Toddler Leashes

Manige - posted on 05/24/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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My husband has loved those monkey backpack leashes since before my daughter was born. He has always wanted to get one and I won't let him. We have 1 child, so I don't think it's necessary. Plus she needs to learn to listen to us and hold hands. I just don't like the leash, she's not a dog! So I told him I would poll you moms and see what you think.

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I have actually lost my girls once or twice especially since I have 4 of them. However, they learned very very very quickly NEVER to run off again. My youngest still does it so I watch her very closely. When she does it she goes into the cart or stroller and gets belted down. I don't care if she is 2, 3 or 4. My children are taught to not run off and I therefore have no need for the doggy leashes.

Stephanie - posted on 05/26/2010

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We go out frequently with our daughter, and end up in crowds as well. Because we have talked with her since she has been walking (9 months), she knows not to wander away from us, especially in crowds. She makes sure to stick very close to either myself or daddy. We did this without the use of a leash.

Amber - posted on 05/26/2010

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I used one for when my daughter just started walking (13 months to maybe 22 months). I used it only when we were in an area where if she got away from me, it could be dangerous for her. I always held her hand while she was wearing it so she would get used to that but I felt the need to protect her if she got away. Now she knows the boundaries set out for her when we are out and we have no use for the "leash". I think as long as it is used as a training tool as we used it, then there is no problem. Our goal as parents is to protect our children and if it is deemed necessary to make sure your child remains with you in a particular environment and he/she can not yet be trusted to do so, then use the monkey backpack.
P.S. on the few occasions I had to use the leash backpack, I had parents and grandparents approach me asking where to buy one and saying what a good idea it was.

Stephanie - posted on 05/26/2010

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I quite agree with you, children need to understand that if you they can't see you, then you can't see them. Talking to your children will always be the best, I feel. Sometimes our children just go wild, but we as parents are the best to help guide them and leashing them like animals isn't the way.

Josie - posted on 05/25/2010

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Haha I hate the leashes! Everytime I see a kid wearing one I'm like poor thing! My son has one that his aunt bought us but I never use it.

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I agree!!! I HATE those leashes. Every time I see a child on one of those I feel sorry for them and I always think of a dog. Children are not animals and shouldn't be treated as such. I have 4 wonderful girls and they all learned to listen, follow directions, and hold hands when need be. If us moms that have more than 3 children can do it I firmly believe every other parent can to if they really wanted to. (Oh and yes I have had my share of hyper children. That just means you have to be more of a one on one parent with that child.)

Debbie - posted on 07/23/2010

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I don't own one but I can see the beauty to them. With my 9 year old, she generally seemed more afraid of the world and stayed near me without wondering off too far. But my 2 year old ... she's something different. She wants to go and see everything and although she starts off holding my hand, the next thing I know she's off running. I've had her run through BOTH of Target's front door (since they open automatically when someone comes near them) and I barely caught her before she got to the parking lot. (I was at the register putting my wallet back in my purse when she took off.) That was a super stressful situation for me and one I never want to repeat .... so I can definitely understand the appeal of them. When I had to go to the airport with my 9 year old and 2 year old, I considered getting one since we would be in an airport for quite some time and I didn't want to think of the possiblity of her running off ... I ended up just bringing her stroller with me though and never needed to get one.

Ceri - posted on 07/15/2010

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wow hot topic! I hated them, my mom bought an Elmo one for me I was like I will NEVER use this! But, a couple times I have had a need for it. He wants to walk. When you go some where SOOO crowded if someone yanked him away you would have to push though and past people it's a good thing. I have only used it a few times. But I will ask those of you who say that they are bad, have you ever had your child hide from you? It is the MOST TERIFYING feeling in the world, my son has done it twice now. And I literally lost it RUNNING around looking for him. Once at a park. NOT a good feeling. If your kid needs it, use it. I no longer judge now that I am a mom.

Sonia - posted on 07/14/2010

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It depends on the type of personality your child has. I was the same way. I don't want my child in a leash. However, that was before my niece. My son is a calm toddler. He walks and stays with me. My niece on the other hand is very, very, active. If my sister needs to go out, she can't get anything done with her daughter. She's only 18 months and although she's told to stay and hold hands, she will throw a tantrum.
I know some moms may think well, then don't take her or go home, but there are some errands that do need to be run and you have no choice but to take the little ones along, it's part of life.
With the leash, my niece is happy because she can run around and explore but also stay where my sister can see her.

Kelly - posted on 07/11/2010

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Leashes are ridiculous. Where are you taking your kids that is "dangerous" that you can't hold their hand? They may fight you on it, but who is in charge: the child or the parent? I am heavily opposed to leashes. I have two children of my own and run a daycare; we take kids on field trips and even when it's me and my own two kids at, say, the zoo, I would never use a leash. If they act up and want to run off and not hold a hand, we go home and they lose the privilage.

Erin - posted on 06/10/2010

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@Juanita, in all honesty.....I really don't care about what people think of me when they see my son in one. Or in an situation really.

Erin - posted on 06/10/2010

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HAHA!! Yeah and I don't think that I would dart out in front of traffic when I am out with my husband either. Adults and children are different. I believe when my son is in the harness I AM ensuring the safety of him. I would much rather have him on a "leash" than strapped down to a stroller anyday.

Cindy - posted on 06/10/2010

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Well Juanita is right on with her comment. She has 6 young children and yet there are other mothers complaining about one. And YES maybe your child is the one special child in the world who truly needs a leash, but if another woman can handle SIX, then I can look out for my one. Strollers are great, I agree...as long as your kid is not so big that his/her knees fold up into their chest.

I know every child is different and every parent is different, but ensuring the safety and freedom of your child is part of being a mother. They have a right to enjoy their surroundings just as much as we moms do...children deserve to be treated with respect just as adults. I dont think a woman would appreciate having a leash so her husband could pull her back everytime the two went out? Do unto others...

And whatever happened to home training? It is more cost effective and less humiliating. My middle child was all over the place, but I kept my eyes open and she made it past the toddler years. It took a lot of extra effort, but that was and is my job as a mother.

Juanita - posted on 06/09/2010

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I agree with you. I went to the fleamarket with another mom and when seen a child with one on and we talked about it. It's something people use on dogs and when the child walked away from her mother she just pulled on the string for her to come back. I dont think children should be treated like that they are not animals they are people. Would you like on on you. I know it is to make sure your child doesnt wonder off or no one takes them but think about what people are saying when they see you with your child on one. I do agree with you about your child needs to learn to listen and follow directions but then it goes back to teaching your child how to stay with you. What about a stroller. because i do feel that a child does get tried of walking before you are ready to go then what are you going to do then? I have 6 under the age of 9 and I am a single mom and my kids go every where with me.

Mika - posted on 06/08/2010

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I personally do not like them but my mother did buy one for my son. My 2year old is a good listener and there is no real need for one. but my neice did need it when they traveled in an airport so although I did not need it to each there own. They can come in handy.

Bianca - posted on 06/06/2010

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My daughter loves her leash. She has one with a dog and asks for it whenever we go to a crowded place or take a walk. I didn't like them at first either because I don't think children are dogs, but when they hit that stage where they never want to listen no matter what, I thought it best to keep my angel safe.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2010

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I am on your side. I make my daughter who is 2.5 yr hold my hand as we walk. If she tries to stray, she gets corrected and has to stand beside me.

Erin - posted on 06/05/2010

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LOOOOOVE the "safety harness", I don't think anyone has mistaken my son for a dog :P :)

Taneshia - posted on 06/04/2010

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i have three boys and im going to have to pass on these i agree with the moms who feel it makes their child seem like an animal. they listen when we go out so i really dont have a need for them. to each its own

Stormi - posted on 06/04/2010

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well I have 4 kids 10 , 8 6 and 2 and I never used the leashes until I had my youngest I have to take him to the school and he would cause so much trouble with holding my hand . he runs from me so I decided to try the leash he does great no fits stays by me and we can enjoy our walks .i use it in other places for safty reasons .He doesnt understand why he has to hold my hand and the others don't but he likes his leash What matters is their safty ...

Eryn - posted on 06/04/2010

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i myself never liked those and swore i would never use them when i had kids. i now have a 2 1/2 yr old, a 16 month old and halfway through my 3rd pregnancy. my 2 1/2yo just runs so it is very hard for me with my younger son in the stroller. i only use it when i have both kids with me eg. when i go to shopping centres with both as my elder has a bad habit of running into stores and grabbing choccies. it is also hard to get to them quickly if it is busy cos being so little, they can weave through - we cant with strollers. if it is just me n him i let him go without it as i can have my full attention on him (also the fact i still dont like them). yes i believe they are good for certain situations - busy shopping centre, dangerous areas etc, but only when they are a handful n you have more than one.

Desiree - posted on 06/01/2010

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The leashes became popular just before my daughter was born. At the time, I was disturbed by them! However, after I became a parent, I realized there is absolutely a place and a need for them!
I never actually needed one for my daughter. The child ( even now at nine ) wont let me leave her line of sight! She was never prone to wandering. So I just never had the need to get one.

Fast forward to my son, who is 2.5. I totally agree with those who say that children need to learn to mind and stay with us. But my son is a runner! And he's fastinated by the world around him, so he loves to go off to discover things.
I LOVE the leash for him. When we're going somewhere, like the mall, where if he gets away he would become lost or if we're taking a walk, and decided to dart into the road.... the leash is just an extra saftey precaution.

I dont like to use the handle like a leash tho. I will loop it around my wrist and make him hold my hand. However if he gets away, then he's still safe.

Its your choice whether you get a leash. No one is forcing you to use one. Not all children are the same, as my two couldn't be more different. But in some situations its just an extra saftey measure.

Cindy - posted on 05/28/2010

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kids with leashes disturb me...maybe Nadya Suleman...but otherwise, just watch your kid.

Victoria - posted on 05/28/2010

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I have two very active and very high strung boys, 4 1/2 and 2 1/2 and being a single mother as well the backpacks are a necessary evil, i've gone grocery shopping and put the "baby" in the front of the cart and tied the tail to the cart then attach it to my 4 yr old and it just makes shopping so much easier not having having to worry about my 4 yr running off especially since he seems to have some attention deficit issues

Lindsey - posted on 05/28/2010

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I have one for my son and he loves to wear it. We have never been big on strollers so I put the monkey on him and he feels like he has some independence and I feel safe knowing he can only go so far.

Josie - posted on 05/28/2010

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If you have a child that is not too hyper then it shouldn't be too hard to keep an eye on him. It's your responsibility as a parent to watch them at all times even in a busy shopping center (leash or no leash). With that being said I do understand that some children are really hyper active and the "leash" (I don't know the correct term) can really be helpful and in that case I don't judge. My sister has 2 really hyperactive kids and I would probably need a leash if those were my kids. If you're only using it because you would rather shop freely instead of watch your child then yes I have issues with that.

Lauren - posted on 05/28/2010

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They can be really helpful and allow parents out of the house without feeling stressed about their childs wellbeing. I think we have to stop thinking of them as dog leashes and think of them as safety devices. I bet there's never been a child abducted while being connected to their parent. Even the most well behaved children can be distracted in a busy shopping centre and be gone in seconds, no parent is perfect.

Shannon - posted on 05/27/2010

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My son LOVES his leash. It gives him a sense of freedom. He's usually in a stroller, and hates to hold hands. We make him hold hands when we cross the street, but when we're out and want to keep track of him, it's a real lifesaver. He has absolutely no attention span and can slip away no matter how attentive you are. My mother ran a day care for years and he's a handful for her.

If I had a mellower, less active/high strung child, I wouldn't use it... but there is one thing I've learned from having my little boy.
Don't judge. Some kids respond differently to certain situations and have different needs.

Josie - posted on 05/27/2010

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Usually my son is in a stroller so he doesn't run away from us. If he does want to walk then I watch him really well. I'm not really sure of any kind of situation where if he got away from us it would be dangerous for him, unless we're crossing the street but then I'm either holding him or holding his hand. I just don't see the need for a leash if you are watching your child. Especially if you only have one. With more than one I would say maybe.

Sheila - posted on 05/27/2010

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I hate the leash and as you say our kids aren't dogs. I would however prefer my daughter to wear one rather than get hit by a car!
I do what Amber says and get my little one to wear it just in particularly dangerous situations where if she does loose my hand it would have bad consequences. Anywhere else I just hold her hand and this works fine. Sx

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