Potty training my son, help!

Jubal - posted on 10/16/2011

I have two boys. My oldest will be 5 in nov. I started with him at 1.5 and he was doing great for a week then he just wanted nothing to do with it. I would try now and then but, did not want to push it. Then on his third birthday he started and did great went strait to pull up and he did number 2 also so waiting has some advantages. My other son will be 3 end of october, he has never had any interest at all. He will not tell me if he peepees or poopoos in the diaper. He really is just not ready so im trying to get him to understand the difference. One of these days he will get it, some kids are just slower. There are signs to know if ur child is ready. Makes sure he has all these signs before pushing the potty. If he has all these signs u might have to plan to stay home a week. No diapers and lots of messes. I know a lot of people that use this method and it works great but a lot of work for mom. This is the fast way of getting them potty trained, but u have to stick with it every day for a week. The kicker is getting them to know when they have to pee. Good luck! Eventually they get it!

Lana - posted on 10/06/2011

My boy will be 3 on October 9 and has ASD he wouldn't use the potty at all when he was tall enough we just started with peeing standing up but we had to word it like this "Do you want to make bubbles down the big hole" he is now dry most of the time. We have not been so successful with bowel motions yet he will sit on his toilet seat but not go. He will get there just be consistant and find what works and will encourage him.

Kimberly - posted on 09/20/2011

Boys usually take longer to potty train then girls. On average boys are fully potty trained around 3 1/2. I have my son in the slip on diapers so that I can change him in the bathroom and ask him if he wants to sit on his potty. Sometimes he says and other times he says no. We may go a full week and all he wants to do is sit on the potty. I only allow him to sit for about 5 minutes at the time unless it looks like he is going to poop, any longer and it was just pointless. Boys by nature are stubborn when it comes to potty training. When they are ready...they will do it. The more you push it, the more they will retreat from it. I worked in daycare with the 2 and 3 years for several years. I know my son will take longer to potty train due to the fact that he has high functioning Autism and the typical age for boys to be potty trained with his diagnosis is closer to 5. As other post have mentioned stickers and M&M's work wonders!! Best of luck to you

Caryn - posted on 09/14/2011

I wouldn't fret. My son did the same thing. I would ask him if we wanted to go pee pee on the potty and he'd say, "Nope, not today!" Finally, a friend and I (her son was the same age) decided to tackle it together using the 3-day potty training method. Our sons would call each other at the end of the day and talk about how they did, etc. . . . but keep in mind that they were almost 4. I would lay off for a while and try again later.

Christina - posted on 09/12/2011

My little guy will be 3 on Oct 31 and we have been trying for a year. He has known exactly what he needs to do, but has been quite stubborn. He will sit there as long as we make him and not do anything. As soon as we get him down and put his diaper back on, then he goes. We finally made progress in the last week. I caught him trying to hide behind me to poop so I hurried him to the toilet. It still took him 1 hour and 5 minutes to get it done. (He really got his stubborn streak from me, unfortunately). I have been able to get him to go each morning when he wakes up, but that's all for now. We're just trying to stay as consistent as we can with him while we also have a 21 month old and a 8 month old too. I might lose my mind by the time the 3rd one gets trained..........

DeAnne - posted on 08/30/2011

Well I am so happy others are right where I am! Zachy will be 3 on Oct 16th he hates to be naked and wants nothing to do with the potty at all! I had him actually sitting on it naked for one night and I was so excited and I got him excited.. He didn't pee but for me this was a huge step. Next morning... he wanted nothing to do with it at all again. :( Preschool trys and trys as well. Nothing. you all seem so much further than I am with this. I guess we will get there when we get there. I'm hoping it will just click with him one day and we will be done with it.. lol One can hope right? Just keep at it.. it will click with him soon I'm sure!

Karen - posted on 08/27/2011

sometimes you just have to wait till they are ready. i worked in a daycare, and the majority of boys werent potty trained till close to 3 1/2, as well as my own son took quite a while.

Annie - posted on 08/23/2011

Dont stress about it, some kids do it when they are ready. does he wake up dry from naps or bed time?? if he does as soon as he wakes up sit him on the potty or take him outside (if weather permits) and just play until he pees and he will have to pee especially if its in the morning. Lettign ym son pee outside a few times made it exciting for him to pee standing up; if you rarely give him candy then use that as a reward per say everytime he pees or poops in the potty he get one m&m. make a big deal when he potties (yay! great job! such a big boy!) just until he gets the hang of it. it took me about a month to potty train my son. just be consistant with itand he"ll do it. I hope it works out. best of luck!

Melissa - posted on 08/21/2011

I'm in the same boat! His birthday is october 29th my son knows when he needs to go, even tells me, no I don't potty in my potty I go in my pull up and you change me! He won't go naked at all, and just pees in his underwear, have also tried two different potties, and bribing! Nothing! He knows his letters, his numbers, the sounds, shapes, colors, and is practically reading! I introduced the potty at 18 months since his lil brother is 20 months younger and have tried ever since. I do work full time and so does my husband, and daycare doesn't seem so supportive! Ugh not sure what to do now either.

Amanda - posted on 08/15/2011

My son will be 3 at the end of October we have been trying our hardest for monthsto get him out of diapers for good, if you or your spouse are home with him during the day, it really has worked to be on potty watch all day long. i dont put a diaper( i use cloth diapers) on him anymore I make sure to make it clear that babies wer diapers! he does wet his underpants pretty often so its a good Idea to buy the training pants even though they are not as cute they catch more of the mess. i do have him in a diaper at nap time and night. he has just started telling me when he has wet his underpants its also a good idea to not wear other pants over them so its easier to take them off to go potty. depending on how much he has drank it seems like I tell him its time to go pee every 20 mins all day long. if you have a privet yard, little boys seem to love to pee out side let him pee by a tree or in the bushes, my son has told me way WAY more often now that he can go out side. He thinks its fun. Also my son hates to sit and pee he tells me "no its just pee, not poop" so i have him stand he is able to go faster then if he is siting at first he liked that he was making bubbles in the water now he just goes. also i dont let him flush the toilet unless he poops, i watch him during his normal poop time very close to make sure I dont miss the look before it happens. He never tells me when he needs to poop. rewards do not work for my son at all but comparing what he is doing to other boys and men in his life does like " your going pee just like daddy does" or you know papa goes pee on the toilet every time just like you because you are all big boys!" he likes that. read up on elimination communication you can also watch videos on youtube with some info! good luck for all of us potty training mammas!!!!!

Stephanie - posted on 08/05/2011

when did you actually begin the potty training process? if you started only a few months ago then don't stress, he will get it. My son will be 3 in October too and I actually began trying to train him at 18 months (because I had a second son on the way). At almost 3 he is still working on it. He finally will tell me when he has to go, still has occasional accidents (some days are better than others) and we are struggling with making poo poo in the potty. My advice would just be to every morning offer him either a diaper or underwear (i still do this everyday), he may surprise you and pick underwear some days. Then just every time you give him a drink, 10 minutes after he's finished take him to the potty. But try and make it on his terms. We did the reward system too, with stickers - it worked wonders for pee pee - but i had to upgrade to M&M's for poop. It sounds to me like you know what to do, you just have a little man that is standing his ground - which is awesome, mine's the same way - it's just a matter of time, he will get it. Like I said, you know what you need to do, because you've done it, just try and make him think he's calling the shots by giving him choices. Good Luck, i hope I have been helpful.