Todlers and Pacifiers (binki's)
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Kelly - posted on 02/20/2011
it is not necessarily the parents who are encouraging the "need" of a pacifier. there are some children that need oral stimulation longer than others. and certain developmental disabilities are heavily orally guided.
extended use, and usually that which is uninterupted during the day, can exacerbate any problems with developing speech and language but is not a guarantee. meaning that if a child is trying to learn to speak around their pacifier it may or may not have an effect. the american academy of pediatrics says the habit typically does not cause the problems often associated with thumb or finger sucking, and is much easier to wean children from since a pacifier can simply be thrown out if needed. there isn't anything to detrimental attributed to a pacifier when it comes to dental activity.
there haven't been enough studies done in this area to be conclusive either way.
now, as for your opinions, you are entitled. however, please remember, when judging others in the community, you do not know all of the facts in these children's lives. you do not know whether or not they have a developmental disability, a traumatic past or present, or their personal situation. nor do you have the right to intimidate another child, even if the shock value is intended for the parents. it is the children who are ultimately damaged by your flippant remarks. your situation, your beliefs, are wonderful for your family. they just might not be for others
My daughter still has hers at night time only. Last summer, we went to visit my folks in another state and in an attempt to be rid of it, I told her when we got home that we "forgot" it at Grandma and Papa's house. I thought we would have a few rough nights...but it was bad for over 2 weeks with her screaming at bedtime. Then out of nowhere in the middle of all this, she started stuttering and that totally freaked me out and I just knew that taking away her beloved pacifier at night was the cause as there had been no hint of this before. I finally made the decision to "find" it in our suitcase and within 2 days, the stuttering had stopped and hasn't come back since. I realized that it is what it is and she will be done with it at night when she is ready and to stop stressing about the small stuff. I have to keep it in perspective that its only in bed when she sleeps and its not like she is walking around 24/7 with it in her mouth, or causing problems with her teeth, speech, ect.
Sheridan - posted on 07/20/2011
if only it were that easy, but sometimes there isnt just one person involved. I am divorced and my DD who just turned 4 a couple of weeks ago, spends two days with Dad and her Grandma, one full day with Grandma and the rest between daycare and me. Now when I take her to daycare she has no binkie at all. When she is with me, either she has none or she uses if to fall asleep, which usually means its in her mouth for the 5 minutes she dozes off then the rest of the night: nothing.
Now with my ex or her Grandma, from the moment she steps into their cars or gets to their house, she wants it. Never fails.
I actually last year got rid of it for almost 4 days while off with her then she was with them and right back to the old habit. So judge and express all you want, there are circumstances in life other ppls lives you are not always aware of!
Sarah - posted on 07/19/2011
Depends on the kid. You can't say "it's OK, but only until age X" and try to make that fit every kid. Should the child take his pacifier to school with him? Probably not. For our family, it's like potty training; when the boy was ready, he was all trained up in 2 days. As long as having a pacifier is not hurting him (it isn't), interfering with his development (nope, not interfering), or causing oral mayhem (none of that either), he can have his pacifier at bedtime. When he's done with it, he'll be done with it... and not a day sooner.
Cathy - posted on 05/31/2011
I think at the age of 3, it is no longer a matter of oral stimulation but a matter of habit, it's comforting since they've been doing it since they were born. I think the longer parents wait to wean their kids off the binky the harder the task will be. I think part of it is the parents too. It's easy and it keeps the toddlers from crying. As much as it bothered me, it was the easier route to let my first DD keep using her binky. It was my DH that insisted on getting her off it at 18months. Luckily for everyone, it really wasn't so hard on her and she got over it quickly. My second DD, was much more difficult and it looked as if she wasn't about to give it up at all! But we got again, sort of. She ended up getting hand, foot and mouth disease, which caused blisters inside her mouth and made it painful to suck on a binky. That was the only reason why she gave up her binky.
So I do think toddlers shouldn't be using a binky but I also can understand how it can be difficult for a parent to get their toddler to give it up too.
Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2011
my son was 2 when i took it away, because it was becoming a habbit, and he was fine, i never wanted to give him one in the first place but he was born at 29 weeks and needed it so he got used to it and did settle him when he was under 2 years, but does not bother me when i see older children with them, all i can say is you dont see many primary school children with them, sometimes children find it hard to give them up and if its going to make them upset is it worth it??? i never had one when i was a baby but needed braces and my brothers and sister did, and none of them needed braces sooo.......
Elizabeth - posted on 02/27/2011
well it is sad to see older kids with them because my parents let me have one till i was way older than one I had a ton of oral issues and had to do braces, all because my parents didn't feel like taking away a binki. I think it's lazy parenting and it's now the norm.
Kelly - posted on 02/26/2011
you are judging others! when you make remarks about how you "seriously can NOT stand seeing kids older than the age of 1 using one", even in the anonymity of cyberspace, you are judging other people's choices without knowing anything about the situation. your opinion is a judgement call on behalf of others.
mainly, though, my previous post about judging others wasn't directed towards you Dawn
Kimberly - posted on 02/12/2011
Dawn that is your opinion. Every child is different. My oldest who is now 15 used a pacifier for 3 months and was done with it. My 1 year old has never used one at all, but my 3 year old uses his at bedtime. Every child is different and obviously so are every parents views. So for you to come on here and try and force your opinions and your beliefs as facts is ridiculous.
Dawn - posted on 02/12/2011
Its the parents that make children feel that they NEED a pacifier, or NEED a security Blanket. If the parent wasnt always giving into the idea of needed something materialistic for security they wouldnt feel the need to have these things. Then it wouldnt be such a hassle to ween your kid off of it.
I wholeheartedly agree! I hate it. I see no point in it. :) lol At some point between 1 and 3 it isn't about comfort or stimulation or anything else. It is just laziness on the parents part and habit from the child's part. When we are out and one of my girls point it out that another child about their age is still sucking on a pacifier I have no problem telling my child in a normal voice that it is because that child doesn't know how to be a big kid and that mommy or daddy hasn't taught them yet. Offensive? You bet but if it shocks even one parent into realizing that their child looks ridiculous with one stuck in their mouth at 3 then breaks the child of that habit then that is a good thing. :) Remember this is IMO
Kelly - posted on 02/05/2011
why does it bother you? some kids need the oral stimulation.
personally, i'd rather a paci over a thumb anyday. paci's can get tossed but a thumb is a permanent attachment. when i was in high school, there were kids who still sucked their thumbs!
my kid uses her paci only at bedtime. if she chews them, she has to throw them out herself and we don't buy anymore. she went through quite a few before she realized that she was running out.
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