Experience Mom of teenaged daughters happy to help & give advice

GIna - posted on 10/02/2012

I have two teen girls. My daughter is 15.5 and my step daughter is 16.5..And they are best friends. Yeah for me.

When my step daughter got her license, it was like an instant freedom for them together.This past summer has been riddles with issues, and things they have only got caught doing. I'm so upset over this. I need some insight please!!

Beverly - posted on 09/14/2010

I am having trouble getting my 16 year old daughter to show responsibility for her actions. As any teen she feels everything should revolve around her. I cant even trust her to watch her 6 year old brother two evenings a week while I am at work. I have had to bring in a babysitter to just make sure dinner gets made and they are ready for school the next day. She is, of course, all about attention and the boys. I have tried every method I know to get through to her and am now at a loss. We can talk, she will listen, the next day it is as if the conversation never happened. Total disregard of my authority and I am the only authority being a single mom who works full time. I am in need of some new methods and advice.



Last week I actually visited a friend for a few hours. My phone died while I was there. I didnt check it because at that time it just wasnt thought about. My mistake, I will be the first one to admit it. I had dinner laid out to cook, told her what was to be done until I got back. She took it upon herself to call everyone I knew and told them I just took off, I am never there, and there was no food in the house. She had people out looking for me. When I got home, my neighbor was here cooking dinner with her food she brought from her house. I was so embarrassed at the drama that took place. My daughter took one mistake of mine and totally used it to her advantage.



At this point, I am not about to give in. Events like the above example are common and this is how she gets out of responsibility. What am I to do now? I cannot give in to avoid confrontation.

Linda - posted on 03/11/2009

OMG!!! I just spent an hour spilling my guts about a situation I am having with my teenage daughter. I did not know to join tthe communtity before hand and when I did the whole post I wrote was deleted. I am to tired to type it all over again. i rally do need the input of other mothers. I will try to re-post my problem tommarrow night. If any one reads this and would like to chat I will stay up for a few more miinutes to see if I get a respnse. Thank you.......

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2009

Sue,

Thanks so much for creating this communty! I have two daughters ages 12 and 13 and need the advice from time to time of someone who's actually been there. Luckily, I haven't had any really big issues yet, but I'm so nervous about the high school years (my oldest will be starting this fall). Yikes!

Thanks again,

Michelle (in TX)

Laurie - posted on 02/17/2009

Oh so glad this was created!!! My daughter is 12 going on 30!!! I love her so much, she is just like a Best friend. But maybe too much. Sometimes she tells me things I think she should keep to herself..LOL!!! Can't wait to read about others...

Suzanne - posted on 02/11/2009

hi my names suzanne, my daughter is 14. i live in westyorkshire england. i also have 2 boys 12 6. my girl is a typical moody (all though moods got better with her periods) sulky stamp your feet ass of a teenager . am i glad i only have to go through girl hair in funny places once.im going to need advice and i can give it . i have a good relationship with all my kids (i hope).

Sue - posted on 02/11/2009

Hi Laura,

Thankyou very much for bein the first to post a Thread on this community, i am sure and very much hopin that there will plenty of other mums postin on this conversation.

I live in the UK in Essex, have 2 daughters 20 and 16 the older one has left home so i still have the younger one to deal with and i have an 8yr old boy. In a relationship for 2yrs but before that woz dealing with the kids on my own, not easy.

Look forward to hearing from yourself and other mums.

Take care

Sue