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Does anyone have advice on potty training regression?! PLEASE!!!

Danielle - posted on 08/03/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

I am struggling with potty training my daughet. I waited till I thought she was ready and then bought big girl panties and started her on the potty. she did great for about 2 weeks and then regressed. so I gave up and let her wear diapers for another month. I started her again about 3 weeks ago. I told her all week that starting on Saturday she would be wearing big girl panties everyday. No more diapers unless it is bed time. I made her a potty chart with 68 boxes on it and told her when it was full we would go and buy a big girl bike for her. Because big girls use the potty. So every time she uses the potty she gets a sticker for her chart and gets to pick a prize from her potty bag. (I bought things from the dollar store, like coloring books that were 3 for $1, and a pez dispenser and 8 refills, she got one refill each time she used the potty. and other cheap things) she did awesome for a while but the last three or four days she has started regressing again. she will poop in her panties and not even try to make it to the potty. Other times she will make it and stay dry. Today she earned her bike so we went to the store and I let her pick one. But I am making it a rule that she only gets to ride it after she uses her potty. I'm hoping the new motivator will get her back on track. but I will NOT put her back in diapers. Even if I have to clean up her messes everyday. She can do this I know she can. If she poops/pees in her panties without even trying to make it to the potty then I put her in timeout on the potty. But if she just has an accident in her panties I make sure to tell her that accidents happen and at least she TRIED. I felt bad putting her in timeout for pooping in her panties because I don't want her to feel bad when she has an accident but if I don't show her there are consequences for ignoring it and pooping in her panties she doesn't care. I tried making her clean it up, but she doesn't care. If she goes naked she makes it everytime. It is as soon as I put the panties on her she starts thinking its not a big deal to pee in them. Tips??? PLEASE>>

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Katrina - posted on 10/11/2011

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My son was fully toilet trained well before 2. He transitioned quickly, so was surprised when a few months ago, he started pooping in his jockies, or just wetting himself. I eventually resigned myself to the fact that I shouldn't make a deal of it, as he'd probably go back to it. I also figured there was a pattern in when he'd go in his pants. So I made a routine of asking him if he'd like to go to the toilet, before going outside, after a meal, before bedtime, when we arrive at the shops... basically anything that involved his attention on something. Sometimes they just "hold it" so they can continue what they're doing. Not sure if this helps, but this is what worked for us. Eventually, he started going again himself, and we rarely have accidents.

Melissa, I suggest just being patient. Don't try and put him on the potty/toilet. Let him know it's an option, and when he won't go, just accept it openly, with "never mind, let's try to make it next time" when he has an accident (or something similar). You'll probably find him on there one day without even telling you he's going. Sometimes it's enough just to stop making the fuss, to get them to go. If you are really worried, I'd speak to a children's health worker, or your regular doctor. Many people have difficulties with potty trainig, and many are still struggling when their children are 3, boys are usually the most difficult. Hope you guys find something that either works for you, or at least can put your minds at ease. xxx

Danielle - posted on 09/09/2011

Melissa - just wait it out. if he knows when he needs to go but refuses, he is still not ready. Save yourself the trauma and messes of trying to potty train too early. I have been working with my daughter for a while and one day it just clicked. she is doing alot better now and even sleeping in her underwear. If I could go back and start over I would have let her wait instead of both of us being so stubborn! lol

Melissa - posted on 08/21/2011

I have tried everything with my two year old! He will be three on october 29th and as his birthday is getting closer I try even harder (plus have a 14 month old) he knows when he needs to go, even tells me before and after but throws a screaming fit when I try to get him on the potty! Have bought two different kinds of pottys as well and nothing helps, have even bribed him! Ugh I know he will be potty trained at some point but am at a loss on how to move forward. The hard part is he is very smart! he won't go naked though, and he just pees in his underwear. Any tips?

Danielle - posted on 08/09/2011

Thanks Amber-Lei, She is doing better today but it comes and goes. I hope both our kids get over this stage quickly!

Amber-Lei - posted on 08/09/2011

I don't have any tips because I am in the same situation with my son...Naked he goes every time, but underwear or pull-ups, he just gets lazy. I think time is the best thing for them, and congratulations. You are doing GREAT.