How long should you wait to have your second child?

Kimberly - posted on 06/29/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15 months, I want another child. Some say I need to wait, but when do you think is the best time to have your second child?

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Claire - posted on 08/13/2012

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Whenever you are ready!! My brother and I are 13months apart and my mom loved it!!! My son and daughter are 3 years apart, and its fine, but I feel like I'm yelling at my son a lot cause he's at that age, then doting on the baby so it might not be fair. LOL. Dont listen to anyone though. If you and your man are ready then go for it! No ones taking care of them but you!!!

Mari - posted on 08/06/2012

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I became pregnant with my second daughter 1 month and one year after my first, and they are so far apart developmentally, and quite frankly, I would be in heaven if i had twins. so don't wait too long if you're sure you want another, it puts a strain on their relationship, at least until they get older, and i've read that once they will be more than 24 months apart, the older sibling gets jealous.

Casey - posted on 08/05/2012

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dotn listen to others i think its a personal choice and if your ready then go for it :) you have to take into account the trying time and then the pregnancy anyway, we started trying just after our daughters 2nd birthday took us 18 months to get pregnant so our new baby is due two weeks after our daughters 4th birthday, the gaps abit bigger than we wanted but i think it will work well and am very greatfull to have had the last 4 years giving my little girl my full attention and she is also old enough to sort of understand and she talks to my belly all the time and comes to my scans ect its very cool :) anyway goodluck!

Emma - posted on 08/05/2012

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Mine are 16onths apart and, although not planned that way, I would change it at all. They get on really well and play beautifully, because of the small age difference, and them both being girls, they are pretty much playing with the same things.
You do things when ur ready, my only regret with having them so close was that my first was 9 months old and as I got bigger I found it quite hard to run around with her and pick her up.

Amie - posted on 07/25/2012

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My first two are 20 months apart and my third will be 4 years from my middle child. I loved having two babies in the house. I never thought it as hard, infanct i thought it was so much easier. I was already in baby mode so the next one was a breeze. They are inseparable now which i love. I think having them far apart is hard. I was really enjoying getting "my life back" - so to speak, and now will be baby busy again for the next to years. I wish i had my third straight after my second. Either way its a personal choice. God luck.

Abii - posted on 07/07/2012

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I have two kids, one aged 2 and the other is 9months.
When ever you feel ready to have another then try.
I agree it is a little bit harder having them close together but i wouldnt change it for the world.

Amy - posted on 07/07/2012

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i found out i was having another baby just after my first sons 1st birthday, we were a bit shocked, but i wouldnt change it for the world as they are really close. they are 1 and nearly 3 and have there lil disagreements now and then, but love each other very much :)

Elizabeth - posted on 07/03/2012

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I had my children 20 months apart (deliberately), and, while I admit that it is certainly more difficult to have two babies so close together--lots of diapers, LOL!!--I always say that I wouldn't change it for the world. It actually winds up having a lot of advantages in a few years. (Mine are 8 and just-turned 10 right now.) The biggest one is that they can play together and amuse each other (the closer in age they are, the better for that), and they are extremely bonded and loving. (I have a boy and a girl, but I don't think the gender of the second would matter.) Also, as they get older, you can take them to the same movies, the same playgrounds, museums, etc., and they will both be able to enjoy themselves at that shared activity, which would not be true when one is much younger than the other. So, that is very convenient, as well as the fact that they will together for more years in preschool then in elementary, etc., which is much easier in terms of picking them up, coordinating school activities, schedules and events, etc. than when they are at two different schools all the time.



The one problem (and it can be a pain!) with children close in age is that, as much as they love each other, they also fight more with each other. They want the same toys at the same time when they are very little, and, later, they can get competitive with each other about achievements and so forth, because the normal sibling rivalry seems to be stronger when they are close in age. However, their fighting can be managed with firm, consistent parenting, and what is most important to remember (and remind them) is how much they still love each other even though they squabble. If anyone else (a school bully, for example) dares to start something with one of them, the other will step right in furiously, and they are an unbeatable team! (This happened even when they were 4 or 5 years old!)



I would say, that if (and only if) you can handle the extra work of two small ones at a time (and yours won't even be as close in age as mine), then don't wait another minute! It is totally worth it and the best decision I could have made regarding having my children!! Best of luck, and may you have a beautiful, healthy baby (should you so choose :-) within the next year!

Gracelyn - posted on 07/02/2012

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when you feel you are already ready for another one then ,y not? i have sense that you are a good mother . for as long as you are capable of taking care of your children ,go on mother have another one.
at my young age being a mother i found it challenging taking care of my baby.

Stephanie - posted on 06/30/2012

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you should have a child when your ready! unless there is a medical reason to wait, why not go ahead! There is only 19 months between my 2 girls, both born by c-section. People thought i was crazy (my 2nd daughter was a little surprise!), but i love that they are close in age. they are 2 & almost 4 now & the bond between them is incredible! i wouldnt have it any other way... waiting a little longer to perhaps try for baby number 3, but thats through circumstances, financial planning & a few health issues! good luck

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