's on another floor, then buy extra cloths and do it on the weekends, or when your mom or other visits. It can wait. They can't be left alone for a minute or two until they are at least 4 or 5 depending on their cognitive development. Really. Your first job is caretaker, your second is housekeeper if that's your part, and the house can wait. God bless you. Pat Nickerson (ECE)

Mandy - posted on 02/13/2010

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Play with him, make lots of mess and have a great time every day - we make a part of the end of day routine to at least tidy up one thing together and then I do the rest when Danica is in bed at night or having her nap when I am home. Housework is over rated - we have a happy home that has some dust about but we have a great time every day. Give him some housework chores to play at - mine loves sweeping the hall floors....

Danielle - posted on 02/05/2010

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Try having him help you. I was having the same problem. I also go to school from home so there are times I would like Cheyanne to entertain herself. I find that for the daily neccessities preparing food washing some dishes etc I have/make her help. It makes her happy feeling a sense of accomplishment. I am teaching her life skills. Although it seems to slow me down (compared to if she were not helping) but then I just figure if she's getting into a million other things really its preventing a ton of other messes to be cleaned! Hope this helps.

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Sukanya - posted on 11/16/2011

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Try giving him stuff to do, like easy housework or something which will keep him busy. Get him washable crayons and coloring books. Cartoons and computers work well but you cannot do that all the time. Teach him how to make easy stuff by folding paper. You will be the best judge to figure out what interest him most. Play a sorting game with different kitchen items. He might think he is actually doing stuff which the grown ups do

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2011

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Beverly Haggerty, My daughter knows not to touch things and doesnt, we started sitting her in the corner when she was 6 mths (i no it seems harsh but it was only for 5seconds) she now knows not to touch certain things (I am able to have all my ornaments out) and she understands what we mean when we say corner and she will go and sit there till we call her and she wont touch things either again or at least for a while.
Tina as for activites I have no idea how to help currently looking for some for my daughter to stimulate her more till she gets into day care

Beverly - posted on 09/21/2011

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Serina Kee posted "I also have an active 2 year old, but she knows she will get in trouble if she messes with "stuff..." I found this interesting because my 2 yr old knows she will get in trouble and doesn't care at all, so far absolutely no punishment works for her. We are pretty stressed over it.

Kelly - posted on 08/12/2010

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I bought my active lil boy an 8 foot trampoline with enclosure for the garden, doesnt have burn off some of his energy. My back garden is off my living room , and totally enclosed and child proof, so I can let him out and do some chores in the living room!!
Also I have a safety gate on the kitchen, and have our bedroom and his teenage sisters bedroom locked with door locks. He can then have run of downstairs, go up to his room and play, and I dont have to worry at all as everywhere is toddler friendly!! He burns off loadsa energy running about.
But even tho he is active he is very good at amusing himself which is a bonus when I need to get things done

Kirsty - posted on 08/04/2010

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i can relate to this!i usually dont do much round the house durin the day,just a bit of tidying up,maybe a wash,i reserve it all for a night time when cj is in bed!as for his activeness,i take him out and get him to burn it off.i meet friends to take him to the park or go for a walk,or let him ride up and down the street on his bike.i also do lots of activities (painting,baking etc).he attends nursery 11 hours a week.even just playing in the house helps.if i do need to get something done and hes in that mood then i wll put a dvd on for him

Noelle - posted on 02/17/2010

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My daughter is also very active. Not really one to get into dangerous things, but still very active. I take her outside (when the weather is decent) and let her run like a maniac so she gets rid of some of that extra energy.
Then when its time to clean or do laundry, I have her help me. It keeps her occupied and makes her feel important. She doesn't have to know that I have to refold things she "folded" or whatever.
I have a cabinet in the kitchen that is only for plastic containers and she has full access to that one. When its time to put dishes away, that is her job. One by one, she puts the containers and lids in there. It takes the entire time and keeps her safe and happy.
When I clean the windows, she gets a dry paper towel to wipe the patio door. She has no idea she isnt cleaning.
She has a play vacuum to use while I vacuum.
You get the picture, I'm sure.
Some children just need to be given little tasks to keep them busy and happy while you do yours.

Shannon - posted on 02/15/2010

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Sounds familiar haha. My daughter needs to be entertained 24/7 or she is into everything, it is very hard to get anything done. We eventually got her a heap of play dough, a small chalk board and lots of coloring in books. She loves these activities and while she does this I can get some chores done. We made the mistake of putting on a dvd for her and her behaviour became much worse. She also likes to help get dinner ready and vacuum with me. It is slow work and can be a little frustrating but she loves it and I know where she is and what she is doing :) We also have a golden retriever that she loves to play with now she is older, she uses up a lot of energy running around with him. Maybe if it is possible getting him a pet (that can withstand the roughness of a two year old). x

Janine - posted on 02/15/2010

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My elder daughter is 2 years old and gets into everything and is go go go from the minute she wakes up until she goes to sleep.
I have put child proof locks on most of my drawers and cupboards, but I have left a few that have tupperware and non breakable items in them, so if the kids do get into those cupboards its not so terrible. Caitlin loves Hi-5 at the moment, so once a day I will put on a Hi-5 DVD, and seeing as it is only once a day she is glued to the TV for that half hour or hour, so that can give you a lil bit of time. Also, I try to plan an activity a day, and Caitlin loves to "help" me clean. She helps me peg out the washing, I put a lil clothes airer outside so she can hang up clothes too, she puts the pegs on upside down, but hey she loves it and isn't cauing mischief, so I figure why not. Caitlin is also into sweeping at the moment, which includes the wooden floors and the carpets also get a sweep...Oh and cooking, Caitlin absolutely loves to help out with prep when doing the cooking....
I find as long as I keep my little one busy and let her 'help' me and get involved with things she doesn't cause too much mischief, but hey they don't call it the terrible two's for nothing.
Good Luck!! :-)

Angela - posted on 02/12/2010

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Buy child prood locks!! When I need to get housework done or shower, put in a DVD he likes to watch with a small snack and drink. My Son (2 years 3 months) is in a destructive, throw everything mode at the moment so I feel for you. Get him outside to the park or community center that has a toddler gym/play area on days its to icky to play outside. That's the best I can tell you being a first time Mom. Good Luck!!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2010

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We try to have activities for him to get his energy out - playing outside, swim class, gymnastics class, etc.

Sharon - posted on 02/10/2010

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my daughter Annabelle is very very active. I can barely sit down for a second before i have to take her out of her sisters room [12 yr old big sisters do have the best stuff to get into] I spend most of my day running up and down the stairs. If she goes into her own room which she shares w/ her other older sister who is 9 she just takes all the clothes out of her dresser and throws all the books off of hte shelves. Its very frustrating when you try to pick all that up and while you are doing that she runs back downstairs to get in to the fridge. I do have a lock on my fridge btu she figured it out within 2 days. I think if i had some super glue i think id glue her bottom to the couch...of course im only kidding I just want her to stop for a minute. just so i could have a minute to breathe.

Danielle - posted on 02/10/2010

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Oh yeah Having Them you with your chores is going to make a great difference in everything, My Two year is None stop, He is used to daycare but i have been on maternity leave for two months so he is So active its crazy and being pregnant and then having his sister i have been to tired to run around with him so i let him help with everything! it does wonders!

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2010

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hi my to year old lil boy is very active too, he is always on the go, when i need to do things in the house i let him help me he really enjoys it, it does take a little longer to get stuff done but at least you know what he is up to n putting some of that energy into helping you clean the house. xxx

Mischelle - posted on 02/10/2010

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I agree...it may slow us down...and take twice as long to get our chores done...but chores are not gonna grow up...babies are...you have the rest of this life to clean...but my baby will only be 2 for a short time...

Lindile - posted on 02/09/2010

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I agree with Sheilla and Dannielle you must not feel guilty for neglecting the house work He comes first and trying to get him involved always does wonders with my two year old boy

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Maybe you could play with him for a while before you go to your work. Either that or get him involved. Two year olds can do more then you think. Also try giving him a time out if he gets too bad. My son is very active and I just have to run around the house with him and chase him to wear off some of his energy.

Serina - posted on 02/06/2010

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I also have an active 2 year old, but she knows she will get in trouble if she messes with stuff...

Sheila - posted on 02/05/2010

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Neglect the housework if you need to. Make sure your son is safe and get into everything with him when you need to but let him play on his own when he is happy to and playing safely.

I don't try and do everything I'm not super-human.

I try and arrange one activity for Zoe per day and one of the places we go is an indoor ball park thing and is a great opportunity for her to burn up energy safely. Sx

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