Recently developed sleeping problem...help!

Tiffany - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Ok, my baby is 15 months old. She used to sleep the whole night just fine in her own bed. She falls asleep hugging me, I put her in her crib then she would sleep fine. If she woke up I would lie her back down, get her comfortable, and she would go right back to sleep. About 2 weeks ago, she was teething with her first two molars. She started waking up screaming at night and wouldn't stop till I held her. Since then she only sleeps till 3 am in her crib and spends the rest of the night with me. I would be willing to CIO but my husband thinks it's mean and I live with my ILs and don't want to disturb them. I'm not sleeping well. Any suggestions?

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Ariel - posted on 01/07/2010

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Have the molars popped out yet? If there are more teeth coming in give her a break and some sympathy, my son went through the same thing a couple weeks ago. I had no idea why his sleep schedule went so crazy, or that he had molars coming in. If you don't indulge her in mommy love and special treatment too much she will probably go right back to her normal sleep when the teeth are done. If she is getting lots of extra love and special treats she may decide to keep it up to keep getting those things. Be sympathetic, but don't overindulge.

Rachel - posted on 01/03/2010

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My daughter is still cosleeping with us at 15 months old. So i must say that i am a softy when it comes to the CIO method also. Recently tho i noticed that she has become very attached to the comforter on our bed and i believe it is because it has our smell on it and it is what she is used to since she came home. Try offering a blanket for comfort after you have slept with it one night and it has gotten your smell in it. It can be very comforting to a child to have the scent of her mother right there in her arms at night. :)

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Carolyn - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi Lacie thanks she is okay now in her room as long as I keep the door open but she is still is waking up about 2 and staying up for about an hour and half. she doesn't have a lot of teeth so maybe she is teething. She doesn't have a lot of teeth. I don't know something is waking her up completly I just hope to figure it out soon I can't take much more of this sleep deprivation.

Maria - posted on 01/06/2010

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my son did something very similar. he was sleeping fine through the night, about 10 -12 hours, until he was about 7-8 months old. then it was waking up screaming, several times a night. i figured it was teething, until it kept happening for months. i finally couldnt take it anymore after 4 months of this, and so, i decided that instead of even letting him fall asleep with me holding him, he was going to cry it out. it didnt work! so we went back to our tried and true methods, for about another month. i tried the CIO again, as i was feeling exhausted, and this time it did work. i found out that if he CIO to begin his night, he was pretty sure to not wake up screaming needding me to help him go back to sleep. even when he was teething! it is terrible i know, i was a big advocate of NOT crying it out for a while, but now.... i think he is old enough to be able to learn to fall asleep on his own. he does now, even if he cries for about 1 minute, he will lay awake in his crib talking to himself until he falls asleep. i woke up last night after i thought i heard something over the monitor, sure enough he was awake talking to his winnie the pooh that was in the crib with him! lol. he fell back asleep by himself, it really does work.

Lacie - posted on 01/06/2010

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Carolyn, have you tried the above mentioned with sleeping with her crib sheet in your bra to give it your scent? Also try giving her teething tablets before bed, to rule it out that it is her teeth. I've learned with my daughter that she sleeps better having a bath in the evening vs in the morning. And also that usually when she wakes up she is thirsty and goes right back to sleep after having a drink. Hope you find a solution!

Carolyn - posted on 01/06/2010

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I thought I was the only one. I am having the same problem with my daughter just started last week she used to wake up at night but would go right back to sleep now she wakes up and will be up for an hour at a time and won't stay in her room she needs to see me. She never used to be like that and I am going crazy with sleep deprvation. Please please let me know if you find something that works!!

Lacie - posted on 01/05/2010

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PS - The best thing to do to give baby your scent according to the American Board of Pediatrics (and NICU) is to sleep in a sports bra with the babies crib sheet in your bra for 2-3 nights. Have 2-3 sheets that you can alternate for baby. This gives the baby the smell of the mother for security (even more so if you breast feed) but doesn't put "extras" in the crib where they do NOT belong. If you have any questions please feel free to message me.
Awareness can decrease SIDS deaths!

Lacie - posted on 01/05/2010

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SIDS EDUCATION FROM A SIDS AWARENESS ADVOCATE AND MOTHER TO A SIDS BABY
Sorry Eileen but you should really read up on SIDS and what increases the risk before posting something such as you did. Below you will find some information I pulled directly from SIDS awareness websites. You can do your own search by going to google.com and typing in "SIDS pillows"
My daughter KyLeigh passed away to SIDS, so I have informed myself and would suggest all to do so, whether they have had a loss or not. It shocks me to hear that some people still don't know what SIDS is and don't pay attention on how to prevent it.
Here is another fact. When you yawn is it simply because you are tired? No, it's not. It's because you get tired, you start breathing more shallowly and your bodies natural responses to get more oxygen is to yawn. Babies sleep better on their tummy's or on pillows because their oxygen saturation level's drop and they fall into a deeper sleep. This increases the risk of SIDS when babies do so. While this is "nice" for the parents to get better sleep....trust me, the sleepless nights that follow a SIDS death are NOTHING compared to those of a fussing baby 3-4 times a night.

"Studies have shown that soft bedding should not be placed under infants, regardless of the way they are placed to sleep because it has the potential to cover their noses and mouths, blocking their airways. It also decreases oxygen saturation level's. This is true for pillows as well."

"What should I know about SIDS (Children 0-24 months)?

Health care providers don't know exactly what causes SIDS, but they do know:

* Babies sleep safer on their backs. Babies who sleep on their stomachs are much more likely to die of SIDS than babies who sleep on their backs.

* Sleep surface matters. Babies who sleep on or under soft bedding including pillows are more likely to die of SIDS.

* Every sleep time counts. Babies who usually sleep on their backs but who are then placed on their stomachs, like for a nap, are at very high risk for SIDS. So it's important for everyone who cares for your baby to use the back sleep position for naps and at night.

* Communities across the nation have made great progress in reducing SIDS!
Since the Back to Sleep campaign began in 1994, the SIDS rate in the United States has declined by more than 50 percent."

Eileen - posted on 01/05/2010

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sorry lacie a pillow doesnt increase SIDS if you put it under the cot sheet so the baby can still have the smell of their parents through the sheet. some babies need to be raised so they can sleep, my son has a pillow under his cot sheet and he sleeps much better than before.

Lacie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Please do not use pillows or big blankets on babies under 2. You increase their risks of SIDS a great deal!

Tiffany - posted on 01/04/2010

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Yeah, CIO doesn't work for my little one. I'm going to try giving her one of our pillows. We'll see how it goes, I'll let you all know. Thanks! Most of all the support and encouagement helps :)

Camilla - posted on 01/03/2010

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Hi I have a 14 month old in a similar situation to you, screaming in the night with the pain from her teeth and my partner too will not allow me to let her cry it out. I'm going to try Rachels suggestion tonight... sounds really good. Has anyone else tried it?

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I can't say that we have had that problem, but if my little one wakes up during the night (almost 15 months) I will often let her cry before going in to her and she will generally put her self back to sleep fairly quickly, otherwise I lie down beside her cot and just pat her gently until she has gone back off to sleep. I think that works well instead of picking her up as she then learns to settle herself again. Not sure if that is anyhelp to you at all, good luck with it!

Tara - posted on 01/02/2010

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Hi Tiffany, I can feel your pain!! it is hard when they get used to getting up at a certain time and it becomes a habit, even though they those teeth have fully come out. Times like this I had to do the crying it out with my son, it was really the only way. He wouldn't cry for too long but all I can suggest is doing the cio but go in after 5 mins, then 10 mins etc and try to not pick her up. CIO is hard so I can understand where your husband is coming from, however don't let her cry for hours either. You need your sleep as well in order to function!! and she needs her proper sleep as well, it's healthy for her. It doesn't work for everyone but it is worth a try. The first couple of nights are the hardest and then she may just stop, it gets better. Otherwise if she is worse then you know it's not working. Otherwise, you could just hold her for a little bit but don't leave her room, to break the habit of bringing her back to bed with you (if that is what you are doing). Not sure I am much help but know you are definitely not alone!! just when you think they are in such a perfect routine, teething or something else comes along and it can be like starting from the beginning again!! Good luck :)

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