Is it ok to let my son grab his penis??

Alysia - posted on 10/18/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Whenever I change my son's diaper or give him a bath he ALWAYS has to grab his penis and pull it around. He kinda explores with it and I've been told by family that its gross and I shouldn't let him do it. I don't want to traumatize him either by letting him think it's bad or evil....any advice???

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So, I hate to disconcert you but it's not going to just stop when he's 2 like a few other posters said. Kids play with themselves. It's part of their exploration of their bodies. It's not sexual, but it does feel good to them. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. When he gets old enough to understand, it's important to explain that there are parts of our bodies that are private and personal. For instance, my daughter is four. If she touches herself in the bathtub, I tell her that is her vagina and that is private. No one should ever touch you there. I told her that there are times that mommy and daddy need to clean her there, but that even mommy and daddy should ask her permission. It's great that our doctor is really good about this as well. When she does Anna's physical, she always makes a point to ask me first if it is ok to examine Anna and then to ask Anna. I think it's extremely important to give children ownership of their bodies at an early age so that they are never scared to tell someone NO that doesn't feel right. Also, if we make our children feel that their private parts are dirty or something that they should be embarrassed of, god forbid that something bad happens to them they might be even more ashamed to tell us about it. Making them feel that ALL of the parts of their bodies are good and belong to them teaches them that they are in control of what happens to their bodies.

Ben - posted on 12/03/2012

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I am a 15 year old teen and im grabbing my dick all the time. I mean if hes doing it around you that's a little weird but I'd just let it be these are some rough times for him.

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My son has been doing that for months. It's normal for children to be curious and explore... It's the same when they discover they have ears and hands and feet they don't stop grabbing, pulling,...

Aubree - posted on 10/23/2009

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He's just checking out all of his parts, its ok. He'll get over it after some time and move on to something else. It isn't something he should be ashamed of or be made ashamed of, just as long as he's doing it at home and not around people you don't know because you never know about people.

Courtney - posted on 10/20/2009

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my son has just discovered his penis also, its a normal thing but what i have to watch for is that he tends to pull too hard

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Tanya - posted on 10/26/2009

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my son does the same thing but its hard to tell him not to touch it when he went for a poo....because then his hands get all full of poo....hes a handfull but i love him to death

Zakeana - posted on 10/22/2009

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My son does it too then moves on to his socks and rips them off then on to grabbing his toes - i don't think there is any need to worry! Sometimes well meaning families need to BACK OFF! and lighten up - it's just a penis!

Katie - posted on 10/21/2009

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my son does it too. its totally fine, he is just exploring. he has no idea what it is anyway.

Lauren - posted on 10/21/2009

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my son does it too sometimes..i don't stop him from doing it unless he looks like he's gonna hurt it then i'll tell him no or move his hand away...but usually i just laugh and say you're too young to be doing that

Amy - posted on 10/21/2009

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with letting him explore his body. I have always allowed my son to (who's now 8) and expressed that ones body is private and that he is not to do so in front of other people or in public. My now 12 month old daughter does the same thing, and I only don't allow her to until after I clean her up during diaper change. I don't want my kids to think the human body is shameful, but rather private and for no one but themselves and their spouse once they are married.

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I asked the same question not to long ago. I guess its normal because alot of people replied saying their son was doing it or had done it too. My mom kept saying he shouldn't do it and was making me feel bad for letting him do it, I mean its not like he can rip it off. I let him do it for awhile then I will put his diaper on. He only does it when he doesn't have a diaper on or if he is taking a bath.

Shelley - posted on 10/20/2009

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yeah Nathan does the same at bath time but we don't make anything of it and he soon stops! As long as they are not hurting themselves!

Sara - posted on 10/20/2009

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Let him do it, but try to let him know that it's something that should only be done at home, not in public. If you try to have him stop all together, I think you'll be sending him the wrong message. It's natural for babies want to touch themselves. My daughter does it and I don't say a thing about it to discourage her. It's not gross, it's natural!

Lena - posted on 10/20/2009

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My husband tells me it's fine so I just let him go. But, boy...it really looks like it should hurt.

Shantel - posted on 10/20/2009

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Let him!!! It is his. Every time my son does it I tell him, "that is your pee pee". Of course I don't sit there and let him do it, but if he happens to get a grab in while I am changing him I let him. If you tell him no or that it is dirty you are setting him up to have a complex when it comes to sex when he is older.

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i have two boys, 2 and 1.. they have both at different random times touched it.. i usually dont say anything, they dont do it for long, if they do every once in a while i just say ok all done leave it be.. but its there sticking out so they touch it, its not evil or weird

September - posted on 10/19/2009

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It is very common for baby boys and girls to explore their private areas. I would let him do it. Our son also does this when we change his diaper. It's not gross by any means it's normal! Don't let other people tell you what's right or wrong. You're his mother :)

Kayla - posted on 10/19/2009

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I agree with all the lady's. I believe it is completely normal, they probably just noticed that it is there, and want to know what is...My son does the same thing. Once they hit a certain age, around 2, im sure it will stop. If not, then its time to sit down and have a talk with them

Lori - posted on 10/19/2009

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Yup, my son often does the same thing - the only time I try to keep his hands away is when he's covered in poop! LOL

Melissa - posted on 10/19/2009

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I think its totally natural for him to be interested in. It is his. My son does the same thing. I think it would only be a problem if he was doing this when he is like 3 and in school or in public.

Alysia - posted on 10/18/2009

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Thanks for the advice! All opinions and advice are welcomed!!! I was just getting tired of being told he shouldn't do it and that i should stop him....thanks again!!!

Regina - posted on 10/18/2009

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my son does the same thing its fine there just exerpimenting all children will do iti say just let him do it it a way they learn about there boby

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