does anyone get nervous with their child's development level?

Amie - posted on 05/24/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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i know you cant compare one kid to another, but i get worried that my 19 month old sometimes isnt where he should be in terms of development. he does so well with some things, and others im not sure. (this is my first and only child). sometime it seems he doesnt have a large vocabulary, and then he pops out a full sentence. or he will just play with whatever i give him to eat at every meal in one day, and the next day he eats everything in sight. am i being overparanoid or just a normal first time mom?

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Leonie - posted on 05/27/2010

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Don't stress - each child develops differently. Just as you and I have strengths and weaknesses, our children will have to. They may be very strong in one area and weaker in others. There is nothing wrong with this - if they were all the same - the world would be a very boring place!



I just like to love my daughter for who she is and laugh and play with her. If she can grasp things, they that's great - if not, we will work on it. I am not going to apply expectations to her at this early stage - as I don't want her feeling too pressured to do things she may not be good at or may not be interested in. She will develop in due time, in the meantime, I let her be a child.



As for eating - she is the worst eater in the world according to me - but she eats what she needs and stops when she is full or no longer interested. She is healthy and that is all I am concerned about - don't want to force feed her as then she may develop a weight problem which will affect her for the rest of her life...



Hope that what I have said makes sense to you - just enjoy your son for now and if there is anything seriously wrong, I am sure the professionals will point it out for you... but it really doesn't sound like there is anything wrong...

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Kara - posted on 06/06/2010

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i also have a 19 month old and he is also my first and only. we are going throught the same EXACT issues.i think we're just paranoid.
we just want the very best for our babies and i think its fine to be "extra aware" of everything!lol

Rachel - posted on 06/04/2010

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YAY! I am not the only one on this island. When I hear you say it, I think yes...paranoid, but I also worry about my daughter's development. In my heart of hearts, I know that every child does things in his/her own time and that the doctor would have alerted you if they were concerned. Having said that, when I read that your son would actually say a sentence, I felt panic...my daughter only says a few (barely comprehendable) words. LOL. I guess we all just want to make sure we're doing our jobs as moms. Congratulations on your own sweet miracle!

Dawnie - posted on 06/03/2010

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He souds absolutely normal. As parents we all worry at times, but we have to trust our instincts, if u are really, really concerned, get him checked out. It can't hurt

Tiffany - posted on 06/02/2010

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I have a degree in Liberal Studies as well as a degree in Early Childhood education. As a parent and educator, I know that you can worry about your child's developmental level and often it can go to an extreme. Relax, there are certain things at a certain age that can be a tell-tell sign of issues like a child not walking by the time they are 2 or a child is not attempting to speak by 2. The developmental milestones that are set are based on the average child. Not every child is the average child. Plus every child had their strong points and weak points for example, my son has been tested high on motor and social development but low on language development. I dont worry, just encourage him to work on his low points like talking and reading books and give him opportunities to accomplish things that he is good at. I hope that helps.

Nancy - posted on 06/02/2010

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First time mom! Me too. My son is the same age and he doesn't speak for weeks, then in one day pops off all these new words I have no clue where he got them (grandma's? daycare? or listening to us?). Sometimes he'll use a word, then I never hear it again and sometimes what I think is just jibber jabber, is actually words my MIL can decypher, that we couldn't figure out. She's the original "baby whisperer!" lol! The other day I fed him cheerios, raisins and dried apricots and he loves all three, he shoved them all off his tray. One day he loves scrambled eggs, the next he throws them on the floor, then an hour later is begging to eat mine. The doctor and I were both concerned about his language skills, but he'll catch on and so will your son. We use some sign language and it really helps a lot. He tells me if he is hungry, if he wants more or doesn't and we have our own sign for "all gone", so he rarely freaks out when something is all gone, he's proud of his sign for that.

Heather - posted on 06/02/2010

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I do absolutely!! My daughter (age 7) was diagnosed with Asperger's a few years ago and I worry all the time about my son (19mths). Luckily my pediatrician is wonderful and did an autism screening at 18mths to put my mind at ease. I only wish my daughter had the same Dr. when we were struggling for a diagnisis. The thing is,even thought he is developing on time or even ahead of the curve, I don't think I will ever stop worrying!

Tiffany - posted on 06/01/2010

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kinda normal.

I worry too sometimes. especially when someone gives her one of those 'looks'
but then I look at it this way

she's just a peanut. she isnt old enough to do half of what they think she should do.

she can:
tell me where 6 parts of her body are
put 2 words together (though they arent very clearly spoken)
listen to directions (sit down. go get your shoes. time for a nap, give mum a kiss...)
she uses a fork well, and is learning the spoon.
sleeps really well, and never argues about it.
not only walks, but runs!
walks backward
stacks like 8 blocks in a tower

so I'm not as worried as I was before. Add up what he CAN do, not what he cant.

Adrienne - posted on 06/01/2010

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First time Mom here too, but I was concerned that my son wasn't really talking yet at 19 months - a few things along the way "hi kitty" and even "hi chickens" when we were watching our neighbors chickens for a week, hehehe. But he mostly acts out what he wants and talks in nonsensical words, mimicking the rhythms that he hears from people around him. But I read about it and they say that as long as the child is understanding what you are saying, reacting appropriately to what you're asking them to do, they're on target, even though they're not answering in words. It put my mind at rest because my son is so smart in every other way. He was a late walker, guess he'll be a late talker too. It sounds like your son is doing just fine =)

Angelica - posted on 06/01/2010

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yes all the time but the doctors always say every child is different so i try to stay calm a believe my child is unique

Elissa - posted on 05/31/2010

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My daughter can be the worlds worst eater one day, and the best eater the next. I give her toddler formula most nights before bed to make up for and missed nutrients...on days that she is a bad eater I give it to her twice. You could try that to give you some peace of mind about his nutrition. I was also worried about my daughters vocabulary, and our pediatrician said that as long as he is saying some things, not to worry, also I know our pediatrician considers animal sounds to be words because they are associating the sound with the animal, so you could count any animal sounds he makes as words too!

Monica - posted on 05/28/2010

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lol yeah don't worry!! my son was a slow talker and now he doesn't stop!!! and they say boys r a tad slower than girls :P not with the jumping and climbing, but with the talking!! And i hate when they eat barely anything!! It's so hard to get used to when they eat alot for awhile then it's like, omg u only had 2 bites!!! They go through growth spurts! :) Have fun!!! ♥

Amanda - posted on 05/27/2010

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Sounds pretty normal to me! Buy a toddler development book, it'll make you feel better!

Samantha - posted on 05/25/2010

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LOL. Welcome to being a mom. My daughter will stick everything in her mouth except for meat. She is weird and does not talk much but the doctor said she is slow at talking because she knows how to communicate though actions and she is to intelligent for her age so she is more interested in exploring and trying to understanding how everything works than talking. They said she is as smart as a kindergartner but she doesn't understand what is bad so she has to study everything instead of talking and asking use. She is going to be an engineer when she gets older.

Just relax most of use didn't hit this stage until we were a year or two early. Our babies are just really smart compared to us. Just remember actions speak louder than words so it is no surprise he is not as interested in talking. Your son has an imagination so food can be fun or food. I still play with my animal crackers. Worry if he does this when he is seven but for right now he is above average for his age so enjoy it and brag about how your son is going to be a famous writer because he has such a good imagination.

Leslie - posted on 05/25/2010

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yeah i agree your paranoid lol...he is fine!! i got 2 kids my youngest is at this age she dont say sentences but is starting to really let you know what she wants and is learning to communicate, thats all you can really ask for and mine too eats everything in sight most days lol....hope your feeling better!!! enjoy them soon they will be talking back and being little devils hahaahah gotta love em

Amie - posted on 05/24/2010

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thank you lol i wanted an honest answer!! thats it too, i just want him to be happy, healthy, and the best for him...

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