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Thanksgiving Mis-Givings?

Celeste - posted on 11/19/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a very opinionated mother who LOVES to make comments to my sister and me about how to raise our children or what we are doing wrong. While I dislike this greatly it is easier for me to let these comments roll off, it is not so easy for our spouses. Can you suggest a tacktful way to respond to these little "constructive criticisms" so as not to offend my mother and bring unwanted stress to an already tense family gathering? My husband is known to "go off" if pushed to much, especially when it comes to his kids... what kinds of things might he say instead of "LAY OFF!" LOL

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Jennifer - posted on 11/22/2010

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Every Thanksgiving my mother-in-law gets a couple of glasses of wine in her and starts making crazy racist and political comments. She also starts talking about my husband's ex-girlfriends. It is terrible! I just go into the other room and she passes out after a while. We already banned her from bringing her alcoholic boyfriend to family holiday dinners.

Stacy - posted on 11/21/2010

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it's oposite for me, it's my mother in law that is opinionated, but still it's my hubby that tends to go off. She and I had to sit down and i told her that we would follow the traditions of whomevers home we are in. We do some things her way and some mine, but i did tell her that any comments on how i raise my child are to be said one on one, not in front of any one else.

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2010

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I tell my mother things have changed since she had me 27 years ago and leave it at that. I also tell my husband to just ignore her. He does pretty well at it because he knows I just let what she says go in one ear and out the other.....LoL.

Krystle - posted on 11/19/2010

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hmmmm my mom is the same way, lol, so I feel your pain! I had to tell my mom basically..."I know you love me and only care about my family, but I need you to trust me on this one. If you have any suggestions, please tell me and no one else and we should follow the cardinal rule...if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything...I love you!" LOL, those weren't the exact words but it was something along those lines. Trust me, it wasn't a very easy conversation, and to be honest I don't think that any conversation where you're telling your own mom that she's basically wrong about--ANYTHING--is said to be easy at all. But if it's something that needs to be said, then you gotta say it or regret not saying something later when your husband blows up on her, lol...
Good luck, hun!
If you need to vent you could always join my community, "Mommas under stress"
Let us know how it goes...

~Krystle Bawiga

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