How do you tell your in laws that they are not keeping the baby anymore for the weekend?

Michelle - posted on 04/12/2009

make sure your husband has the convo since it's his parents.... personally no one would be keeping my baby all weekend..heck no one will be keeping my 5 year old all weekend

Molly - posted on 04/12/2009

My husband and I are stationed overseas in a remote location with the Military... and I would give anything to have my parents or in-laws give us a break. I can understand that your situation may be frustrating, but just be sure to not take family (who is available and eager to care for your child) for granted.

Siobhan - posted on 04/12/2009

Quoting MaryJo:

why can't they spend time with your child? did they do something wrong? my in-laws take my son over night about once a week. my son is 3 years old and loves spending time with his grandparents and it gives me and my husband some great time alone with our second child. if you don't feel comfortable with your baby sleeping there over night just stay there for the day if you can so they can have time with there grandchild. don't keep your child from the grandparents it my come back to bite you in the butt.

I sort of got the impression that the child was a baby..?  A three year old staying over is no big deal...a baby is another thing entirely..!  I agree with not having the baby stay there over the weekend or overnight.  Babies need their parents.  Spending time during the day there or letting them babysit during the day is one thing...but not overnight if he's a baby.

MaryJo - posted on 04/11/2009

why can't they spend time with your child? did they do something wrong? my in-laws take my son over night about once a week. my son is 3 years old and loves spending time with his grandparents and it gives me and my husband some great time alone with our second child. if you don't feel comfortable with your baby sleeping there over night just stay there for the day if you can so they can have time with there grandchild. don't keep your child from the grandparents it my come back to bite you in the butt.

Lesley - posted on 04/11/2009

I just flat out told them. They weren't happy with me because they think I'm trying to keep her away from them even though I visit them 3 times a week and invite them over every other day. I just can't keep undoing all the things that the grandmother has done. And I can't stand knowing my little girl cries for the first 2 hours every time she is there or that she cries herself to sleep because mommy is not there. Just breaks my heart and until she's older - I told them no more. xox

Marly - posted on 03/28/2009

wow, I couldn't imagine letting my son stay at another's house overnight, you must be strong.  Or they must be pushy! haha Well I am all for the "ripping the band-aid off" quickly.  Don't be mean, but be honest.  I have a babysitter that I would prefer come over somtimes, instead of taking him over there, and I am having a hard time telling her cause she is so sweet, so maybe I should practice what I preach.  haha  Let me know how it goes, maybe you will inspire me to tell her.

Nancy - posted on 03/28/2009

Just tell them you are having separation anxiety and need to be with your baby. Be diplomatic about it as you never know when you may need them to babysit. You can't keep the grandparents away so if there is a specific reason you don't want your child around them than you need to address it and be firm. Your are the mommy here so you set the rules......that's the right we get for carrying them for 9 months.

Kat - posted on 03/27/2009

I am of the opinion that it is the child of the parents that should have those conversations. Their love for their son is unconditional. They will be able to speak more freely with each other, ask questions without making assumptions etc. If you do it, it could make you look bad in their eyes. And when the child speaks to the parents it shouldn't be said in a way that it's come from you or else that defeats the purpose. That's how I feel about the in-law thingy. It's a tough one. (In laws are tough)

Becky - posted on 03/27/2009

Hey - when you say anymore - does that mean that they usually keep your baby over the wkd? That is tough, but, I think you've just go to tell them, and that's that, you're the parent now! Don't be afraid to tell them - you're the momma! Also - if you don't feel comfortable (like I probably would), I would make my partner tell the in-laws. If he didn't, then I would tell him I would talk to them. I hope this help!

Zojoho - posted on 03/27/2009

ahahaha at the possessive comment LOL..aren't they ever..!!

Just tell them Hun, tell them that you'd prefer that your lil' cherub/s didn't stay away from you over the weekends as you want to use this time as "bonding" time with your baby as a family. Let them know that they are welcome to visit you either during the week (with prior arrangement), or on a particular day on the weekend..but Bub's won't be staying over anymore.

Good Luck...and I hope you can work it out, but in all honesty, they'll get over whatever decision you and your Hubby make..coz they'll wanna see their Grandbaby.

Mwah Hun.xx

Brenda - posted on 03/27/2009

I would plan another day they could see the baby so they have something to look forward to.  Grandparents can be quite posessive!  (:

Olivia - posted on 03/27/2009

oh!  thats a hard one...good luck with it, but I'm sure if your gentle enough about it; it will be ok.  ????