1 year old still sleeps with mom.

Sabrina - posted on 04/20/2010

All I can say is good luck! My 2 1/2 year old and I still share a bed & my almost 4 yo and my hubby share a bed as well...

Leanne - posted on 01/23/2010

The best way to avoid this issue is to have your child sleeping in their own bed long before one years old.
Since you didn't, it may be tough to get them into their own bed.. But stick with the choice you have made and be persistent! I'm sure you will figure it out. :)

My son has been sleeping on his own since he was around four months old. We slowly started letting him sleep in our bed less and less over a month and by five months old he was all on his own.
I believe that having your children in your bed with you and your bf/husband can be kind of harmful to your relationship.. It's difficult to be intimate with a little one in between you. xD

Sharlee - posted on 01/20/2010

My children have always slept in my bed. My oldest moved into his own bed around 3. I don't believe children should be forced to sleep alone in another room. I believe this is cruel, as babies naturally crave comfort and closeness. Putting them in another room is for the parents' convenience only, and for the most part, it isn't convenient. Unless there's other circumstances, like you needing to take medication to sleep, then why force your kid to sleep alone? Why not wait until they are ready?

Kathryn - posted on 11/06/2009

it is a one night at a time thing but i would say put him in his own bed and when he gets out of bed to get into your just calmly put him back in his bed. Please make sure you explain to him before han what is going to happen. it is a long and tiring process, with a lot of tears from them but over all it works... (i explained to my son 'you are a big boy and big boys sleep in thier own beds they dont sleep with mommy') at least it did for me. took my son 3 nights to finally stop. At the same time he started when he was about 11 months (he started walking at 10 months) and i finally put my foot down at 18 months.

Taylor - posted on 10/06/2009

i was having the same problem from my son who is a little older then one. What I did to break him out of this habit is let him fall alseep with me. Then lay him in his crib and when he wakes up i go outside his bedroom door and let him cry it out. I put a timer on how long i let him cry for bout every 8 mins i would go in there and soothe him and lay him back down and go back to my spot outside and after 15 to 20 mins he would go to sleep and stay there all night. It took a couple days to accomplish it about 4days. And every time it breaks your heart but i stood strong cause i knew i was doing the right thing. And now he sleeps in his bed the entire night without waking up. Whenever he gets shots from the doctor or is feeling sick i will let him sleep with me but as soon as he feels better i restart the process and get him back in his bed. But if you choose this method dont stay in the room with him, go outside the door so u can listen and make sure he or she is ok. but staying in the room seems to fuel the fire and they wont go down. Good Luck!!!!

Kerri - posted on 09/19/2009

your screwed you should have started him sleeping in his own bed a LONG time ago!!!

Lee - posted on 09/16/2009

hey there,
reading all the replies, i have to agree with jesse... i did nearly the same thing. we used a co-sleeper (like a crib that has one rail down, and straps to the parents bed) from birth, and whenever the little one has a nap, i put him in there. did the same with his sister, and SLOWLY weaned her from sleeping essentially in my armpit to sleeping in the cosleeper. this took a while to figure out how to move her over into 'her' bed. once she was sleeping there most of the time most nights, we detatched the cosleeper and raised the side (it becomes like a normal crib) and slowly inched it farther and farther away from our bed. eventually we were able to move it into her own room. i was able to do that with my daughter by the time she was about one (a four month process, i'd estimate) and my son is just starting to sleep in the cosleeper for parts of the night now... and he's 9 months already. depending where you live and the size of your bedroom, there are cribs you can let the side down on and attach to a bed as well.... or having a kiddie bed or twin bed that matches in height may be the solution!
hope that gives you more ideas. good luck!

Amy - posted on 09/16/2009

Well I'm one to be answering this because I let my four year old crawl into bed with me...a lot! But that's because I work a lot and it's more about me wanting him with me. That said there is a GREAT book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." The tactics seem ruthless, but if done consistently and with love, they work like a charm. But, YOU have to want him to sleep in his bed and not give in to the cuddles like I do. Good luck.

Rachel - posted on 04/17/2009

It started for me at about 18months. My daughters separation anxiety is mostly at night and she won't sleep with out me or my husband at least in the house. I tried sitting by her bed and holding her hand or rubbing her back until she calmed down enough to sleep. When that didn't work I'd put her in my bed until she was good and asleep and then take her to her own bed and leave a light on. If she wakes and is not in the right place there can be screaming. Some nights it works; some it doesn't. Good Luck

Jesse - posted on 01/14/2009

I hear you Michelle

I am a single Mom to. The thing was and is, what is going to work best in our lives. I didn't kick my kids out of my bed until it started to be problem, ie: I wasn't getting enough sleep.

So if you really want to do this just remember to approach it all as matter of factly as you can. Anything new we try as parents will go much more smoothly for everyone if we as the parents are calm about it all.

Even if you feel a bit conflicted about doing it see if you cant kind of ' talk yourself into it' if you see what I mean.

Anyway good luck. And remember there is a lot of experince available here and clearly we all are willing to help so just ask.

J

Michelle - posted on 01/14/2009

They have those? I'm definitely going to look into that right now :) Thank you.

Amy - posted on 01/13/2009

oohh, you could try buying one of those fetal sounds teddy bears..... since he sleeps on your chest..... it might help the process along :)

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2009

This is going to be hard but I figure get it done while he's not too use to it. I don't know how I'm going to do it. I am a single mom though and if I plan on getting out and dating I can't really have my son so attached to me lol. He will ONLY sleep on MY chest. I love him sleeping on my chest too but I can't ever do anything haha. Thank you two for the advise though, I will try anything.

Jesse - posted on 01/13/2009

You know I am a poor person to ask this question of because I had kids in my bed for a long time and we were all very happy there. That being said here's MY best answer.

Before you even start what ever process you decide on you have to decide how committed you are the idea. There will be resistance on ypur little guys part and maybe even a lot of resistance. So if this is something you really want commitment will carry you a long way

After going through this with 3 seperate kids the thing i have found worked the best for me was to have his bed in my room right beside my bed. I made sure the two beds were the same height and there was no gap between them, basiclly a continuation of my bed. When he is asleep just roll him over to his side. If he is a very light sleeper te way my oldest was crawl in with him until he is asleep.

The thing about doing it this way is that it is not a horrible shock to him but it is also fairly clear this is Kody's bed ( i snooped at your profile, very sweet boy) and he is capable of sleeping in it alone. I dont know how well it will work at one but at 18 months I did it this way and the fact that Willow ad her own bed with big girl bedding that was totally different than mine worked as bait.

You are a way braver woman than I am. I didnt even think about booting my kids out until they were at least 2!

Amy - posted on 01/12/2009

we're dealing with the same thing with our 3 y/o. has as been sleeping in our bed off and on until he could walk out of his toddler bed.  You just have to take it one night at a time.... We let ours fall asleep on the couch or whatever... usually beside one of us, then put him in his bed.  Here is where you can do it one of two ways... If he wakes up and comes to the bed in the middle of the night (I'm assuming that's whats happening,  you can 1- wake up, wait till he goes back to sleep, put him in his bed, then finally get some rest of your own (I did this for about a year......I was tired all the time!)  Or, you can just let him crawl into bed with you and let that be that.  Our 3 y/o now 'usually' sleeps in his own bed till about 5 am, or later if we're real lucky :)  The way I see it, Eventually, just like my other kids, he will get the hang of it.