How long did you wait to have your second baby?

Jessica - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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So I'm wondering how long everyone waited to have a second baby. My son is 16 months old right now and my husband and I are thinking about getting pregnant again at the end of the year. That would mean that our oldest will be just over 2. Is that a good age? Or should we do it before or way after his 2nd birthday? What did everyone else do and why, if you don't mind me asking.

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Sheryl - posted on 04/13/2010

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I have a daughter that is 3 in May, then Alexis (17 mths), and am pregnant again. it was hard at first having the two girls close together, expecialy with alexis being prem, and sick alot of her first year. but it getting better now as they are playing nicley together most of the time.

Carmen - posted on 04/07/2010

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My little boy is just over 17 months now and Im thinking about having a second already. I want them close in range but due to alot of medical issues I suffer from I dont want to be bombarded and be too overwhelmed. I am thinking of waiting til my little guy is 2.5yrs old until I start trying again. My brother and I were about 3 yrs difference and we grew up close but also had our seperate activities which made it even more enjoyable when we got older and our interests became more similar. Plus right now I just wanna enjoy my little man all to myself. (Yaaa I guess i'll share him with daddy too =P lol)

Kylie - posted on 04/07/2010

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we decided to start trying when aj was 6 months old, got pregnant when she was 7.5 months old.. so they are 16.5 months apart... both c-sections, so my body has taken a real beating, BUT they are best of friends... 2 years is the "ideal" gap between kids... we introduced our preg to aj by giving her a doll baby and letting her play with it... then reinforcing mummys baby.... it helped, there was only a little jealousy after birth, and once jl started reacting to aj, they were fine.. giggling, responding.. playing...GOOD LUCK, praying for you!!!

Amy - posted on 04/07/2010

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hi. my daughter is 17months old and me any my partner are trying for a second baby now, and we have been trying for four months but nothing as yet...

if you and your partner are ready to have another one go ahead, its only you that can make that decision, i think its nice if your children are close togeater. there is 18months between me and my brother. there is advantages of having your children close togeather. if you want to try at christmas then good luck, as long as you feel its the right thing. all the best xx

Annaka - posted on 04/07/2010

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i agree its wot ever u and ur husband wont and feel wots best!! were as me and my fella ad are first child (21st may 2003) and are second (20th october 2008) so i ad 5 1/2 yrs gap!! but it wasnt wot we wonted we wud av ad another wen ma youngest was bout 3 but with are age we felt we wud been to young(as was only 17 n 3 mths wen ad first) but now i do like the gap as i av more time for my youngest while ma eldest at school then wen come home is are time altogether then wen ma youngest is in bed its ma eldest time and works out lovely but we are planning on havving another by time my youngest is 3!! only because i not a mother that likes to b pushing adouble pushchair around lol so that puts me off avin ne more till mine is walking and dnt need a pushchair lol
gd luck¬!!!!!

Jaime - posted on 04/06/2010

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My daughter was born Oct 20, 2008 and my son was born Oct 3, 2009 so they are only 11 months apart. It wasn't planned but it's not nearly has hard as I expected, at least not right now. I'm just worried about having a one yr old and a 2 yr old at the same time LOL Everyone swears that having them so close in age is a great thing and they will be close...only time will tell! :) Good luck!!!

Danielle - posted on 04/06/2010

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hey jessica. i was asking the some question for a while, then i realized its what we feel is best for our family, ever family is different. My oldest is 17 months (Born October 20, 2008) and we are currently 7 weeks pregnant ( due November 23) we also want our kids close in age and had been talking about trying again for a few months, then finally tried in febuary, and now we are expecting! Whatever you and your husband think is best for your family is what you should do, not what other people do, or what they think, its about what you think. I wish you the best of luck when you decide the time is right! :)

Victoria - posted on 04/06/2010

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My first child is almost 18 months old and I'm thinking of getting pregnant again in the summer, I think 2 and a half years - 3 years would be a good age gap as my nephew was that age when my daughter was born and he loved holding her and helping me feed her and change her. I'm also hoping Aimee will be talking when I have a second baby, I think it would make things harder if I had 2 kids that couldnt communicate with me.
Good luck when you start to try...

Leonie - posted on 04/05/2010

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LOL... we didn't even try - 10mths and pregnant with #2. Kinda glad there will be a short gap - but I understand the first couple of years will be chaotic... :0) Still, I love my little angel so I am sure that #2 will be just as angelic...

Melissa - posted on 04/04/2010

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Well, our second baby came one minute after our first! (Twins) If you feel you're ready for another baby, go for it. We're going to be trying for our third baby this summer, so we'll have three children under two and a half (hopefully). Even if your kids are close in age, you'll manage to get by and love every minute of it.

Becky - posted on 03/28/2010

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My boys are 4 1/2 years apart. When I got married I would have loved to have kids close together, but it just didn't work out that way. My older son has been an amazing big brother and LOVES to teach and play with his little brother. He's a huge help to me and understands so much. As they get older I imagine that they won't be super close, but who knows! I'm doing my best to foster a close relationship between them. I've got a friend who's had her second baby when her first is 18months. Her older daughter had about a week of fits, and then seems to have adjusted well!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/28/2010

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Well, my daughter was born Oct 17th, 2008 and is currently 17 months old. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. We wanted our children to be close together, as both my brothers and I are over 3 years apart and we were not very close at all. I also wanted to be done all the baby stuff sooner than later. We are planning to have two children only, so I wanted to get the 2nd pregnancy done so I can get my body back and not have to think about having to lose the weight again! Everyone has different reasons as to when they have their children so just choose the correct path for your family!!

Miranda - posted on 03/28/2010

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My first two are 2 years and 7 months apart and this worked out ok but if I had it to do over, I think I would have had them maybe about 6 months closer in age. My son was established as the only child and very possessive and stingy wtih the baby using what he called "his" things, he had potty trained recently then reverted backwards after baby came along, and he was getting out of long naps and it was difficult with establishing nursing. I think had he been just a bit younger we could have potty trained after adjusting to the new baby and had long term success permanently and that he would not have been so selfish/jealous at a younger age. My 3rd one is way younger than my oldest 2 but I'm having another one in October so they'll be about 2 years apart which is going to be challenging in the beginning but I think it will work well with them being close and having each other to play with. I also think that I will be able to put them on the same afternoon nap schedule once baby gets to be about 6 months old so that will give me some time to accomplish things around here. lol

Amy - posted on 03/24/2010

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I waited nine years. Then I had my second one. Then, nine years later I had my third child. Fourth child was born 26 months after my third. It is so much work to have two little ones right together.

Laura - posted on 03/21/2010

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hey, my first, Kaitlyn was born 21/10/08 and my second, Erin was born 02/12/09, just over 13 months difference, i love the fact that my girls are so close in age, hopefully this will mean they'll be the best of friends whilst growing up, Kaitlyn is only 16 months old and shes already so helpful, she likes to rock the moses basket if baby wakes up and cries, she also tries to put the dummy back in if it pops out and she tries to help me feed Erin her bottle. my 2nd pregnancy came as a shock as we weren't planning another child for atleast 2-3 years but i would never change that now! luckily my 2nd pregnancy was a breeze, so it wasn't hard running after kaitlyn all day! it can be a bit tough at times to start with, what with the sleepless nights, but now erin has settled herself its not so bad! hope this helps, good luck!! x

Susan - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter was born 27/10/08, my son born 12/10/09, just under a year apart and im enjoying every minute, me and my partner both wanted a small age gap between our children.

Aisha - posted on 03/21/2010

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Well, I had a c-section and as per my dr's advice i need to give a 3years gap between my first n second baby. But as Katrice said close in age babies get very close to each other, i may think to have another baby as my daughter turns atleast two.

Jenny - posted on 03/18/2010

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i waited 8 years i didnt want 2 have mine so close in age. me and my wee sister there is a year 1/2 difference an we didnt like that the same everything we got. and i get on better with my older sisters. i have a girl at 9 and a boy at 1 she helps me by playing with him so i can things done i might a one more when my sons 4 or 5.

Carrie - posted on 03/18/2010

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My oldest is 11 (12/02/98) my second is almost 18 months (10/01/08) and my twins are 6 weeks (2/04/10)

Sherri - posted on 03/18/2010

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Actually..I waited an eternity.18years.Have 2 girls.Stephanie my eldest turned 19 in Feb and Hannah is 17months.

Andrea - posted on 03/18/2010

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Mine are 14 months, 18 months and soon to be 21-22 months apart and I really like it. It can be a little chaotic sometimes, and that first 6-12 months is a bit of a rollercoaster, but I enjoy having them close. But I know people who have 3 years between each of theirs and really enjoy the gap. My sister had all of hers around 2 years apart and loved that gap. So I really think it's personal preference. Whatever you and DH are comfortable with and want is what I think you should do- it's between you two. Enjoy your little ones! They won't be little very long.

Ashlee - posted on 03/17/2010

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my son was born oct 25 2008 and our daughter was born feb 28 2010 so they are 16 months apart and he is doing so good with her right now, we wanted them close and didn't plan for that close but did not not plan either it happened for us when it happened if you over plan sometimes you end up disappointed if it doesn't happen. This way we will be done with bottles diapers etc around the same time and then be done instead of starting all over again. my son is already off bottles but is still in diapers i will probably wait until the younger one is around 1 and potty train at same time unless he gets it before then no rush, i couldn't imagine waiting 3 or more years i would be out of "baby" mode- used to sleeping through the night again, got body back then start that craziness all over
oh well different strokes for different folks
whatever feels right for your family -probably is
good luck with your decision

Tonya - posted on 03/17/2010

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My husband and I didn't wait long at all. Our daughters are exactly 1 year apart. Hopefully they will be close. I have 2 boys as well and there are 3 1/2 years between them. Then there is 11 years between my youngest son and our oldest daughter. I think there are advantages whether they are close in age or not. My 12 year old and 1 year old are like the best of friends.

Elise - posted on 03/17/2010

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my husband and i are close in age to our siblings (1 to 3 years). it was great growing up because we always had someone to play with and we are all still really close now. our daughter is 16 1/2 months now and we are trying for our second so she can have the same advantage as we did growing up.

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We just found out we are pregnant again. We waited until after his first birthday and then just took our time. This little one will be here this coming November which makes my son just over two.

Meghan - posted on 03/16/2010

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My oldest daughter had just turned one when I got pregnant with our second. There's 21 months between them. I think it's nice to have them close in age so they can be closer as they grow up than my sister and I were (there's about 5 yrs between my sister and I, I'm older). We have 2 girls and 1 boy. There's 21 months between the girls and only 11&1/2 months between our youngest girl and our son. We were wanting to wait about 2 years before we had another one and I was on birth control and everything but I got pregnant anyways. I love my kids, though, and wouldn't change a thing.

Jessica - posted on 03/15/2010

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Yeah, we're thinking about doing it at the end of this year. Which means that my oldest will be just over 2 when we get pregnant again. I think that sounds good. ^)_(^ We pretty much have the same views.

Kat - posted on 03/15/2010

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I am 23w2d pregnant, my daughter is 17.5 months. There will be 20-21 months difference. We wanted our kids to be close in age & hoping they will be very close to each other. The other factor we had to consider is our age, I will be 36 when this baby is born & due to age we are high risk for DS, so for us the sooner the better. I know it will be tough them being so little & needy at the same time, but long term I am hoping there will be great benefits. I am also hoping they will only be a year apart in school (if bub comes a couple weeks early).

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