Completely different behavior with daddy than mommy

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2010

ahh i'm glad i'm not the only one.. my son is the exact same way... and he is clingy with me when my boyfriend tries to take him and my boyfriend gets upset. he throws horrible tantrums, and he recently started slapping us in the face... i'm not sure where he learned this because he doesn't see it happen anywhere to mock it.

Donna - posted on 01/31/2010

i am having exactly the same thing but with twins, our little girl is ok but the little boy is hard work. when there is just one of us around hes not as bad but if we are both around he is a monster, tantrums, throwing things and winges all day. i agree with you and tend to ignore all this behaviour and will lay him on the rug for a couple of mins to let him calm down but his dad will try and soothe him and talk to him. i think the answer is to be consistent with each other, although this is sometimes not easy. i think they do understand when you talk to them but i think some children are easier to soothe than others. my little girl is starting to copy now to get attention. my husband says im soft and i agree i hate to hear them cry but i think im fair and will let them know if they are behaving badly. sometimes it just all gets too much and you end up feeling like a bad parent. i have an older son too and his behaviour was very similar, i watched super nanny and tried the time out thing and that actually did work, so im standing my ground on this one too and doing time out, on the rug at mo but if it carrys on i will then move on to naughty step. good luck, you are not alone!!

Melissa - posted on 01/31/2010

Our 15 month old son, spends the morning and lunchtime with the both of us, then my husband goes to work at 2pm, this is when my son turns into this little man that winjes and cries non-stop for the next 5 hours until he goes to bed, it has taken alot out of me as i have a 3 yr old, 5 yr old and 12 yr old, these three kids non-stop fight all arvo also, i think with joshie, it is a mixture of attention seeking and missing his daddy. All four of our kids play up on me but when daddy is home the house runs alot smoother, when i go out, there is no fighting yelling, 15mth old Joshie isn't crying or winjing, but as soon as i get home for atleast an hour, the kids turn into monsters again, LOL. But if daddy leaves it's back into our horrible routine that, they all have going, My 2 girls used to be different befor Joshie came along, they would cry, scream and even throw up if i was to leave even for 10 mins. I am after suggestions also, it's hard to know what to do, even though i have been threw it 3 times b4.

Dana - posted on 01/29/2010

Yeah you are suppose to ignore them when they are throwing fits... otherwise its like fueling the fire.

My daughte ris home with me all day but she loves it when her daddy comes home. Until he says hi then she dries and wants nothing to do with him... cries and screams... ugh!

Monica - posted on 01/29/2010

my doctor told me not to pay any attention to my 15 month old when she is throwing a tantrum, to completely ignore her, and if she starts hitting or throwing things to give her a time out appropriate for her age (2min). even negative is attention. Try to reward her with lots of mommy attention when she is in a good mood, and pay no attention to her when she is being troublesom.

Melissa - posted on 01/29/2010

My twins are exactly the opposite. I am hone with them all day and we have our occasional meltdowns but when Daddy comes home all bets are off. They are so excited to see him and have a jealousy thing going on. When ,y husband picks one up, the other one will throw a fit and vice versa. They will follow him everywhere and cling to him. They do not act like this with me during the day, Thank God. This usually lasts about 30 to 40 minutes until they get comfy that he is home and not going anywhere. Its probably her just trying to figure out what to do when you are both home since she is not as used to it as when she is with one of you.

Dana - posted on 01/28/2010

My daughter is the same way. She isn't whinny but she will throws fits on me, she just listens to her daddy better. When he is home i dont matter to her anymore. She will throw more fits with me then she will with him. I thinks it cause she knows i will give in quicker then him. If u find out any thing let me know.

Casey - posted on 12/27/2009

Its the same with my daughter. Every time her dad comes to get her for the weekend he says she doesn't give him any trouble. When she's with me she gives me hell. When me and her dad are in the same room together she behaves. Sometimes she will act out. He says she's a completely different person when i'm around and its true i seen it for myself. I guess they know who to test. I just talk to her she's 14 months so she understands.

LKiesha - posted on 12/24/2009

my son has been homw with daddy for the last 4 montths and when i come home he hits bites scratches me. its like he doesnt like me around. even if we hug or kiss he hits me like im taking his dad away from him. Now when his dad isnot around we are fine! we play laugh and do everything together but the minute his dad comes home he changes! It makes me kinda sad to think my baby is jelous or doesnt want me around but we gotta find a way to change the behavior.