People not liking baby Name?

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what if ur parents and family dont like the name u picked out ? what do u think i should do ? should i keep it or change it ?

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Kim - posted on 11/19/2011

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We had our girls names narrowed down to three and were having a hard time with boy name. NO BODY liked the names we had picked out that we loved and had me second guessing my own childs name! Well we found out we are having a boy and when we decide what we are going to name him, we are not telling ANYONE! I don't care if anyone else likes it, it's our baby and we will name him what we choose to!

Kathryn - posted on 10/04/2011

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it should be what you want it to be, its ok to have there input but ultimitly its your decision

Tiffany - posted on 09/28/2011

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KEEP IT!!! i looooved the name Lola Olivia but i got so many " oh thats a stripper name" that i changed the name i loved bc ppl made me feel bad about it. So now with our 2nd im not telling ppl what the names we have picked out r.

Leah - posted on 05/31/2011

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I have people who didn't like my sons name but Draven is almost 2 so they just had to deal with it. They had their own kids and got to name them whatever they wanted why can't we. I like uncommon names because mine was uncommon in school. Instead of having to have a nickname for teachers to tell me apart they just had my name. One thing I was told which is great advice: Go out side scream your childs full name 3 times and if you still like it keep it. Real world practice.

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Jessica - posted on 12/20/2011

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go with what you like not with what other people think you should name your child my boyfriends parents didn't like any of the names we picked for our daughter so when we found one we could both agree on we kept it a secret until the day she was born she is almost 2 now her name is Delanie and everyone liked it.. good luck (:

Lori - posted on 12/19/2011

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I made the mistake of asking everyone's opinion. Everyone except my mother in law loved it. She made her opinion known every chance she got!! It was an aggravation to me that I didn't need at the time. But now she says she can't imagine calling him anything else. Jonah fits him perfectly! So go with your gut! It's your child!

Claire - posted on 12/18/2011

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Keep it!! My cousins sister hates how people are about names so she never tells anyone except the dad what they are naming their babies until after they are born. People have issues with keeping their mouths shut. I named my daughter Gemmalyn, Gemma for short, and believe me some people had a negative opinion that got on my nerves, but didnt stop me from naming her what we wanted!!

Katie - posted on 12/17/2011

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Fuck em. Im sorry but I had people laugh at my son (Gage's) name. and I really did not care..too bad they will get use to it. or shut up about it! Never change what you love!!

Denikka - posted on 12/01/2011

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I never had anyone tell me they didn't like my kids names, but I frequently got told that they were too long.

Torin Christopher John David Grant-Quail and Linnaea Lynn June Grant-Quail.

I don't really care. I liked the way they sounded all put together and, with picking kinda unique names (Torin and Linnaea), if the kids don't like them later in life, they have plenty of options in middle names to choose from.

It's no one's business other than the parents. Others can weigh in, but YOU are the one writing the name on the form, and YOU are the one who may have to deal with your kid in the future.



FWIW, I also have my next boys and girls names picked out:

Roanan Nicholas Micheal Grant-Quail and Phyrne (Fern) Robin Mai Grant-Quail.

Everyone thinks those names are too long also :P and no one really likes them, but tough titties XD

Kkaytlynn - posted on 11/28/2011

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I am having a baby girl and I am only thirteen. My mum and Dad are happy for me but when I told them what I am going to call her they just started calling me a slut and everything. What is wrong with the name Lillie-Belle?

Jenna - posted on 11/28/2011

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I have had the same problem, everybody had something to say about the names that I have on shortlist. Hubby nad myself have made a decision and we have taken the 2 names we like best (non related 2 family) and we are sticking to it. My thoughts about the subject is... as long as u feel comfortable calling your child's name in the middle of the playground and you really do love the name or the meaning stick to it. Family and friends will gradually start liking and loving it... dare to be a lil diffrent.. Good luck =)

Lisa - posted on 11/28/2011

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This is the exact reason we don't announce the baby's name until he/she is born. We did it with my son and are now keeping our daughter's name to ourselves until she's born (early January). When I was pregnant with my son I would slip here & there and would ALWAYS be reminded why I keep my names to myself. No one will give you a negetive comment once their holding your bundle of joy.

Reece - posted on 11/27/2011

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Since I'm not telling them til he's born, I don't have to deal with this thankfully. I had enough of that with my oldest son. A lot of 'racial' complaints about his name

West - posted on 11/26/2011

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my husband made me name our first daughter after his mom. I wanted to name her alexandra but it's Robyn and I secretly hate her name cause I dislike his mom. Make it a name you won't hate calling out

Stacey - posted on 11/24/2011

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I had the same problem with my first daughter, i did the silly thing and told everyone the name i had picked and they all had something different to say about it, My mother and family loved the name i had picked and i was dead set from the second i found out the sex on Bailey Jade, But then my partners mother did not like it and her and all her friends who worked at the hospital i was in ALL turned me against the name i picked saying it was a boys name and she did not suit it, and she needed a pretty name, So i then went on to call her Kayla Jade which i am really regretting now because when i come to think of it her grandmother practically picked her first name.
I am now 18 weeks on my second child and my partner and i have decided to keep our names to ourselves this time and we are not going to tell anyone until our child is born and named that way everyone can keep all their negative views to themselves and we get to call our child the that name we love....

Jessica - posted on 11/23/2011

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Keep it as long as it's not a name that will get you child made fun of. It's your baby ♥ congrats

Candi - posted on 11/22/2011

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Keep it..people didn't like what we named our daughter. They will get use to it

Kelly - posted on 11/15/2011

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Ithas nothing to do with them. If they really cared they'd pretend to like it anyway. My brother's name is Vaughan, and his father's family call him Sam.Kinda pisses me off a bit.When my mum got pregnant the first time, her then father-in-law, sat her down and told her who all his kids were named after and why, and what he expected her children to be called. She listen politely and then told him "that's nice, you've called your children what you want to, I'll name my kids what I want."

Katy - posted on 11/14/2011

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I would come up with possible other names and decide when the baby arrives. They may look more like a Ryan then a Nick (just throwing random names out there) when they are born. Just dont announce the name unless you are dead set on it. It is after all YOUR kid you get to name them.

Dawn - posted on 11/13/2011

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oh honey it is not there choice and there opinion should not matter, my mil tried to change our expecting baby's name and i told her her opinion dont matter it is your baby not there's. if you and hubby agree keep it

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They will love the baby no matter what its name is. That baby(name) will become its own person and their questioning it will go away.

Katherine - posted on 11/11/2011

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The only people that need to be happy with the name you've chosen is you and your hubby. My mother-in-law didn't like our son's name (Tristan) and my mother doesn't like the name we've selected for the daughter we're expecting (Zelda). You can't make all your relatives happy, and you'll drive yourself crazy trying, and in the end, you'll be unhappy with the name they force you to choose. Choose what makes you happy. :-)

Jessica - posted on 11/10/2011

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Stick with what makes you happy!!! We picked out the name Cadence for my daughter and there were (and still are) people (in my family as well as not) that cant pronounce it, wont spell it right, or even say it right. I just correct them and smile :-) and its not because they dont know. The ony person was a very close family member that had to be told until she was about 9 mo. old how to spell it. and that was after she finally learned how to say it. I was really upset that someone would be so hurt ful on purpose, bc to me it seemed like it had to be on purpose!

to me it doesnt matter what anyone thinks. there will always be a critic on something in your life, picking out a name for your child should be one of the most exciting things about this process, keep your head on that not what someone thinks about you for it :-)

Aniesha - posted on 11/08/2011

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None of their business. It's your child, so stick with what makes you happy!

Alexa - posted on 11/08/2011

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You are the one that has to live the decision, if its what you want then do it.

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if you like it, and your SO (if applicable) likes it, and it's not something that might embarrass the child when he/she is older, then ignore them, they can get over it.

MacKenzie - posted on 11/07/2011

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I have the same problem. I think that they had their time to chose names for their kids, now it's your turn. My family is judgmental on EVERYTHING! If you're too worried about pleasing everyone else, you will never be happy.

Tasha - posted on 11/07/2011

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Well honestly Christina it doesn't really matter what your parents and family think. Sounds a bit harsh I know, but it's the truth. It's your child, you're the one giving birth and raising him/her so it's your right to name your baby whatever you please. As long as it's not too far out there and embarrassing for the child when they grow up.

Jacklyn - posted on 11/06/2011

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You are naming YOUR child not there child. Do you go around telling your family what to name there child? don't think you do. I have that issue also people telling me i should spell it differently and telling me i should name her after them and so on. Don't please other people Please yourself. life is alrady complicated.

Ashley - posted on 11/06/2011

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i had this problem where my family did not like my sons name, Brycen Maxwell. It is your child so it is your decision in the end. With my pregnancy now i am just not telling anyone the name ive chosen until the day she is born so then there is not any problems with my family and her name. I say DEFINETLEY KEEP IT!!!!!

Erica - posted on 11/03/2011

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I with no one had to go through this, but I'm glad to see we weren't the only ones. My sons are Teagan and Declan and we have received a lot of unsolicited opinions. We didn't back down and it was totally worth it. Our families are used to their names now and I have no regrets.

Juniper - posted on 11/01/2011

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It's easy for someone to judge a name with no face. I know some people that when they heard the name of a new family member said "what were they thinking?" but in every case once they meet the child it doesn't matter if they like the name or not it's the child they will come to love.
It can be hard on you to keep liking a name after knowing someone close (like a Mom) doesn't like it. In that case keep your names private till you introduce the newbie.
:)

Danielle - posted on 10/30/2011

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Ive been having this problem with my husbands side of the family. Our daught has two middle names and they are always harping on us about why she does and how hard it will be for her once shes older and it drives me crazy. My husbad finally told them hey its our daughter so this is how it will be.I agree its yalls kids so they will have to accept what you chose for a name

Amy - posted on 10/28/2011

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I really dont care what anyone thinks of the name that we chose they had their chance to choose now its yours if they dont like their name when they are older they can change it them selfs. We named our first son Wyatt and our second son will be Remington and I dont care what people think

Desiree - posted on 10/27/2011

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i know how that is. definetly stick to the name you and your spouse picked. Everyone in my family & husbands family are constantly asking us why we picked the name Thatcher (for this next baby, whos sex is unknown right now...its a surprise) but who cares. go with what you want.

Juliet - posted on 10/26/2011

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Maybe you could pick a family related middle name and then select your own first name!

Jenn - posted on 10/21/2011

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With my first child i shared the name and everyone said they hated it and i ended up changing it to please everyone else. Im pregnant with my second child now and my husband and i decided we werent going to tell anyone anything. I told them i would find out the sex of the baby but the name was going to be a surprise. Some people gave me a hard time so i tell them that i havent decided on a name yet and the perfect name would come to me as soon as i saw his face when the truth is, i have the perfect name already. Keep the name you have if you wanna save yourself from the complaints just tell everyone your still thinking. i regret changing my daughters name. I loved the name. go with your instincts!

Tyarria - posted on 10/19/2011

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My opinion is that it is your child and if you like the name then go ahead and name your child that name!!

Jo - posted on 10/19/2011

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It is really up to you, if they hate the name so much they can always give the baby a nickname.

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2011

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I have legit changed my son's name about several times due to the fact that my family and friends keep makin me absolutly hate the names that i once loved . the best thing to do is pick a name you love and wait until the baby is born to tell everyone . because naming my son has been so stressful ! ive finally picked a name and its one that ive loved since the beginning of my pregnancy =)

Julia Bailey - posted on 10/18/2011

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Well if you have your heart set on it then keep it! its your baby NOT theirs! if you had other names im mind though then i would maybe think about changing it

Ann - posted on 10/15/2011

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Honestly I have chosen uncommon names for my kids and whether other people like the name or not i am going to keep it.. it is your child so it is your choice. My oldests name is Jerica and my sons name is Ruger and we have another girl due on the 14th of dec and we are naming her Rory

Sammy - posted on 10/12/2011

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I went through this when we picked out my son's name. No one in my family liked it because the name was different and my son was named after my husband's grandfather. His middle name was named after my husband's best friend, who later became my best friend as well. We ignored what my family said and kept the name we liked. We also told my family that if they didn't like his name then they didn't have to be a part of his life. Soon after telling them that all arguments about his name ended. Do what feels best to you. If you like the name you picked out stick with it.

WolfMoon - posted on 10/12/2011

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I already know my family's not gonna like the names we've picked out. they're a mix of uncommon and old names. We love them, so we're keeping them; and not telling until the child comes. Family can give nicknames later if they want. Bottom line is that it's up to you. Do yall love the names you've picked out? If so, then who cares?

Kristen - posted on 10/10/2011

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When I was preggo with my 1st, I was set and in love with the name Annabelle, but my family talked me out of it saying it was a cows name :( I regret it, but I do LOVE my daughters name now and wouldnt change it. I picked a biblical name for my 2nd and no one commented on that thankfully. This time around we picked something unique and were keeping it to ourself because the few people we have told have been really negative about it, we love the name so were keeping it to ourselves so other people dont ruin it for us. Not everyone needs to know EVERY detail about the baby till he/she comes ;)

Juli - posted on 10/10/2011

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I say Keep it. It's you baby not theirs. When I was 1st pregnant with this one before we knew what it was we had picked out a girls name (Julia Dian) that my adopted mom disapproved of because my daughter Karalynn is named after my givin name (Kari Lynn) that was changed due to adoption and she doesn't think I should have 2 kids named after me in a way. (it wasn't set on until she read me the riot act about it) we then decided to name it that name if it was a girl. It terns out we are having a boy (Raymond Henry) but have that name picked out for any little girl we have in the future LOL. It is your baby, your family and your choice. You name you little blessing what you want. I figure my daughter is a part of me and is my legacy. When I'm gone I will live on through them and their memory of me why not name them after myself in a way (not exactly since they are not me.

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