Will not sit on her potty

Ashlee - posted on 06/14/2010

i would just let it go for now. you do not want to force anything with the potty now when we asked our ped at his 1yr he said wait until at least 2 yrs maybe a little longer - he said at 2 they atart o understand the concept so it is easier to do! good luck and really mine was telling us every time he had to go and then when he was finished he would let us know so we figured he was ready- we bought a potty and just had it in the bathroom for a few days to peek his interest then he wanted to sit on it, then he wanted to sit on it without his diaper - then one day while sitting on his potty he had a really big fart and scared himself (i think the echo not sure) and since he has not been to ken on the potty issue so we just let it be he asked abuot the potty the other day so we brought it back out he is starting to sit on it again so here we try again- honest;y as long as he is out of diapers for kindergarten i am ok
good luck :~)

Tabatha - posted on 06/13/2010

As of a month ago my 20 month old did the same thing. I did not make her, but did keep trying. We read lots of potty books and LOVE Elmo's potty time. She still will not use a potty chair she just gets right back up. She now wants to sity on the big potty with her special chair. We have to constantly read books to her to get her to stay. Good luck!

Gemma - posted on 06/06/2010

my 19mth old daughter is the same i just brought her a potty and seat for toilet the other day and all she does is scream or sits on it then 2 seconds later gets up and makes a game off it i praise her for even just sitting on it hoping she will want to use it soon as i have a new baby on the way and would love for her to be dry dueing the day by the time the baby is born

Jo - posted on 06/04/2010

we have the donut seat for our little guy. i sit him on it throughout the day, he just sits there and points out big bird, cookie monster, and elmo on the seat. No action yet, but im hoping that this will make him more comfortable siting there later on.

Margie - posted on 06/01/2010

I wouldn't push it if she's not into it yet. I just started potty training my 19month old son too. It's been going really well. We are using both the ring and the potty seat too. I made a huge deal when we bought the potty seat and before I introduced it we read a bunch of books about the potty so he already knew about it and was excited. You could try getting her some books about the potty from the library - there are a lot out there. My son liked one called the Princes Potty (I think there is one for Princesses too - lol). I took out all kinds for him though and read them too him before we started the potty training and now I read him those and other books on the potty and make a really big deal when he uses it (clapping, singing songs, getting treats etc.) Good luck! Oh another thing you could try is putting her dolls our stuffed toys on the potty and acting the whole thing out with sound effects and pouring some water in the potty - sounds crazy but that worked well especially for the normal potty.

Monica - posted on 06/01/2010

My daughter is nowhere near afraid of everything lol that is the overstatement of the decade! I don't really care to defend myself to you but yeah in my opinion you came off like u kno better and everyone does the wrong thing. Like I said if u haven't potty trained a child yet u can't really demean ppl like that, or ever would be better

Heidi - posted on 06/01/2010

Wow! Monica! So aggressive! Whoa!
I didn't say anyone was lazy or make any insults, and if my post had a negative tone then I apologize. I certainly didn't mean to sound egotistical and I don't believe I did.
First off, I don't think that because some "experts" having some books published makes it true. Heck, I could publish a book too and you think I'm a moron!
Secondly, YES- it is difficult to make the commitment to run your child to the potty every time they need it. It is a lot easier to say, "Oh, I'll change you AFTER we leave the check out lane... AFTER I sign for my package from UPS, AFTER I finish carving the Thanksgiving turkey" than it is to say "When you say potty I drop everything and run you to the toilet immediately".
In fact, I have friends with multiple children who have told me honestly and openly, "With a toddler and a baby I simply don't have time to run Daniel to the toilet every half hour, he will have to stay in diapers as long as possible out of convenience". So YES, I am saying that potty training is more inconvenient than changing a diaper.
You ask me how old my daughter is now... if you had really read my post with an open mind then you would already know that.
Last time I checked, Circle of Moms was a place to share DIFFERENT opinions and parenting styles with other mothers, that is what I did. Your job is not to attack anyone who has a different point of view than yours. Look at what you wrote to me! You should be ashamed of yourself to talk to people like that, even if they are just strangers on the internet. If your daughter is afraid of everything it might be because her mother has scared the shit out of her! You sure do scare the hell out of me.

Monica - posted on 05/31/2010

also, how would waiting for something create fear??? It's called the fear of the unknown but some kids will adapt differently to it based on their personalities. And um u actually think helping your child to the bathroom is more inconvienient than changing a diaper?!??! Lmao!!! Everybody talking here WANTS their children potty trained, really don't think they see it as an inconvienience!!! I think you can give advice like this when you've actually potty trained a child lol. Even then, how bout trying not to insult ppl because for some crazy reason you think your way is better than 99% of others

Monica - posted on 05/31/2010

omg yeah rite. woopdeedoo for you, you're daughter does it early. Most books say to start at 18 months. Lmao i can't believe you're suggesting that all these ppl are lazy, get a life. My daughter IS afraid to sit on the potty, she was afraid of her bath for 16 months!!! i must be super lazy lol. Your comment is not exactly constructive critisism... How old is your daughter now?? If she's still not potty trained yet, what is your point?? LOL BTW it's really not that hard to "run" your child to the toilet LOL but i guess u must feel it's inconvienient??

Heidi - posted on 05/31/2010

I am always shocked at peoples attitudes towards potty training. Children are so intelligent, they understand and can do so much. Most children are beginning to understand the concept of mathematics (1 ice cream + 1 ice cream = 2 ice creams) before the age of two, yet we underestimate their ability to sit on the john!

My opinion is that people wait TOO long to sit their little ones on the potty, which creates fear. I started my daughter at 9 months and my husband or I always sit on the toilet with her, so she loves it. She isn't potty trained yet (19 m.o.), but she goes pee pee and poo poo on the potty 2-3 times a day and she isn't afraid to sit on it. We sing a potty song when she is successful and I allow her to flush the toilet.

I wonder if a lot of parents wait so long to potty train because they secretly don't want to have the commitment of running their child to the toilet at every inconvenient moment.

Sara - posted on 05/30/2010

just wait... my daughter didnt potty train til 2 1/2... they will do it when they r ready

Christine - posted on 05/29/2010

I would WAIT! She is not ready. Just start talking to her alot about the potty. Have her come in there with you and discuss each step of using the potty and wiping and flushing, etc. Also, when you change her diaper discuss that she is wet or dry, try to get her to tell you she has to go pee pee or poo poo. I wouldnt try til after she is 2.

Kim - posted on 05/29/2010

My daughter doesn't sit on her's either. She likes to store things in it. I figure as long as she's using it for something, she'll eventually figure it out. She's just now getting to where she even tries to take her diaper off or cares when it's wet, so I guess I still have a little time before she's ready.

Danielle - posted on 05/29/2010

Don't rush it.. she is young and still getting used to it. Mine took her dipe off today, sat on it for a minute, then got up and pooped next to it! LOL!! It happens!! My first daughter was so much easier to train!

Erica - posted on 05/29/2010

I know it's kind of stressful because it seems like everyone says, " I started potty training at 18 months." But my 19 month old is like yours. She only tells me after she goes in her diaper sometimes. And she has NO problem with poop or pee being in her diaper. She couldn't care less. I just think some are ready sooner than others.

Monica - posted on 05/29/2010

@tisha... get him bigboy underwear and maybe if he gets wet a couple times he'll want to be a real big boy!! If he sits on the potty and knows what it is who knows, it might work!

Tisha - posted on 05/28/2010

I don't know how to potty train my son...He seems ready he's taken off his pamper but I'm thinking it's gunna get messy without his pamper on!!!

Monica - posted on 05/28/2010

haha yeah mine screams if i try!! i just explain to her what it is and try to put her on it once in awhile. She says peepee now while i'm changing her diaper and points to her u-know-where lol so i think it's coming gradually. sucks that she's scared of the potty tho LOL. I don't have any ideas for this age, i think they need to adapt to it a bit more first, then we can start the reward system and all that stuff. You'll know just go with the flow.... LOL ♥

Lisa - posted on 05/26/2010

Well my 19 month old uses her potty as a chair to watch the TV she sometimes, Now she tells me when she has pooped her diaper but I cant get her to use the potty yet. Im just being patient

Mylene - posted on 05/26/2010

she's not ready. just leave the potty there for her to play with and get used to. wait for her to be ready. if you force her it will turn into a power struggle

Dawn - posted on 05/25/2010

leave her for a month and don't force her to use the potty or the toilet, and try again later. She's not ready yet.

Samantha - posted on 05/25/2010

Potty training can be easy or it could be long and painful. My daughter hates the potty but she likes to mimic me so that helps allot. Try letting her play with the potty. My daughter loves to put toilet paper (only toilet paper because that is what mommy puts in the potty) and then flush it. Rewards can help allot. Also is she able to tell you she has to go or has just gone. My daughter grabs at her diaper as a way of telling us she is wet. She does not understand what the potty if for but we are trying to put her on it when she tells us she needs changed. If you can get her even once to use it (whether she does it by herself or you put her on it) then reward her and celebrate. This should make her feel special for what she just did. If you can get her to do it again later then reward her and celebrate again. She will quickly or slowly (depending on the baby) figure out why you are rewarding her so she will continue to use the potty so she can get rewarded more. As she gets older make the rewards appropriate to her age. If she does use her diaper DO NOT scold her but do not reward her. This makes it so there is only one way to get rewards and by NOT yelling at her she is more comfortable. There is a time and place and age to use punishments but she is too young to be punished for this. I didn't learn to use the potty until I was three but my cousin's daughter has used to potty twice already and she is about 19 months. By the way accidents do happen but do not be discouraged these will eventually stop (may be in a few days or years depending on how aware she is that she has to use the potty and whether she cares that she is wet.) Be patient and it will eventually happen. Once she is fully potty trained SLOWLY stop the rewards because once she starts school they are not going to reward her. Best of luck.

Alyson - posted on 05/24/2010

my daughter started going on the potty because when we got up in the morning i would bring her in the bathroom with me and we would both go pee. then when she did she got to flush, wash her hands, and then put a sticker on her "potty stickers chart"

for the next three days she wouldnt pee in her diaper and wanted to go on the potty every five minutes... but now shes not that into it anymore!

dont give up and keep trying! try rewards like ice cream and stickers. you can make a chart for you and one for her and you each get a sticker every time you go and she will see what you are doing when you get stickers and then she will want them too!!!

Rachel - posted on 05/24/2010

My daughter will sit on it but then she stands up and tinkles on the floor beside it! Every kid is different and will learn at their own pace.

First thing in the morning I sit her on it and pour warm water in her hand to make her tinkle. Then the whole world has to come look. Hoping that will work for us more then just in the morning.

Good luck with yours!

Marisa - posted on 05/23/2010

Ditto to much of the advice above - for lots of kids, 19 months is too early. If she's not interested, don't force the issue. My daughter (also 19mo) recently became INSISTENT that she use the potty and want to wear big girl underwear. Only then did we start trying to get her to use the toilet on a regular basis. (She now goes potty when at home, but we still put diapers on out of the house/at night. When out, we still take her to the toilet, but it's 50/50 whether she remembers to tell us or not when we're out).

Robyn - posted on 05/23/2010

Check out the Contented Little Baby - Potty training in one week by Gina Ford. It's great. Basically says, if they're not ready, there's not much point! Good luck, it's much easier if you just let it happen!

Rebecca - posted on 05/22/2010

Also my son gets treats if he just sits on it, he doesnt have to go.. His favorite thing is to flush the big potty, thats usually his incentive to sit on the potty

Rebecca - posted on 05/22/2010

She is still young.. dont worry and dont force it.. let her see you do it and try and put her on the potty while you are.. Kids love doing what you are doing.. every time mommy or daddy goes potty my son goes with us and sits on his potty sometimes he goes and loves it and sometimes he gets on and is ready to get right back off.. She will figure it out in her own time.. No worries

Ellen - posted on 05/22/2010

Don't worry about it! She'll do it when she's ready! It's nothing to stress about. You don't want it to be a scary thing for her to do. My 19 month old son just started liking to do it, but I think it's because he sees his big sister go on the big potty. He hated it the first couple times, but now he likes to just sit on it on the toilet and it's his idea. I know it's hard, but you just have to let them tell you when they're ready! Good luck :-)

Deserae - posted on 05/18/2010

maybe shes not ready u dont want to scare her and make a big deal let her watch u or even older siblings on the potty and just keep in mind she will let u know when she is ready one thing i did was get a book on it and read it to her and let her look at the pics in it so she and see and hear about it and when she does sit on it with out making crying give her a treat hope it works hang in there and keep trying

Tiffany - posted on 05/17/2010

mine does the same
we've had it a few momths now, and we were hoping sometime in the next month or 2 to start her on it... but she just HATES it.
to get her used to it, we've been sitting her on it before bath time every night, hoping one time she'll pee in it, and if we give her the priase for peeing, she'll catch on that its a good thing.
but no
she hates it
she cries and tries to stand up and cling onto my neck everytime we try

Im out of ideas

Anna - posted on 05/17/2010

Thanks for the help!

Leah - posted on 05/17/2010

I agree with Lisa. My 19 month old daughter is not interested in toilet training yet they will let you know when. Like she might start to let you know when she needs to do a wee or poo by saying 'wee-wee' or 'poo-poo' or say 'potty'. She might start taking her nappies off when they are wet or soiled. Let her play with the potty don't make an issue of it, my daughter plays with ours all the time so she isn't scared of it but she isn't keen to use it yet. If you do sit her on the potty read her a story she likes and overly praise her for sitting on it even if she hasn't done anything in it. And yes let her watch you on the toilet so she can understand what you have to do and what it is used for. And understand that kids don't start to control their bladder and bowels until 2 years old.

Good luck and all the best.

Minnie - posted on 05/17/2010

So don't worry about it. Last thing you want to do is make an issue.

Let her watch you in the bathroom, talk about it, announce when you need to go, and stop worrying.

No healthy adults are in diapers.