How publicly are you open about being pagan?

Elizabeth - posted on 12/25/2008 ( 53 moms have responded )

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Just curious about how openly are most moms about being pagan. I know that me and a few new moms are curious about if you change how open you are after being a mom. I know that me and my friends before we were moms we were in newspapers and just flying that pagan flag high. But I began noticing that alot of pagan moms start calming down in the public eye as much. Prefect example. I had a friend who would lead public rituals. Newspapers would be there and such. She would even give an interview afterwards. This year she got her pic taken and went bananas about it. I looked at her and said it really doesn't make to much of difference because you are in all the papers from years before. So did you stop flying your pagan flag as high after becoming a mom? And if yes why?

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Jesse - posted on 12/25/2008

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I did not stop! In fact I got a bit more militant. I want to set the example for my daughters of being proud. The days oif hiding and practising in the dark should be long over. The way to combat ignorance and prejudice is with information . Gods know we see our share of prejudice . I find that once people understand that i am not a devil worshipping fiend, and in fact Do Not sacrifice small animals and children, that I am just as human as anyone else.

Teach by example i say.

Jessica - posted on 09/16/2011

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While I realize I may sound offensive, here the thing... I no longer care to coddle other perceptions of myself. I ams strong enough o handle it and for my children I will cast aside those things for a better future that I see in their eyes.

Precious - posted on 08/09/2011

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My facebook religion is eclectic pagan so I think its pretty public but I dont go around announcing it in public unless someone asks.

Jennifer - posted on 08/05/2011

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I don't hide it, but I don't go around announcing it to the world either. I guess I am in between. If someone asks me, I will answer them honestly. I wear a pentacle necklace and get questioned about it all the time. I tell the truth. I see no reason to hide it or lie about it. It does not reflect my abilities as a mom, and most of my friends know my daughter is Christian. She is 13, and made that choice for herself, and I support it. I am not overly involved in the pagan community, but that is partly because I live in a small town and devote most of my time to my kids instead of traveling to be involved.

Jessica - posted on 06/20/2011

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I am surrounded by churches (I am in my local church belt) and the only other pagan around (that I know of is my lady elder... also my roommate, and best friend)... and still I must say no. If anything it has spured me to show my pride and lack of shame in my path so that I do not teach them that it is OK to pick a path you are ashamed to show and talk about. Although... something bothers me about the "neo pagan" thing... no offense. I was taught the OLD OLD ways... so... I don't know much about the newer stuff... which actually bother me since a lot of the "neo pagans" say stuff I was taught "no" to... like curses...

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Lexi - posted on 03/14/2014

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i have a triquetra in a celtic knot tattooed on my right shoulder blade however i am not publicly opened about it. My mother also doesn't agree with it because she grew up christian and raised me christian so she doesnt understand why i follow the pagan path. I am not publicly open about it because i do not want to be ridiculed and misunderstood by others aswell

Lavender - posted on 12/26/2013

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I don't hide my beliefs but I also don't bring them up. If someone asks I will talk about them. I'm sure some of my beliefs shine through in the things I say from day to day...

People who really know me know.

Strangers, Co-workers, Acquaintances, Doctors, etc don't need to know - I also don't know what their beliefs are.

Heather - posted on 06/13/2013

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I have not yet given birth to my child but I am a loud and proud Pagan and I will never hide that fact. I will never feel ashamed about my beliefs and I will raise my child to never hide who they are.

Sabrina - posted on 12/03/2012

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Extremely open. I don't hide it from anyone! I've been attempting to start a Pagan fellowship group in town and my name, phone and email are on all the flyers... Can't really get much more open.

Alison - posted on 11/29/2012

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I haven't really thought about how open I want to be. I am out of the closet, but as my daughter ages, I will probably be putting on the bumper stickers and putting up the Pagan symbols where they are more noticeable. I'd like her to understand that people's religious beliefs, (whether Christian, Pagan or other) are responsible for the way they lead their lives and their moral convictions. It's a big part of who we are and it's not always possible or even a good idea to separate the two. By embracing changes within nature and showing her how we can celebrate them (banners, seasonal rituals and decorations outside the home, I will naturally be showing others my faith.

Arie - posted on 11/09/2012

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I live in a very atheist country and people don't like any open display of any spiritual path. I also tend to get annoyed when other people are too missionary about their beliefs, so I am low-key but I seek out other people with Pagan or similar beliefs. I don't hide my ritual stuff. My alter is in the living-room as are some prayer flags and a bind rune blessing burned into wood above our doorway. People do often ask about it and I am getting better at telling them in a short and sweet way. For me the hardest part was having a word for my beliefs. I was raised with an earth-based de facto Pagan spirituality and culture by my parents but they had no word for it and definitely hid it. They still refer to rituals simply as "woo woo", as in "It's the Solstice. We're going to do some woo woo." Ten years ago or so I discovered that we weren't alone and that there really are people out there who believe and worship like us and they call themselves Pagans, so I decided to accept that term. I have been using the modern Pagan names for the Sabbats more and more as well, simply because it is helpful to have a common language and I care much more about the substance than what things are called. Now, I'm running into the issue of when people wish me a Merry Christmas or a Happy Halloween, as they do because everyone simply assumes you are a non-religious, non-practicing Christian because that is what most people here are. So, I don't exactly know what I do. Previously I wished them "Joyous Yule and Merry Christmas" just to get it all in there. I sign my cards to family and friends "Joyous Yule, Happy Hanukkah and Merry Christmas" because we now have a Jewish branch of the family through marriage. Now, that I have children and the first is growing out of toddlerhood, I am starting to get a lot more conscientious about saying the Pagan terms for holidays and not just smiling and nodding when someone makes a mistake. My three-year-old is a bit confused about Samhain versus Halloween and Yule versus Christmas. I try to explain but it is hard when you are the only one around using our terms and everyone else says it different. I think that if we want to keep a tradition, we have to be particularly conscientious about using our own terms and being open. I know that neither of my brothers continued with the spirituality they were raised with and part of that was largely because without words or veyr solid traditions, it was simply easier to accept the majority culture.

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/16/2011

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That is a good thing to know that you are mentally strong enough for your children no matter what life throws your way, I can't speak for anyone else but nothing you have said has sounded offensive to me, it is just your opinion which you of course are more then entitled to have and share on such a discussion board as this. I believe that if anyone is secure enough in their own beliefs anything that is said should NOT "offend or "anger" people...anger is simply a form of hate which unfortunately - as proven by history - people who are afraid of what they do not know or understand often react in such hatred. I am sorry to hear that you have been victimized by such hatred, remember to stay strong and do not lower yourself to their level, for your kids and for yourself, that is the sign of true intelligence & respect.

Jessica - posted on 09/16/2011

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I am surprised anyone knew what I was talking about their. most don't know those details about the OLD ways... well most I have talked to anyway. Thing is, wiccan is just the modernized(though in some ways I personally feel it is also bastardized by the modern insecurities.. no offense to anyone...) version... to me, it is the same, just one version is older and I like the older version.

In the older version... if you do not learn how to fight, when given that chance, you are indeed responsible for what you cannot do because your actions made it so... it may be more complicated and more honor intensive... and slightly more strict(though also more flexible at the same time) but their was NO doubt who the healer was in those times.

If you cannot tell, I found my answers. My children are in danger of being tossed among the turbulent waters beyond my reach... and now I know my answers.

to me, both are Wicca, because both are priestess and both healer... just one is more socially excepted than the other. Our society doesn't allow for the kind of deep thinking the old stuff takes... and even will try to tell you it is wrong... but... anyway, I found my answer. I am a 2nd degree, and even have found a group like me... though we don't call it a coven per say... more like a "pack" or a family... and I only now realize how timid and scared I sounded.
By those ancient laws, my first duty IS to my children, and so it allows me to... make some decisions modern Wicca would not look far enough ahead to allow... not smashing modern Wicca.. but... it is younger and easier to become. Many who lack the perception and deepness of thought claim it as their own. Not the religion... but I am just saying.... I have been through so much that it seems immature to me, and the ancient rites of the healer were meant to be, intended for the protection and healing of the unit of people and the lady... meaning they have rules for things modern Wicca does not. My inner strength is finally free and unbound by my fear.

May my children grow up into a better tomorrow than my yesterday.

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/16/2011

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And @Stephanie Campbell, I know what you mean, started out Wiccan but found I related to the old traditional Pegan ways much more realistically in life...just a personal opinion as I later studied all world religions in school (& on my own) and no matter what have respect for all of them and do not disrespect or claim that any of them are wrong or right....actually I have kinda token bits and pieces of many older religions into my own for which I believe

Misty-Lynn - posted on 09/16/2011

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I don't hide it but don't announce it either....I live in a very small french Catholic community so I prefer not to get the weird/dirty looks or get brushed off like I'm saying it for attention or something - I've even been told that Paganism is something made up in the movies & not a REAL religion! But I don't hide the fact that I am not Catholic....usually if I'm asked I tell people, but it seems like people are a little afraid to question which religion you are now,,,afraid that it will offend them.
I use to be a little more open about it then I am now as a mom but not much as changed

Jessica - posted on 07/29/2011

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recently I have been re-evaluating how "open" I am. People I don't even know, are whispering "diablo" (means devil), and "watching" me. Some people pull their kids inside. The apartment managers changed the hours on the laundry room when I started doing my laundry at night. I already knew the world was like this.... but why, every time I am myself does it have to try to destroy me? Honest, and open people get destroyed in this world. purity cannot exist here.... then how does that part survive? I have taken to practicing my self defense and carrying weapons on me. I will defend myself, if it comes to that (and it almost has)... but I won't do anything permanent... just..... when will I be free to be open, honest, and not afraid of this world? When will this world stop trying to destroy me? sorry.... just....No I am not sorry about asking. I am sorry this world destroys every gift it is offered. Eve after everything, and having every reason to despise it, all I do is pity it... this sad, sad world that destroy's everything good in it..that is the only part humans, as a whole, show me. I know few individuals who manage to survive... but I wonder, will my children be destroyed too...?

Leanne - posted on 07/29/2011

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i'll mention it if i'm comfortable, or will answer honestly if asked. it's not out of fear or shame-i'm quite happy with my spiritual path. i just don't feel the desire to share with everybody. my son is being exposed to both pagan paths and christianity (thought at the moment he thinks of church as someplace mommom takes him to play lol), and he will be encouraged and supported in whatever spiritual path he chooses.

Ashley - posted on 05/17/2011

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I live in a very small area, made up of prodominately peoples of the Baptist faith but I don't hide my beliefs at all. I wear a Pentacle necklace that I have had since I started studying Paganism and sometimes I get dirty looks but I find that it opens discourse on the topic a lot of times. I also want my children to be proud of whatever path they may choose. My stepdaughter loves going to church and I don't discourage it, as I feel it is important to engage in a well rounded belief system and also for her to choose on her own what she believes. I do suppliment the experiences with Pagan beliefs about the lessons she learns and I even go to church with her. One thing my mom does not agree with is that I do where the necklace even when I take the kids to church but if I were to take the necklace off to go to church, then I would feel like I had to be ashamed of who I am and nobody should ever have to feel that way!!!! I am glad to see other mom's who are as proud of thier beliefs as I am!!!

Amber-Lee - posted on 05/09/2011

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I am still very open about my beliefs, if someone cares to ask. I stopped wearing my pentacle to the playground, and to playdates for my daughter thought. It seemed to freak out some of the people out here (insert small christian/morman town in Orgeon) to the point that they didn't want my daughter playing with there kid. So I found by taking it out of the equation it releaved a lot of the tension. After all, if their kids can't play with my daughter at all we would just be aiding in producing another generation full of fear and hate.

Kimberly - posted on 06/14/2010

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I never saw a reason to be any less open about it. I had my son blessed by a member of the local coven, was married by another member of the same coven, and have a Shaman/Druid husband. My son was supposed to be baptised/christened as well, but the preacher that I trusted to do it wasn't able to, so it's never been done. That was mostly for my Christian family members, but I figured the more blessings the better. We're raising our son to make the decision about his faith path on his own once he's older, so he's getting exposed to a good bit of both sides. And I'm still the pagan that trips out my family by having a minor in Religious Studies because I wanted to understand things better...much to several muttered comments of "but she's not a Christian so how can she get the minor?.."

Sabrina - posted on 04/19/2010

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Sorry, but I had to start a new profile! So I'm just going to copy my old answer!

"Very! I've been out of the closet since I was a young girl, much to the dismay of my family. And although it was a fight, I never backed down on my beliefs! Today I am proud and open about my beliefs! I don't shy away from questions and have no issue with people's comments or converse beliefs. Being the only Pagan in my area, I'm usually getting strange looks or comments... But I see it as a Pride thing! I'm Proud of who and what I am, and have no reason to hide it, even if others don't like it!"

Sabrina - posted on 04/07/2010

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Very! I've been out of the closet since I was a young girl, much to the dismay of my family. And although it was a fight, I never backed down on my beliefs! Today I am proud and open about my beliefs! I don't shy away from questions and have no issue with people's comments or converse beliefs. Being the only Pagan in my area, I'm usually getting strange looks or comments... But I see it as a Pride thing! I'm Proud of who and what I am, and have no reason to hide it, even if others don't like it!

Jessie - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think, honestly, that I am more open now than before. As many others have said, I am not "in your face" about my religion and I have learned a valuable lesson on allowing my children to discuss it with their friends, as we have had a few problems but I still wear my pent out and will answer with honesty if anyone asks. We also attend public rituals and festivals as a family and occasionally there are media crews there. We don't shy away from the cameras but we also don't seek them out to give interviews and answer questions either.

Lucy - posted on 03/15/2010

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Funny part is I was never openly Spiritual or religious before my children people did kinda know but I just told them I was non practising other than lighting candles which was true I was on a diffrent path...THEN I had family issues in regards to Religion and most of it was misunderings that took about 9 years to sort out...It was not easy... and if anything I have become far more open partly because I was forced to teach my children my ways so that they knew there were more than one option...It was not how I was raised and was a rude shock for me to experience... Religion and spirituality was always a personal choice while I was growing up.

I was also noting that Sarah in the article above me was saying that she could not be open or lose her children??? IF you are canadain wicca and Paganism is more and more accepted if they try to do that you can sue thier asses off for discriminaition and I would !!! Wicca is the Euroupeon Equilent to First nations Spiritualty they have NO right to tell you how to believe. THere are Legal Churches that are Wiccan that I know of that are capable of even performing marriages and all the finctions a church is supposed to perform !!!

How it came about was they used the same door that was created by the Jeohvah Witnesses and when they became a legal church I cant remeber how many years ago It left a way for other groups to do the same thing. Since another legally recognised church/circle had started in US they then could apply and use the Jehovah witness's as a precendent which alowed for us to then is we desired to start the same process here.

Wicca is a legally recognised Religion! that blew my Socks off ! IT opens doors for us to be able to be who we are with out fear... and if you need to look up I know for a fact that The Aquarian Tabernacle Church has crossed thier T's and dotted thier I's and I think also the Temple of the Green Cauldron is legally recognised though I am not 100% on that one. But what those incrediable people are and have done is too allow us to practise and be more open about our beliefs. Bieng legally recognised lends far more crdiebitly. Unfortunetly our society requires a governing body for everything, though that can be good because there is then accountabilty. Giving us all an umbrella from which to start from to weather the storm so that we have to oppertunity for true understanding and tolerance of all walks of life. Whether we are Wiccian, Druidic, or any other form of Pagan.

Sarah - posted on 02/03/2010

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I am openly pagan for the most part. I figure i am too old to be worrying about what people think. I do not flaunt though or push my beliefs on anyone else. I am still learning as to what kind of pagan i am so if people have questions i do answer the best that i can. I was raised Catholic and as my mother puts it "It is your responsibility to give your children a foundation on which to stand and fall on, if they choose to change that foundation so be it but at least you gave them a start." So I as a new parent will be teaching her paganism but i am also going to teach her a great tolerance for other people's religions. And if i so happen to be still living in this city when she is school age then she will be attending Catholic school. I do not believe in the public system. I will teach her both faiths at that time and she can choose from there. It is perfect to start tolerance and curiosity in other religions at such a young age, then to expect them to learn or accept the idea when they are older. Like my sister is a born again Christian and believes her children should just choose their religion, which is fine but how do you expect them to do that if you do not show them how before then to have a religion or a belief system. She too is a little over the top at times, but she has come to the conclusion that i am not going to change so she has slowly laid off a little bit. Sadly though i still do get that Christian virtue, preaching, and the what nots here and there at times.

But for now i am left to find my own way and read up on a wiccaning. Society in the bigger cities seems to be alright. But living in the province that i do live in i must not publicly document that i am a pagan or tell certain kinds of people that i am, for it could cause me to perhaps loose any children i have.

Chicory - posted on 11/07/2009

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Im Very VERY proud to be a pagan and i love my religon unfortunatly i cant be open with it any more because of my mother in law my. My husband Ray is very underswtanding and likes to think of himself as a christian witch but his mother is born again christian and very over the top with things so it makes our life easyer to stay in the broom closet I've allready told my husband though that as soon as our daughter is old enough im going to start teaching her our ways

Sheralie - posted on 11/06/2009

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I'm very proud of being pagan and I have no reason to tone that down. I attend public gatherings and I will wear my necklace with pride. I don't shove my beliefs in others faces and I expect the same treatment. I believe in teaching my childrent to be proud of whatever path they choose to follow and to have respect for all of our individual beliefs.

Kathryn - posted on 11/06/2009

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i think i have pretty much stayed the same aside form having med- large groups over to my house, for our nights to talk and share. (most of these people are interested in learning) simply for the fact that my son is a light sleeper. but if it is a small group they still come over to talk. i think that may be the only thing that changed. I will gladly tell anyone that i am pagan, i know my faith and believe in my faith and if others dont like it there is nothing i can do to change it. Yet i do not run down the street screaming it to the Gods.

Krissie - posted on 10/04/2009

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I am very open about it, my children have known since they were little that mommy is a " witch", they are all grown now and my oldest has a 4 year old who i am very proud to say that i was able to do a wiccaning on at the age of 3 weeks old..... it was wonderful, my first husband is still scared of me to this day...lol......i proudly wear a pentagram and have for several years....

Michelle - posted on 09/15/2009

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I am just as open now as I was before my son. There was a point when he was younger that I tried to hide it for a few months but kids are smarter than we think. He asked if we could go over to my "witchy" friends house and play. So my alter moved back into the living room, and my teachings with him about ALL religions became more involved. I believe that he has a right to choose his path, like I have chosen mine.

Katie - posted on 09/14/2009

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I am currently still pregnant, so I can't say how I have or haven't changed since giving birth. I however do not feel that I will change any after giving birth. If I do, I feel that I may be more open. Currently I am somewhat selectivly open. I walk a line depending on the circumstance, if you will.

I live in a very very LDS place, so I'm not someone who is in your face obvious. However, for the most part I do not hide it either. If I know that it will cause a bad reaction, I will usually either tell the person that I am agnostic or avoid the subject entirely. Saying that I am agnostic isn't lying, as I do not follow any set tradition or practice (I'm a mix of shamanism and eclectic). In a place where so very much can be negatively affected by not being LDS, I feel that sometimes it is best to be silent. I do however attend public Pagan celebrations and have been actively attending Pagan Pride Day since I was in high school. I do not hide my jewelry or change my house if company is coming over. My father is wiccan and my mother agnostic. They both know and are accepting of course. As do my siblings and my friends. There are people in my extended family who do not know however, since they are all very very devout LDS and it would cause family problems. They do not know about my father either. I think some people in my life choose to ignore it, and if that helps them then it's fine with me. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs and I know that sometimes the beliefs of others can make people uncomfortable. I hope this makes sense to everyone. It's hard to explain sometimes. Lol.

Jae - posted on 07/07/2009

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I was never pushy about being pagan but I always answered honestly when asked and that has never changed. Some of my daughters friends in our apartment building asked me why I wore my pentacle and I told them I was a pagan. they didnt understand that (we are talking about kids that are like 5 and 6) so I dumbed it down and told them I was a good witch. They were a little freaked but they asked me questions. I dont know if any of them told their parents because they still play with my daughter. I figure if kids are gonna be mean and cruel to my daughter for what her parents believe, then it's a good thing my daughter is also being taught "dont start fights but you can finish them". I am lucky to live in an area of Texas that has a great many pagans and is extremely free spirited. My daughter loves to tell people her mommy's a good witch. it cracks me up but at least she is starting to kinda grasp part of what mommy believes. I am actually going to be bringing her to her first ever Samhein celebration this year!

Taylor - posted on 05/19/2009

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I took my pagan flag down so to speak. I was never very open about it to begin with because when i tried to be all i got was distasteful remarks and werid stares. I still am pagan and always will be i just feel the need to protect my son from the unpleasnt things in life. For all you mothers who can be open, I have nothing but respect and admiration for you because you can do somethng that i can't. keep it going!

Krista - posted on 05/13/2009

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I am openly pagan, but don't bring it up unless it is a relevant situation. I try to open my sons up to being pagan, but do not push it on them either. I would love for them to be pagan, but their spirituality is there choice. I have had already a situation where I believe my son's friends parents have a problem with it and no longer allowed my son over to their house. This was after they asked where we went to church and I told them I was a pagan and a short explanation. So I tell my oldest boy, who is ten, not to tell everyone until he really gets to know them, that they may react negatively. Did I mention, we live in the south, "the bible belt". We even have a phone book that is called "The Cross Reference" It contains only businesses owned by Christians. I think we need a Pagan Pages, he he he he!!!

Jacqui - posted on 04/20/2009

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Very! I am Pagan, it's what I am and what my children are! Especially when children start asking questions, they need to feel secure about their belief system and that there is nothing wrong with it.

Molly - posted on 04/05/2009

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I would say i'm just as open as I was before I became a mom. I see no reason why being a parent should change the way you talk about or display your religious beliefs.

Kimberly - posted on 03/31/2009

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Quoting Kelli:

I agree with the other moms about not flaunting it, but not hiding it either. I think that one of the best ways to teach my daughter confidence is to never act or seem ashamed of who I am and what I believe in. I think we really owe it to the next generation to raise them to have tolerance for all religions.
As for the mother who says "science breeds hate and misunderstanding", please explain. I would genuinely like to know where you are coming from.


Uhm I think she made a typo there. She said "Silence" not "science." If I'm reading it right, anyways.

Kimberly - posted on 03/31/2009

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Nope. Still flying my Pagan flag, as well as my PFLAG Flag high. I'm fairly open about it with everyone. I don't see a reason to hide it. I'm dating a wonderful man who leans toward Shamanism and Druidism and we are planning our wedding with working the Christian side of our family in by having a Christian minister there for their minds. We'd be more than happy with just having a Pagan minister of some form. We are both from the Bible Belt region of Mississippi, so we get a lot of flack, but it's the flacker's loss, not ours. I wear a goddess ring on my left ring finger, a triquatra on a necklace, a claddagh on my right ring finger, and I used to wear a Celtic Cross with a 5 point star on it until the chain broke. My son and any future natural and adoptive kids I have will be raised to seek their own path to god, not the one I follow unless that is their wish. Much to my grandparents and half my other family's dismay. Most of my family is Southern Baptist and Methodist, so I'm rather used to being attacked and having people toss the Bible at me like it's going to convert me just because they believe it will.

Lisa - posted on 03/25/2009

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I have never hid my beliefs, I raised my daughter who is now 17 to follow a pagan lifestyle. Afterall pagan is the following:

pagan - heathen: a person who does not acknowledge your god

pagan - a person who follows a polytheistic or pre-Christian religion (not a Christian or Muslim or Jew)

pagan - hedonist: someone motivated by desires for sensual pleasures

pagan - heathen: not acknowledging the God of Christianity and Judaism and Islam

What is there to hide? We are all unique and have individual beliefs that is what makes us unique. I think some people when they hear pagan automatically refer it to their own idiological beliefs of something that they themselves deam immoral or wrong. Like for instance, I had this neighbor that is Christian. I helped hder family, we were great friends. She found out that I was raised in a Wiccan Religion and practice wicca with pagan beliefs, all of a sudden she said she couldn't be around me because of my "religion" Well I thought I am strongly against the Christian belief but would never act like that. She viewed us as people who stand around performing evil actions and worship the devil, she claimed this is what was preached at her church. This to me proved how gullable and really stupidly closed minded people are.



I refuse to hide. My boyfriend doesnt necessarily agree with my belief, has said his thoughts, but is willing to gain a better understanding of it. This I can work with. I will not change my belief. I infact tried to go to Church (Methodist) I went 2 times and was totally out of my element, It all felt wrong and I had serious issues with what was being said. I did this because my boyfriend was raised Methodist so I agreed to gain an understanding for his belief if he would mine. Any easy compromise right? Well not so easy. I had a hard time walking in and have not returned. I will not.

Does this make me a bad person , does it make a Christian a bad person for their opinion of my beliefs, absolutely NOT! I just don't like the narrow minded, incorrect statements of what we believe

Karen - posted on 03/24/2009

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Being a mom made me want to tell everyone I was pagan! For me it was being in a public profession, social work, that forced me to hide my beliefs from my clients. I think pretty much my entire town knows I'm pagan. I am very active in local organizations, volunteering, project coordinating, etc, and I wear my pagnism on my sleeve. I am often in the newspapers, on the radio, or even on TV for various social justice events. I don't volunteer any information, but I don't hide anything either. We live across the street from a Lutheran church. When my son was 4, he saw the kids outside dancing in Bible School to some song about "washing myself in the blood of the lamb." He wanted to join them dancing, but I freaked out about the lyrics of the song. When he was in kindergarten he told peers that we celebrate Yule for Christmas and he was told he would go to hell. I enrolled him in our local Unitarian Universalist religious education program where they teach about all spiritualities and faith beliefs. Now he proudly tells his friends that "my mom is a witch every day, not just for Halloween." 

Zoe - posted on 02/21/2009

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I've always been open about my religion and i won't stop being proud about my choice even when my baby boy is here.



 In my experiences if you believe in your religion, your choice to practise and worship in that said religion then why should you change on how you act about your religion just because you have had a child?



 I will not be ashamed to let my children know my religion and i shall forever always raise my head up and say 'yes i am Pagan...so what?'

Kelli - posted on 01/23/2009

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I agree with the other moms about not flaunting it, but not hiding it either. I think that one of the best ways to teach my daughter confidence is to never act or seem ashamed of who I am and what I believe in. I think we really owe it to the next generation to raise them to have tolerance for all religions.
As for the mother who says "science breeds hate and misunderstanding", please explain. I would genuinely like to know where you are coming from.

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As a proud Pagan mother of three, I see it as my job to be open about our faith. Sclience breads hate and misunderstanding. So at the time of each of my childrens regestrations at their schools. I provided the schools with a school friendly outline of our pagan faith( at a meeting with the princable at the school) The princable informed me that she would like to add our Wicca to the school calender to make it fair to all faiths attending the school. My children have never had to hide their faith beacouse i reenforced that we are not bad,dirty, or evil people so what the heck are we slient for.

Erin - posted on 01/17/2009

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Never! I want my child to before open to any religion she chooses. To hide who I am would send mixed signals to her. I hope to teach her tolerance of all religions.

Wendy - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hello just found the community and yay! I;m very open i really dont care tbh. I have been pagan for 16 years now and i'm very proud of that fact! My friends understand, my family dont talk about it and random people know react in different ways which is alaways ammusing. I also seem to take great plasure in explaining peoples ignorence to them when they think i'm an evil devilworshiping horrible person. Sorry for the ramblyness (get used to itLOL). Lovely to meet you all will do me self aproper intro thready in a mo.

Blessed be Wendy

Holly - posted on 01/13/2009

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I am open with my family about my beliefs but I will let my children decide what they want to believe in.  My mother in-law is a Die Hard Christian and is the Preschool Director for her church.  My son goes to preschool there.  I started out that way too...I only made up my mind about what I believe in a few years ago. 

Aimee - posted on 01/12/2009

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My husband is in the military so we have moved a lot since we had our daughter.  Also, miliatry people are usually quite conservative so I am careful to a point when talking with his coworkers and their wives.  (I don't know anyone here with kids so that isn't really an issue).  Its more for his sake and theirs than mine, because I don't care what people think, but he has to see them all the time.  However, I don't hide anything and everyone knows I am wiccan.  In fact, one girl I met started getting really interested in Paganism since meeting me and we study it together.  Her and her husband celebrate full moons and holidays with us now.  So while I see why people would hide to a point, I am really glad that I am open with my beliefs even if I don't throw them out there whenever I first meet people.  As I grow in the Craft I become more self confident in expressing my beliefs and hopefully that will continue no matter where we move next.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/09/2009

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I do take caution when it comes to my daughter. I don't go telling everyone I meet but I don't go putting away the altar either  when I have people visiting. I at the moment live in an apartment complex where your bussiness is known. I have a neighboro who knows I am pagan but he never answers questions. He just tells them if you want to know so badly ask her yourself. Alot usually would not ask. One girl fianlly did . I never felt like never answering a question until her. And with just her. Because when she asked me I had this overwhelming urge to just sit her in the house and began the lesson of pagan history and all the different beliefs and so forth and so on to get to the simple yes I am and no I do not whorship the devil I don't kill small animals or childern ................ so all I could tll her was when she was ready to hear and handle the answer I would be here to tell her. My neighboro said I could not have handled her any better. Because no matter what I had said or how else I would have handled it she would have turned it into a three ring event. Other people in the complex know I am pagan. I had a fest for Yule and many of them came and ate. I had books out about the "holiday" so if they were curious they could look it up themselves. It seemed to be the best way to handle it. And they even wished me and my husband happy yule too which really touched me. My neighboro had now helped me set up out door ritual space behind our two apartments that he can use for him and his friends to hangout in when we are not using it. So i have been lucky in this matter. No the girl has not come back to talk to me yet. But as we thought she did put her own spin on everything including that the cats I moved in with or no longer there, used for sacrifice. All three fuzzy kids are doing fine one just turned one in December the next to turn one in May the youngest to turn one in August. But as my neighboro says when he hears this rumor " I guess they just bring back from the dead to just sacrfice them again. It's cheaper that way. " LOL

Elizabeth - posted on 01/07/2009

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I have always been completely open, but not militant.  This year my middle child was in the paper in a picture from the Austin Pagan Pride Day. Her caption was nickname only, but that was a general safety thing not a pagan worry.

Kathy - posted on 01/07/2009

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I've never been 'in your face' pagan since I don't want people to be 'in your face' to me. That said being a mom has made me more cautious. I don't want other kids to take out whatever weirdness they think about me, on my children. I will only discuss beliefs if people start acting like ignorant lunatics and forcing their issues on me.

Leslie - posted on 01/05/2009

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I have never flaunted my paganism though I am actually more open about it now. It's on my facebook and myspace profiles and I am more comfortable telling people. I don't believe I need to hide my true feelings from people and why should I hide my beliefs? Having my son has shown me that I need to be happy and love myself for whom I am, faults included because after all he does.

Renee - posted on 12/26/2008

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I calmed down for a number of reasons. Top reason was because I didn't want to attract unwanted attention. We live in a very small farming community that is predominatly Catholic...I don't need the headache.



The other reason is because I realized how hypocritical I was. I didn't like Christians flying their flag high, letting everyone know they were Christian, so how was I any better? I starting realizing that the best way to change minds was for people to get to know me first and then when the conversation came up about religion and they found out I am Pagan, perhaps it wouldn't be such a shock to they system. I hope they would see that I am a good mom,wife,woman, human being and they would want to ask questions rather than run for the hill, or worse, run to CPS.

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