Given birth via c-section?

Leonie - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Can anyone who had a c-section bring themselves to say they gave birth? I keep saying 'when she was delivered' as I don't really feel as though being ripped open to have your baby pulled from your stomach is the same thing as a proper delivery... Is it just me?

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Lindsey - posted on 02/03/2009

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I tell people that I gave birth. I didn't push her out but she was born just the same. Mine was not planned so I didn't have time to get upset because I didn't have the :"whole" experience. I didn't push her out but I experienced labor pains same as every other mom. After hours and hours of agonizing labor I wanted her out. In the end she was healthy and so was I and that's all that matters.

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I also had a c/s as my daughter was breech the entire pregnancy due to a uterine abnormality on my part. I was disappointed when I found out at first that it would be a c/s as I wanted the "full experience" but got over that pretty quickly. I believe that I gave birth in all sense of the word. Regardless of how she came out it was her birth. My c/s was easy and the recovery easy as well as it was scheduled. My husband saw them pull her out and was able to tell me her gender. It was a wonderful experience and here's a great plus...got to keep the lady bits in shape!!! :o)

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Katherine - posted on 03/05/2009

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Quoting Carolynne:



To be honest, I never really thought about it. I had to have an emergency c-section after 14 hours of labor because the baby was in distress... at the time I was scared for my son. Once I heard his cry, I was overwhelmed with joy.






The only thing I really think about is that in most cases once you have had a c-section, you will have one again if you choose to have another child. Since my first was a c-section, the chances of me ever experiencing a VB is slim to none.





There are a lot of women who do have a VBAC.  I guess the risks depend on the reasons for the cesar in the first place. For me Thomas was in distress and so had to be a cesar and the reason he was in distress was due to the fact he had a true knot in his cord.  My sister-in-law had both of her kiddies with a c-section because it was discovered on her first that he couldn't actually exit through her pelvis so automatically she was well aware that would more than likely be the case for future children.



It's different for all women and I think reviewing the reasons behind the delivery method being a cesarian helps towards advising what should happen in future deliveries. 



In the end though, whatever happens it's the safety of the child that is priority. If they are in distress then it's better for them to be delivered quickly than to let them suffer undue stress.

Lisa - posted on 03/05/2009

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me again i am fine with the fact that i had a c-section, it was an emergency, i was 10 days late had to be induced, went in on the sunday for that, by tuesday contractions were still coming and going and was only a couple of centimetres, so they took me to the delivery suite to break waters,had dinner, contractions were coming quite strong but wasn't dilating quick enough, i had got a fever, hannah heartbeat was just mantaining steady, not doing anything with the contractions, so managed to get to 7cms after17 hours of labour and they said that i had to have c-section, by this point was so tired, i would have said yes to anything lol, good job because turned out we both had strep b and needed anti-biotics and had to stay in for about a week, i also lost a lot of blood during op, so needed blood tranfusion, so as you can see by no means plain sailing, but she's fine and i'm fine and that's all that matters, it is major surgery at the end of the day, and more life threatening than having a natural birth, and to the lady who said she wouldn't be able to have a natural birth after, i think it is possible, depends on your situation

Lisa - posted on 03/05/2009

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no its not just you, i feel the same i always say she came throught the sun roof lol

Bonnie - posted on 03/04/2009

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I never really thought of like that. I think I was able to experience everything. My little man was late and I was not dilated yet. So I was induced and after 10 hours I was only dilated 3 centimeters. Dr. asked what I want to do. At this point I was exhausted and just wanted to see my baby. Told him to do whats best he said C-Section and to discuss this with my husband. I told the DR. lets do this. It was such a surreal experience.

Carolynne - posted on 03/04/2009

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To be honest, I never really thought about it. I had to have an emergency c-section after 14 hours of labor because the baby was in distress... at the time I was scared for my son. Once I heard his cry, I was overwhelmed with joy.



The only thing I really think about is that in most cases once you have had a c-section, you will have one again if you choose to have another child. Since my first was a c-section, the chances of me ever experiencing a VB is slim to none.

Lesley - posted on 03/03/2009

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Yes you did give birth to your babies! Birth is different for everyone and is almost never what we expect or necessarily want.  It breaks my heart when mommas are hard on themselves about having a c/s.  All we managed to get through 40 weeks of pregancy (hurraah!) and when the time came we did what good mammas do....make the best decisions for our babes!

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My Lucas was born by section on October 22nd and I am Proud of it.. when I found out he was breach at first I was dissapointed and then after the experience of section with my doctor it was eyeopening( i didnt have one single complication and was up showering later that day!) ...See I have had 8 miscarrages and was on bed rest for the most part of my pregnancy. When it came to baby Lucas I wanted nothing but a safe healthy baby.... I couldnt be happier ... yes times get tough but it does for everyone!!



SO being an October mom Is fantastic!!

Penni - posted on 03/01/2009

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I had an emergency c-section after pushing and having forceps etc the dr told me there was no way she was coming out without major damage.   So after nearly going through a "natural" birth to end with a C-Section I can only say Im happy my girl was born healthy and that we were both ok (even if we were a little bruised).  

Christy - posted on 02/27/2009

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I had an emergency c/s after 36 hours labour and haven't felt like I failed. We had no choice really. The other thing for all of us to remember (especially if you're still struggling with the fact you had a c/s) is that years ago we would have been some of the many women who died during childbirth or who's children died during childbirth. What blessing we live in the time we do and can still have healthy births and children despite any natural problems!
Having said that, I have struggled to say "I gave birth". But those of you who've already posted who didn't have trouble with that, have helped me to realise it was still 'his birth', which i did all the work carrying and bringing him to that point. So thanks girls!! :)

Amanda - posted on 02/27/2009

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I do feel that I gave birth because I did go through labor, although I needed a section, and the delivery was very dramatic and scary. Also, I went through a lot of complications after the birth. I don't feel as though I had an easier time than a regular delivery. Is anyone still in pain? I have had several test and they can't find anything wrong. When I lean up on the sink or the changing table, the area above the incision is still very tender and sore.

Kerry - posted on 02/27/2009

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I just say "when she popped out". Mine was not planned. She flipped breech between 38 and 39 weeks and when I went for my checkup they told me I was in Labor 3cm dilated and contractions every 3 minutes. I don't know how long I was in labor because I never felt a thing.... but after trying to turn her 5 times, I had the c-section. I was terrified but now look back and I'm happy. I didn't have to push anything out of my hoo-hah!

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2009

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i had two c sections also with my first he was a week late and they approximated his weight as 9.5 and there was no sign of him trying to make his way out they tried inducing me but it didnt work so they decided to do a c section. he was 9.6 and at an angle pressed against my bone if i did have it naturally i would have hurt him and myself. with the second one the doctor saw that again the baby wasnt dropping and i wasnt opening so we had a scheduled c section my son was 10.4 and he had a really big head and he was really stuck inside me. they had to vacuum him out. i do say that i gave birth to them since they came out of me. i do not know how it would have been naturally especially with two big babies..... i liked having a csection because it was easier recovering but i do not like how my stomach is all stretched out because of the incision.

Vanessa - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi Everyone



I had a c section because my little one just was not budging.  I was induced and was way over my due date and absolutely NOTHING happened.  The contractions started whilst I was being wheeled to theatre (hows that for Murpheys Law!!!!!!). I still went ahead with the c section in the end though, and it was a good thing, his head was very big and I would probably have had to go for a c section in the end. 



It was a great experience for me, the paediatrician held my hand whilst I was waiting for my hubby and they kept me very involved throughout the whole thing - laughing and joking all the time.  I got to hold my baby as soon as I was stiched up and even took him through to the recovery room with me and back to the ward.



Would I do it again - sure!!!! - I recovered very quickly and was determined not to let my pain get in the way of giving my baby the best care I could.  I don't feel like any less of a woman for not going the natural route.  He was a part of me for nine months and it does not matter how he got into this world, as long as he got here safely.



Vanessa



 

Sarah - posted on 02/22/2009

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i have had two c sections both were planned due to medical conditions. At first i did feel down about it (in a lot of pain and could not do much)but you have to keep your chin up and think we are all here and well. I do say when i gave birth cos thats what it is.

Nicole - posted on 02/15/2009

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i had a c-section this time but my first 2 were vaginal deliveries...never really thought about it to tell you the truth.  i can see your point of view but to me i still gave birth-he came out of my body, i did all the work and suffered all the healing pain.  i felt cheated this time around and had a hard time with that but i knew it was in his best interest to get him out quickly...i think it's a personal thing and if you feel that way you are entitled 110%. 

Katherine - posted on 02/14/2009

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I had my son via an emergency c-section as his heart beat was decelerating. Turned out he had a true knot in his umbilical cord and would probably not have survived a normal labour. Yes, it wasn't my "plan" to have my baby this way and yes it did take me a while to get over it, but I have a healthy happy child and that's all that counts for me. :)

Melissia - posted on 02/14/2009

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I guess it's different for me.  I was glad in a way that I had a C-Section because I'm not a stickler for pain.  I dreaded having to push my baby out.  The only regret I have is that having a C-Section means that you have a longer recovery time.  I was in the hospital for 10 days after my C-Section and pondered if I would have gone home sooner if I had a normal delivery.

Maria - posted on 02/02/2009

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ive had a hard time coming to terms with my c section. i cried for weeks after he was born< i felt i had failed somehow< was pissed at the doctor who i felt just wanted to finish her shift and go home. i was in labor for 12 hours and was 8 1/2 cm and the dr then said it wasnt progressing quickly enough> my husband helped me realize the baby was born fine and thats all that matters. my c/s was a terrible experience but im detertmined to try vbac for #2!

Dorothy - posted on 02/01/2009

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I feel that I gave birth to her although I had to have her by c-section after 36 hours of labor. We worked hard to keep our babies healthy and going strong. We may not have had the "whole" experience, but I would do it all again just to have her.

Becky - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have felt the same way at times, like I don't deserve to say "i gave birth," but you know what, they baked in our ovens for 9+ months, we had to give up and do all this stuff to make sure that we had healthy babies, so you know what, you can say you gave birth. I mean, having a c-section is no walk in the park either, although it is nice that they come out all un-lumpy and un-bruised looking.

Olivia - posted on 02/01/2009

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I had to have a section, but for the longest time I was always thinking "are you sure he's mine?"  cause I didn't give birth to him.  they don't let you see whats going on, they give you a 2 second peek at the baby, and than they take them away.  I hated every minute! 

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I don't think I've ever said gave birth, I always say "when she was born" I tried to push her out for 3 hours before having a c section after a very long labour. She was ok but the C section was horrible for me, they almost lost me 2 times and it took them close to 2 hours to get me stable again. I do feel like I didn't get the experience I wanted for sure.

Kirsty - posted on 02/01/2009

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I know what you mean...I just say he came out the sunroof!! It in no way compares to a VB - the c/s was hell! He was a cord-entangled breech too, or I would have gone for a breech VB.

Arika - posted on 02/01/2009

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I had a c section and it was planned. I felt so cheated when the doctor told me my daughter was breech and I needed to schedule a c section. When they went to deliver her the doctors discovered the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck three times. After I found that out I felt so guilty because if I had been stubborn and tried a vaginal birth my daughter probably wouldn't be here today. I feel everything happens for a reason and having a c section is just as honorable as having a vaginal birth. You go through alot of work giving birth to a baby as well as having a c section its just different.

Angela - posted on 02/01/2009

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Yeah I had a c-section too and feel that way too. I don't even relate to people that really gave birth!

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